My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 6'5" (196 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Penpal/Long-term/Dating |
Body type | Athletic build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Do not smoke, but OK if you do |
Drinking | Never drink |
Nickname | Saxjohn, Man, 50 |
Location | London, England, UK |
Looking for a | Woman, aged 18 - 35, Any Ethnicity |
My ethnicity is | White |
Height | 6'5" (196 cm) |
Status | Single |
Seeking | Friends/Penpal/Long-term/Dating |
Body type | Athletic build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Do not smoke, but OK if you do |
Drinking | Never drink |
How would you describe yourself?
Get a cup tea ready...
Seeking heaven on earth here and now and in future.
Ready to settle down and become one with the right person.
Open and ready to answer direct questions with honesty and friendship.
Still learning.
I know how to listen to my heart, head and my soul. Sometimes they argue and I procrastinate. Other times they line up and my life progresses. I'm ready to be someone's life partner, their husband, the father of their children, the reason their parents can relax knowing their daughter is in good hands. My idea of fatherhood is spending enough time with children for them to know their father's values, not spending enough money on the children so they have everything they need. Ideally both, but most important is time and love. And that goes for man and women too.
I'm fourth generation self-employed, and that heritage has informed me to be unconventional & resourceful, to take the initiative and to question authority. Successful in my chosen field (music), but not in love. My work is extremely competitive, I've been continuing my post-grade training for over 10 years in the school of life, opportunity and hard knocks. Being a musician can be amazing, it can be heaven, and it can be awful, and it can be dull. I'm developing opportunities for profitable travelling in such a way as to retain international friendships, and take my future family with me.
I've had a good share of love in my life, starting from my amazing parents, who gave me enough love to love myself forever. They are still together - 42 years married and still loving and working together as a team. I include my partner in my family life and let them meet my friends - its important that our life together grows naturally with the rest of my family (and yours).
I used to subsidise my music income by teaching in Moss Side. I received three death threats, looked down the barrel of a gun in class and lost two students to gang wars, I showed angry young men their potential to learn, and that not all white men are the enemy. I 'bought the T-shirt". Now I'm a lifetime away as a career sideman (a musician who works for bandleaders and music artists). Now, my ambition is to be a successful artist.
Physical: very tall (6'4"), mousey blonde, long face, big features. I was a cute baby!
I've been told I'm handsome, big hearted, fun.
I have a strong physical appetite (yes I eat well ;)
I'm competitive, but I prefer to keep that within games where the rules are clear and everyone has the same objective. I find that playing 'games' with friends or girlfriends can be tiresome, a waste of spirit and energy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some boring old fart... Having fun playing games is great, but its not my way to build a secure friendship.
Ultimately, the only thing we can influence is how we feel - RIGHT NOW...
Every day without love smiles and passion is a day wasted, but sometimes you gotta be diligent to your long-term aims and spend days investing in your future. I like every day to start with some love.
I think its important to match needs with what we have to give. I'm less interested in what you want than what you can give. If its in my character to give what you want then you shall have it in generous helpings without end. Once we know each other better we can "go the extra mile" and make sacrifices because we love each other. In the first instance we should investigate how what we have to offer match up to our needs - emotionally, physically, spiritually, fiscally, intellectually.
Religion is a great combination of spirituality, family, friends, growth, learning, entertainment, reassurance. Unfortunately there's also a bad side to organised religion. I've invested years understanding different faiths by practising them. now my faith is music. Music gives me joy, fulfilment, progress, peace of mind, social pleasure… and it soaks up my spare time and money, just like a religion :-) My faith doesn't discount any other. I think that's the future of religion, and its evident in the development of the christian sects that they have become more open over the centuries. Children deserve a unified spiritual framework, not half of mine, half of yours.
One more thing...
There will be good times and bad times. The trick is to savour the god times, loves each other deeply and sensuously and enjoy every moment. Find an effective and efficient mechanism for dealing with the bad times so the time taken dealing with them is minimised, and you can both get back to being in love.
Now get another cup of tea... And maybe a biscuit...
I need to share my life with:
Someone who knows their mind and is grounded. The better grounded we are the more fun we can have dancing in the clouds.
Please bring something to the table. The more we bring the better time we have. If all you can bring is your body then all you will get is physical. Bring your whole self and we can make dreams come true!
Physical appearance is important - in my career I've had to overcome a personal issue with over-presentation. Now I understand it and expect a date to look their best. An achiever, with good physique, manners, and poise. Someone who makes the most themselves intellectually and physically. Tall is desirable.
Emotionally down-to-earth. Spiritual and open minded - no extremists please. I am inspired by people who know their ambitions, and activity set out to achieve them, even if the ambition is sitting home watching TV! If you're clever then please be intelligent enough to act dumb. We all have 'blonde' moments and only idiots think they're brain power is invincible. Besides, 'blonde moments' can be fun ;)
I feel very fortunate in that both my parents are still a loving team, and I have a good relationship with them both. Unfortunately I have found that my outlook for a relationship is fundamentally different to the outlooks of people with divorced parents or people who do not have a close personal relationship with both their parents. I'm looking to be one half of a team. If that doesn't match your outlook then please be honest and upfront about that. If you don't have a great example of a husband and father figure, you could be excused for wondering where I fit in because I'm unconventional.
Touch is important - one of our 5 senses. If you can't touch your partner, who can you touch? Affection is good.
Someone in touch with their heart and their brain, whose actions match their words, who won't tire of the novelty after a year or two, but will continue to treat their partner like its the last or first day together.
Someone who is being themselves from day one, not just the girl you think I want to meet.
Want to be my life partner, my wife, my angel in public and *fun* in private, the mother of our children, the reason my parents can relax knowing that I can fully settle down with someone who is a real match.
Age doesn't worry me per se. You can be 25 and carrying all the weight of the world on your eyes, or a sprightly 50. I'd like the option of having kids so under 40 would be good, but I really think age is more about outlook, attitude, and lifestyle and a number (maybe thats a sign I'm getting old)
Sorry for the essay, in person you will find me less wordy and all ears.
Don't be scared! Life is good. God wants us to live happily and achieve great things, and we will :-)
I am looking for
I’m not putting a list on here. Get in touch and let’s talk openly and honestly. If you have no sense of humour, or are a liar then my life is too short to involve you, sorry. Everyone else welcome!