Chronic pyjama wearing good for relationships?
Familiarity in relationships: Is it good (signifying intimacy) or bad (complacency)
Some new poll claims romance lasts exactly two years, six months and 25 days. After this, couples stop trying and start wearing their night gowns during the day, leaving dirty laundry lying on the floor and disregarding their wedding anniversary.
Is this kind of untidiness what we call maturity?
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Well, John Sewell, spokesman for One Poll, the organization that conducted the poll points out that this kind of comfort is a type of intimacy, as a relationship advances from the honeymoon phase to a more settled-in partnership. Apparently, if you are comfortable enough to let your man see your make up free face, you are in the mature stage of your relationship where trying too hard to impress your partner becomes a thing of the past.
In his song "Comfortable", singer John Mayer agrees. It has lyrics like: "I loved you/grey sweat pants, no makeup/so perfect."
There is so much comfort in knowing that he wont break up with you coz you wore some tattered lingerie to bed or have smelly feet. That is the upside. However, getting too much into your comfort zone can turn into boredom and complacency, making a couple miss out on the romance and excitement of the new relationship.
We know everyone loves to relish the intimacy of a long-term relationship but try and fins a middle ground. Don’t be too comfortable to the point of not being able to enjoy the mystery and energy of a new relationship. Try finding a balance between feeling comfortable and taking each other for granted.
Are things too comfortable with your partner? Do you think familiarity is good for relationships? How much is acceptable? How do you do to keep romance alive?
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