Are you being manipulated in the name of love?
So you like doing stuff for your partner, believing its out of love. Are you sure someone isn’t subtly pulling your strings?
You might argue you are doing stuff for your partner simply because you are caring and affectionate, but your friends don’t see it that way. And as soon as you step out of the room, they start giving each other that look that says, your partner has you exactly where he or she wants you.
Sad thing is, this manipulation is so subtle and gradual that you don’t even realize this. And gradually, you find yourself doing stuff that even in your wildest dreams; you never ever thought you would like leafing through Cosmopolitan with other women while your wife gets her nails done.
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When it gets here, you definitely know you have become your partner’s official messenger. So quit dealing the ‘I am just a caring person’ card. And if you stopped buying your own clothes or choosing what you wear to work or for a weekend with the gals or boyz, you are totally screwed.
And if you decide to cut your day at the spa short just coz he’s called, or leave the football match you love so much and run to be with her, they we both know who is running the show.
Stop being an ATM machine or the washing machine for that matter. Before you met your partner, didn’t they used to get things done like bills or clothes, or whatever is it you are being a slave of? If you cannot make a decision without your spouse’s approval, you are done for. If a friend you haven’t seen for years calls you and invites you for a drink, the most natural answer should be a mighty YES!! But if you have to check with the person running the show to see if he or she has anything planned, you are worse than a man who carries his woman’s handbag.
Dating or married, you still are an individual. You are entitled to have different interests. If your spouse commits you to events without asking just because experience has taught him or her you won’t protest, that’s a wake up call! You have been sat on.
If after reading this you feel trapped, relax. Good news is, your spouse probably treats you like royalty, otherwise, it would not make much sense for you to go to such lengths to please someone who doesn’t treat you well. Chances are, you feel more appreciated. Good begets good. So your pals may make fun of you; bottom line is, you are probably a happier person where it matters most.
However, that doesn’t change the fact that someone has you wrapped around their little finger … you’re whipped!!!
So between men and women, who have PhDs in making their partners do their bidding? Which sex excels in the manipulation game?
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