Ever wondered why husbands keep mistress? Ever been in a position where your boyfriend cheats on you and you wonder what you did to push him away? I once had a chance to talk to a friend of mine who is a ‘kept woman’
Correct me if am wrong but according to this long-serving mistress, most women or wives for that matter, nag, sulk and feign headaches to get a man to change his ways or do something for them. Simply put, women are the ones that push men to the other women and they NEVER realize their role in sending their men running to mistresses.
But there are numerous, easy and less stressful ways of getting your man have your way. These are timeless techniques known and practiced by mistresses. Here are a few tips from my super mistress… the ones she uses to keep your men flocking to her 
1) Men respond more to recognition and praise more than they respond to sex so never take your man for granted. A man always wants to be the centre of a woman’s universe.
2) Sex Strikes so don’t go crossed legged on him. Stop with the headaches, learn new techniques. See a sex educator and learn to please him
3) Just like you can train a circus animal, so can you train a man. Reward him for every good deed. If he doesn’t do things right, don’t runt, nag or rave, ignore it.
Women, do we really push our men or are they just drawn to other women by their own lustful desires?If we stop the nagging, feigning headaches and sulking will it chain the man to you?
Truth or Crapola?
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Comment by Cocokisses on 19 May 2007:
Oh no…this is not for me! I like knowing that all the “things” that I have, I worked very, very hard for. What will they have when they are 50 or 60 years old? Nothing but a used up body and no money to fall back on!
Comment by RayneDelay on 19 May 2007:
I think this is true but you have to understand that if men do not have a challenge they will treat you like a doormat. You have to set limits, yet give praise when he does something good. Like you would a puppy or child. I don’t think anyone likes to go home to anyone who is loaded with disapproval and nagging. Men have to do their part as well. Stay clean between the legs and we women will love to go down on you. Smell good all over and don’t forget to wash your ass and feet too. Be attentive to women we respond well to that. Don’t ask annoying and inappropriate questions that you would not want us to ask of you. And women will feel more comfortable with you. Never tell your woman she is fat or gaining weight. That will put you in the “not now honey I have a headache” category. Because women are very sensitive to their weight and will NOT have sex with you if they think you don’t like how they look physically. Give and take people. And last but not least STOP THE BABBLE ABOUT NOTHING! This applys mainly to women, whom seem to think that men are their best girlfriends. Men don’t give a shit about your new blouse or new shoes. Damn. And men, shut the hell up the last think a woman likes is a yaking man who goes on an on about what they want to do, and then we see nothing. Just do it. And stop telling us who you slept with. We don’t need to know that you dated a girl who lived in the same building once upon a time. UGH! Turn the damn cell phone off when you are on a date or having dinner, walking down the street holding hands. It kills the mood.
Comment by Cocokisses on 20 May 2007:
Wow Rayne! Now tell us how you REALLY feel…LOL!
Comment by fala on 20 May 2007:
Wow! Strong words from Rayne.
Comment by beauty007 on 21 May 2007:
I don’t always understand it but, I do think men thrive in relationships when they are praised often. I think they are hungry for attention and a lot of them do things in order to please their spouse, girlfriend, companion.
I don’t believe in being another persons door mat but, even I wouldn’t mind being on the recieving end of #s 1,2 & 3. I would certainly want to give the man I care about less nagging and more nurturing.
Comment by Lucy Dee on 21 May 2007:
No sure I agree with the “kept woman” theory. Why even make a ‘commitment’ if you need someone on the side?
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Comment by fala on 21 May 2007:
That’s a good point Lucy Dee.
Comment by Got the T-shirt on 22 May 2007:
I am a 35 year old man and have had 4 major relationships.
I can tell you that most of that is the truth. I struggled in several relationships where women used sex as a weapon or tool. I was so totally committed because the mental picture was damn near perfect that I resigned myself to the fact I would just suffer.
5 years later and much much poorer for the experiance, I realized that she really didn’t love me. I have pretty much turned into the good boy gone bad.
While I still enjoy doing for my woman, I will no longer treat them like a princess if they even start to hint that they have a headache. I realized that I am a good man and that while they deserve to be respected, they also have a job in the relationship. Its tit for tat nowadays. And with the overpowering number of women to men, I can always find another, even if I don’t want to.
