Meeting your online date offline for the first time? After being chat buddies all that time, you may think you know someone. And since both of you clicked online, you don’t want anything to go wrong. You prepare and obsess about making everything perfect. You plan the entire conversation. You even take the afternoon off just to make sure you look stunning.
After all the planning and the pleasing and the entertaining responsibility you have loaded on yourself, you realize one thing… you are not having a good time. The spark that the two of you had online isn’t there offline… Nothing… Zilch… Nada…!
Are you the scared of confrontation type, the kind to hatch an elaborate escape plan like climbing out of the loo window? Or are you the kind that lays it on the table… “Hey this aint working�? Do you try date number 2… see how things go then? However you choose to do it, be gentle so as not to wreck someone’s ego. Coz some of our offline buddies cross enough oceans and borders for this offline date.
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Comment by Well on 25 May 2007:
No matter what people say, it almost always boils down to chemistry. No matter what happens on line the off line meeting is chemistry based. Believe me, I know that.
Comment by laugh_sailor on 25 May 2007:
I have fround several nice friends, this way and have had a great time with them, while being considerate and honest. Often, there’s a lot to appreciate about someone and communicating that is a complimentary, gentle way to let them know I’m not attracted to them.
Comment by Cocokisses on 26 May 2007:
Well stated Laugh Sailor!
Comment by mossimo on 28 May 2007:
Gotta have the sparks!! Its hard to tell someone in person that it just is not there. Just be kind, I suppose.
Comment by Cocokisses on 30 May 2007:
Mossimo,
I was kind to someone recently from this site, and he had a fit. He was rude to me, not to mention the fact that he didn’t take rejection well. I was still nice to him, but as adults, it could have been handled better on his end. Even when you are kind, it sometimes backfires if the person can’t deal with the fact that you just aren’t into them.
Comment by seekhonesty on 30 May 2007:
I think you should be just who you are both offline and online. Meet in a public place, and if there isnt anything there, end the date and move on, we are under the impression we have to explain why we dont want to be with someone. This is our only life, and if you are on here to truly find your mate, then be honest with yourself about what it is you do not want and what you do want. Then never settle for less. I think the person will have alot more respect for you if you treat them in this manner.
Comment by fala on 1 June 2007:
You can’t know anyone for sure, until you meet in person. People can pretend to be anything online but once you see them face to face - you gotta go with your gut instincts.
Comment by mossimo on 23 June 2007:
Good point Fala!
Comment by sharismiles on 24 June 2007:
Well, I am finally going to meet someone from this site in person. He will be the first man I’ve met from AR. He’s coming to San Antonio to meet me for the 4th of July holiday. We met in January on this site and feel we are ready for this meeting. Chemistry online and over phone is great, but we each say to the other, “In person is the best test!” I’ll keep you posted on our first date…
Comment by Dayo on 20 October 2007:
Looking for love
Comment by Takeila on 10 August 2008:
Well I haven’t met anyone offline yet. I am kind of afraid to I guess. I don’t want it to end up being someone else. So I always ask for more pictures. I am also afraid that some guy will think he is in love at first site. I haven’t even met some of these guys on here and after one message. They are planning their whole lives with me!@# Lol. I just don’t want anything to go wrong so I am waiting patiently for that right one. Hope I find him soon because I don’t want to be on here too long. I have to get over my fear though!
Comment by smiletellsit on 26 September 2009:
Phew. These guys! Problem would be that guys want a fantasy in women and they aren’t that themselves. They think they’re letting the women down, but forget the women aren’t really into them either. Think it’s just a defense mechanism of their denial of rejection.
If you are into the content of someone’s character, then you’re in good shape, offline or online.