9 months, 5 dating profiles, 0 dates. Is she an online dating failure?
"I expected life after college to be hard... However, I did not expect that my dating life would be this difficult," writes Patrice Bendig, Philadelphia-based writer. "Online dating has made me feel more alone and rejected than ever... For the life of me, I cannot get a date. Just typing that sentence stung."
Patrice Bendig 25, spent 9 months on 5 of the most popular dating sites known to most of us. And in return: Not even a single date came out of it.
The thing is: She isn’t weird or anything; let’s begin with the fact that she is a Philadelphia-based writer living in a metropolitan neighborhood. "As a writer and a marketer, it should have been almost effortless to create a dazzling dating profile. No awkward pick-up lines, or reading between the lines," she says. And having read her article and seen her pictures, she is cute; her online bio seemed great to me. And you would think that it would be easy for her to meet men.
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"Over a span of a week, I reached out to 10 different guys, crafting short but thoughtful messages. Radio silence followed," says Bendig. "Determined, I scoped out more matches, reached out and waited for a bite. Nope -- it ended up being another round of rejections. So really, it was like being shot down by 20 consecutive times. Twenty men that were perfect for me based on my personality and interests were not interested in me even though I "looked" and "sounded" my best. Even at my best I was not desirable. To someone who struggles with self-esteem issues on an hourly basis, this was a kick in the gut."
So what really went wrong?
Well, Bendig admits to have received two messages from men that were not her type and none from those she felt were her match. I have no idea whether she contacted these men. Maybe this was why she never got a date out of it because she was quick to write them off as "not her type".
"I was positive switching out profile photos, having my best friend pen a wittier "about me" summary and broadening my "match" settings would make a world of difference to potential suitors." Well that didn't do it either.
What do you think was putting off all these eligible bachelors? Does this make her a dating failure? Is something wrong with her? Are there people here who share in her experience?
Well follow link and read her interview about her online dating calamities and share your thoughts, comments and experiences.
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