If a woman were to remember rules #1,2, and 3. I would never have to look again. I am not saying be a doormat, but remember that most (good) men will always want to please you. If you treat them badly, you will push them right into someone else who will. Just ask my ex-fiance. After 5 years and it was over she realized she really did love me, but by then it was too late to repair the damage. Right now shes still wondering if she will ever find another good man.
And yes, Rayne is right. Men need to learn a few things also. Cleanliness, shaving, and minding our manners are probably among the most important things we need to learn. There is “honesty” and there is “common sense,” learn the difference.
Comment by Beck on 22 May 2007:
Why does the term”kept woman” sound ok….but “kept man”sounds terrible?!Millions of women are “kept”, financially and otherwise,but it seems to be a terrible crime for a man to be supported, subsidised,whatever.Its the way our society is at the moment.It is the age of the female,where women can say and do what they want,and are above criticism.Remember that,if the trappings of 21st century civilisation are stripped away,women are females,and as such are accustomed to being the centre of attention,and see everything only from their own perspective.Perhaps thats why “kept woman” doesnt sound so bad as “kept man” !
Comment by misteeq on 22 May 2007:
Sure i am going to take this article serously ,the author went to a kept womanto base this storie.Let me get this i am suppose to take advice from somebody who has no self respect of themselves.Give me a break ,iWILL PASS THANK YOU
Comment by CleverChaos on 24 May 2007:
well ladies and gents, it seems the things you won’t do for or with your mate, the next man or woman will.
Comment by seekhonesty on 30 May 2007:
I would think first of all, that it should not matter if things in your relationship are not good at the time. You are supposed to love someone unconditionally, not just when its convienient. If you truly love someone, your the first thing you should do is try to figure out what your part in it is and see what you can do to make it better, not just for them but for you as well. Anything worth having takes work. Hopefully, your man is a man and knows if the kept woman is okay with the fact you are married or in a relationship, they are no kind of a woman. I dont care what excuse a guy gives you to be his mistress, if you cared about yourself, you would never do such a thing because karma is a mother.
Comment by mossimo on 31 May 2007:
Wise words Cleverchaos. There is always someone else who is willing to do what we won’t. We all have to ask, how much are we willing to do to keep this person. Or is it a dead end relationship? I would prefer to give willingly and make a good thing last a lifetime.
Comment by Jade74 on 14 June 2007:
Very good comment CleverChaos (CC).So very true.
Comment by sanelva on 17 June 2007:
if my man aint doing what i want what i say or how i want it he can simply do what ever he wants he sure aint gonna get nothing from this mami you got to deserve it thats how i work lol
Comment by mossimo on 18 June 2007:
Good article, thanks for posting!!
Comment by kimelodi on 1 April 2008:
I feel in general that people ultimately do what they want to do. The cowards are the ones that say she/he pushed me into the arms of someone else instead of saying that they just wanted someone else and didn’t want to fight anymore to work on the relationship. The grass isn’t greener, we should have all learned that by now. Everyone has their own set of problems. My relationships are just as much about me being the right person as it is about finding the right type of person. If you do all that you can and love the way that you want to be loved, live with no regrets. Count these cheaters as a loss, cause what has the other person gained, a cheater. lol, Just my two cents.
Comment by ebonedoll on 1 August 2008:
I am going to be “odd chick out” here..lol!
I agree with the cleanliness stuff. I think that should be a no brainer, but apparently it isn’t.
I don’t agree with not telling your lover about weight. Less face it. People get comfortable in relationships. Unfortunately that means gaining weight, not dressing as we did, and pretty much just plain old not being the person that our lover fell in love with. If someone is loosing their appeal…say so.What is worse, you knowing you have gained weight, or someone just telling you?
Women love to talk about how “kept women”don’t have to put up with the mans other issue…cooking..cleaning. But, our fault!!! We need to have stated what we will put up with in a relationship!
I look at it this way. A kept woman is in the relationship for whatever it is she is gonna get out of it. Whether it be sex…a house payment, a car payment or whatever. I ain’t mad at ya!!!! But I know how I keep myself. If my man wants to sit with another female that is his option. He won’t be with me straight up.
I don’t give second chances.