Are our interracial attractions all about race and racial stereotypes?
I know it doesn’t really matter who one dates. You can’t help who you fall in love with right? That the race of our prospective mates doesn't matter. But is it really this simple?
One thing I have noticed on most dating sites is that most interracial daters spend their every waking moment searching for a spouse of a particular race: Black woman looking to date a white man; White man interested in Asian women only!
I am pro interracial dating 100% but sometimes I sit and wonder whether some of us are just close-minded people hiding under the "you cant help who you fall in love with" line while in reality, our reasons for dating that particular race are purely based on stereotypes about that racial group. For instance, here is a Black guy who only dates Hispanic women because they know how to treat men. But if asked whether he can date a White woman or a Black woman who has similar qualities, the answer is a clear NO! What does that say about interracial dating? What does that say about people who only check one box when answering the question about the preferred race of the spouse they are searching for on interracial dating sites?
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Is it possible to explain why you are attracted to particular race without bringing race into it… without sounding superficial… without using racial stereotypes to back your attraction? Would you give someone from a race you don’t ‘fancy’ a chance if you knew they possess great qualities?
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