People just love swearing. They swear when they are mad: “Get out of my $#@%ing space you $#@%!� And when happy: “That meal was $#@%ing great� And some of us just swear for the kick of it – in between words; “God$#@%ingdamnit!� But is cursing a colorful language? Does it add color to whatever we are expressing?
In our fast-paced culture, people want information and things (good or bad) to move at the speed of a bullet. And more often than not, the shortest distance between two points is the F word. Swearing has proved to be extremely efficient. Cursing cute to the heart of issues and even the heart of the one you are having issues with. So is it really efficient or plain old offensive?
Well most people do admit that much as swearing and cursing may accomplish a lot, when it comes to dating and relationships, you gotta proceed with caution. One guy I went out with broke up with me (okay $#@%ing dumped me) after I rattled off words best way I know how. Much as we may be used to using the F word or S word in our normal conversations, when having an argument with your spouse, these words come out offensive … even when offensive wasn’t the reaction we were looking for.
But what you do to those $@#%s who, even after using appropriate language with them, nothing changes? Is it ok to hurl a heap of expletives at them? Problem is, sometimes the hurling don’t get things done but it kinda releases tension in you and you actually feel fan-$#@%ing-tastic.
We don’t always have to apply swearing to anger only. It can be powerful to accentuate the positive. Not long ago, my boyfriend bought me this very sexy dress. And I didn’t feel saying it was beautiful fully conveyed what I felt so instead I offered: “It’s the most $#@%ing sexy dress I have ever $@#%ing seen!� Much as I swore, he knew that my appreciation was truly from the heart.
Finally, they say swearing is unladylike. True. But when I am with the boys, I do it coz it makes me sound like one of the guys – which is great – as long as you don’t also act like them and start scratching 
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Comment by cocokisses on 6 December 2007:
Cursing is a part of Americana. I can even curse in French
Let’s just say that saying “Kiss my a**” in french sound oh so sexy…LOL!
Comment by fala on 7 December 2007:
I’m trying to cut back on my cursing. Everybody at work laughs when I say stuff like holy shiite muslim! and are you freakin’ kidding me? (done with my best Tony Soprano accent). We even have a contest where people come up with the most creative substitutions for curse words.
Comment by jmal on 7 December 2007:
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Comment by cocokisses on 7 December 2007:
That’s pretty cool Fala. Instead of the “F” word, I say fudge. My daughter always gives me a look when I do. I tell her that I didn’t say it, but yesterday she said “no, but you thought it”. My response? Shut the (heck) up…LOL!
Comment by Sakary on 8 December 2007:
Swearing is for people who have limitations with their vocabulary …
Comment by fala on 8 December 2007:
What the *&%!#! are you people talking about???
Comment by mossimo on 9 December 2007:
Gosh darnit Fala!!
Comment by fala on 9 December 2007:
Gee willikers Mossimo. Keep talking like that and you’re going straight to H E double toothpicks!
Comment by ethereal99 on 10 December 2007:
Coco, I’d love to hear you cuss, errr, speak French !
Comment by wellhowdy on 15 December 2007:
It is amazing about swear words and language. Up until a few years ago, I thought only Americans living in America use certain words. I thought Africans have swear words but they are different.
I knew there were many English speaking countries in Africa but I still thought their language would be different as it relates to swear words. I was ignorant or fooled. After speaking to many women in Nigeria, Kenya, South Africa and other countries I have found out that they all know the F word, and they all speak the same as any American. Many of them describe their body parts without using the King or Queens British/ English. But, I have found out that most Africans are more articulate than Americans when it comes to writing. I am basing that on years of conversing with African women.
Those are only my opinions and I mean no harm or offense to anyone.
Comment by lisa on 16 December 2007:
to wellhowdy…it all depends on that person’s education.
Comment by wellhowdy on 16 December 2007:
To Lisa,
Since I do not know if you are addressing my comment as it relates to swearing or does it relate to writing ability- I will comment on both of those.
When it comes to someone swearing and the education of the person, I have heard women ( American or African) with advanced university/college degrees swear just as much as someone who has little or no education.
As far as writing ability, I have worked with many educated Americans who have a writing ability that could substantially improve. (I am no English teacher). I have spoken to ( through e-mails) many women from Africa. The African women with the college degrees on the whole, communicate much better than Americans. I have also spoken to some African women who dropped out of high school. Some of them ( not all) lack writing ability and sometimes I do not completely understand what they are saying.
Comment by moxy12 on 17 December 2007:
Usually, people who come from other countries are taught standardize english rather than slang. Therefore,most of the university educated will speak proper english. Also, most of those people come from a middle or higher economic class.
Comment by homesteader on 16 March 2009:
Dog Nab it , speak louder Kant hear you . Which corner is yours’ ?
Comment by JulieUK on 18 September 2009:
Proverbs 14:29; 29:11 “He that is slow to anger is abundant in discernment, but one that is impatient is exalting foolishness. All his spirit is what a stupid one lets out, but he that is wise keeps it calm to the last.”
Comment by JulieAnnUK on 18 September 2009:
Using bad language e.g the “F” word etc is rude, vulgar, desecrating and disrespectful
Comment by homesteader on 18 September 2009:
JulieAnnUK :
It also shows a sign of lower Intelligence .
Comment by salsera77 on 18 September 2009:
Aye Chiwawa! Ok, I’ll add to the whole rigamorole.
Pick & substitute some of my alternatives, if you like.
Ridiculous
Asinine
Nonsense
Ludicrous
Baloney
Absurd
Drivel
Whole lot of Hooey
Rubbish
Crud
Poppycock
Preposterous
Frick and Frack
Off-color
Crap
That’s a bunch of Bunk, hokum, gobblelygook, drivel
Balderdash
Gibberish
Hogwash – but make sure you are not a big person If you say it
Ill-conceived
Cock-eyed
horsefeathers
rigmarole
Punked
(You, he, she, they, that) is/are – touched, batty, dense, bizarre, Imbecile, doofus, lamebrain
Macabre, Comatose, lethargic, idiotic, boffo, loony, screwy, Forrest-Forrest Gump, Grotesque
Take it to the potty
lethargic
Outlandish
a scream
unnatural
surreal
unwarranted
un-called for
Mickey Mouse = chump change = paltry
insipid = tasteless
trifling
bufoon
pointless
Darn
Blasted
Aye Chiwawa
For Pete’s Sake
Debunk it
Sheet, shiite (from site usage,
otherwise known as _____)
Bullmarlarky…
Cheese and rice
Yeah that makes sense….(dripping with sarcasm)
Frickety doo da
Son of a buscuit