I am busy minding my business having my glass wine and beside me, a group of loud hard-to-ignore, obviously inebriated women heatedly discussing their sex lives. Apparently, they are all married and their sex lives are not only boring but downright disastrous. And the weird bit about it is, they blame it on their husbands. Last year, a study showed that 70% of the married women in the U.S. are not happy with their sex lives and literally avoid their husbands’ advances.
Lately, everywhere I go, sex seems to be the preferred topic of discussion, especially among married women. Women too want great sex. And when they aren’t complaining about it, they are advising each other on how to make it better. Women labor so much at spicing their sex lives up… reading about sex, visits to sexologists … Sex has become a subject that just won’t rest in today’s society. And some tend to believe that working on their sexual performance is the key to keeping their spouses on a leash and saving marriage.
But even after all the lessons and the spicing up, some spouses still remain unfaithful. Which makes me wonder, is sex in marriage worth laboring for? Does this mean sex has nothing to do with a spouse’s infidelity?
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Comment by allikat on 22 July 2009:
i think one of the biggest things that contribute to the spouses infidelity is honesty and trust, sharing something with that person that you can’t share with anyone else. sex in general cannot keep a person “on a leash.” but then there is the question of why you want to, when men feel like they have no freedom they like to rebel…give them a little room, not too much..lol…just enough to make them realize they want and need you. and acting a like a pornstar in the bedroom doesn’t hurt either.lol
Comment by Nandi on 22 July 2009:
The statement “keep on a leash” is offensive…Any human being you have to keep on a leash, you should have some pride and self-respect and let them go….
People cheat because they want to and because there are so many people willing to cheat with them….
It is a falsehood for women to think if they turn themselves into a freak or a porn star, he will not stray…Wrong…He will because, he wants to…Some people cheat just for the thrill of the sneek and chase.
Adults should be able to talk sex with their partners, I wouldn’t spend majority of my time, thinking of ways to please him; especially if my sexual needs are not being met.
I never been the girlfriend pow-wow group talking person, (do not like being called girlfriend neither) so I do not get the point of those discussions. Plus a relationship is between two people, not three and a gang of girlfriends…
However, when you need to find a leash, let him go…
I think nothing is more sad than for a woman to discount herself…As I watched Gov. Sanford, display his affections for his mistress, calling her his soulmate and that he loved her (all of which was very disrespectful to his wife) He did not have to go on TV and go that in depth about his feelings for his mistress…He stated that he wanted to go to counseling to fall back in love with his wife…And he wife is willing and wanting for that day to come…She shouldn’t have said, well who is going to help me fall back in love with you and why do I want to do that.
Because majority of the time, we you need to find a leash, attempt to save what is more than likely damaged beyond repair…You really need your own exit plan. No doubt some relationship can survive infidelity, however the majority do not…So get to know yourself, your desires and needs..There is always something to learn from breakups.
Comment by aliekatt2 on 22 July 2009:
I think you should start a thread of Have you ever accidentally dialed while having sex and got your parents!!! Lmao, this happened to my girlfriend hahahaha.
Or dialed anyone else for that matter. I could not stop laughing.
Comment by WHURR on 23 July 2009:
“Men who cheat..”" Blah Blah Blah
WOMEN WHO CHEAT…hmmmm
Lots of babies getting tested for DNA reasons and child support reasons. The dudes get their walking papers when its proven its not theirs.
How did that happen??
Its always the dudes cheating?
Totally off topic I know, but I hate hearing that.
My #1 rule : Women are just better at cheating because they know how to shut their mouth.
Comment by homesteader on 24 July 2009:
Darn ria ;
I do knot make any opinions in my mind while try ing to understand this question .
Those that talk about it / are waste Ting time they could be Enjoying make King Love .
Love is how Great one makes their partner Feel .
Knot how they complain to others / about their shortcomings pleasing the mates .
They have chosen / It takes two to make it work .
Comment by homesteader on 24 July 2009:
Sex without Love is just Sex . Ladies who are on the phone calling others while attempting to make Love / Need to put their hands and Minds to better use [ aliekatt2 ].