We all desire to meet someone. We all dream about falling in love. Most of us think about happily ever after even before meeting the man or woman that makes you tick.
A few years ago, if you would have asked me whether I wanted to get married, a big NO would have accompanied the question. Much as I always wanted to meet the one, I always pictured the perfect romance to be one where me and my better half live with each other, being there for one another till old age without having to legalize the whole thing. I preferred it to remain romantic as opposed to legal.
Anyhow, most people, especially young girls have a perfect picture of their weddings as they grow up.
When you go on a first date with someone and you suddenly click, do you fantasize them as your groom or bride? Do you start playing that perfect wedding on your first perfect date? Does it hurt to be this hopeless fantasy world romantic?
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Comment by yags1 on 11 March 2008:
i really like u my dear am dying 2 see 1day in my life time OOOO LUV UUUUUUUUUU
Comment by fala on 11 March 2008:
No, when I go out on a first date with someone it’s just a date. No long range planning involved.
Comment by mossimo36 on 15 March 2008:
Its only a date unless Fala is involved
Comment by lolopie on 15 March 2008:
Mmm Mossimo, stop playin cats and mouse games with Fala. Be a man an face her and ask for a date. Fala, you are right. This men are not to be trusted.
Comment by lolopie on 15 March 2008:
No offence lol
Comment by party1 on 19 March 2008:
If its a free meal then call it that.If its a “date” you should see some sort of potential before you even go.But thinkin to the extreme is Fatal Attraction or obsessive or just plain crazy.
Comment by HereIamBaby on 23 March 2008:
That is putting the cart before the cart…slow down…enjoy the romance…
Marriage isn’t the ends to the means.
Southern smiles
Sharon
Comment by HereIamBaby on 23 March 2008:
That is putting the cart before the horse…slow down…enjoy the romance…
Marriage isn’t the ends to the means.
Southern smiles,
Sharon
Comment by skyprincess1 on 24 March 2008:
It’s awesome when you find someone you click with on a first date… but planning the wedding before the second date, I personally find a bit extreme, but I can’t pass judgement on others. I am sure there have been people who instinctively knew that this was the person they wanted to spend the rest of their life with after the first date and if I should ever meet someone that made me feel that way, I’m not sure what I would do…maybe call the wedding planner or a therapist????
Comment by fala on 26 March 2008:
I agree completely HereIamBaby. Just enjoy the moment - that is, if you’re date isn’t a total loser or something.
Comment by ethereal99 on 2 April 2008:
I admit, if the date goes really great, I may tend to get carried away. Fanticizin’ doesn’t hurt anyone !
Comment by mossimo36 on 11 April 2008:
Enjoy the moment!….with a loser tho??…ever had to ditch a date like real quick? Not me, but I have thought about it
Comment by blkbeauty31 on 25 April 2008:
Hey There Everyone!
Sometimes I tend to fantasize especially if it went really well! But, I also catch myself and pay attention to how I interact with the person over a period of time. Interaction is the most significant thing now and will be forever. Sometimes because of the butterflies, we tend to ignore conflict until later. The question we want to be concerned about is how “me and this other person address conflict.” Conflict is not bad - its actually important. Does conflict end or enhance once it arises?
Note to all the people REALLY lookin: Pay attention to your interaction for 3-6 dates and look for patterns.
Comment by RIVERFLOWING on 26 July 2008:
First date hmmmmmm. Well when i go on a first and if I had a good time. I afterwards am thinking of is there a futuer with this person or is it gonna be a good friendship. Now I must admit if the date goes well there might be a lil tease to my cerabellum sayin “what if………” , but then i kinda smile to myself and say “it’s just a first date” I do admit I am a hopeless romantic and yes I do engage into thought of wedding bliss,but it’s never of the person Im on the first with.
Comment by homesteader on 2 January 2009:
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