Dating profiles - do we leave out too much?
When you meet someone for the first time, there is the getting-to-know-each-other conversation… ‘I like movies’ ‘what kind of movies’… ‘well, I am into the action packed kind of movies’.
When writing your online dating profile, you get to notice “I love movies and dancing᾿ on peoples profiles. Question is what kind of movies? What kind of music makes you run to the dance floor? These are the kind of questions most readers need answered… I am always left guessing.
Much as it may seem obvious, I know how hard it is sometimes to forget that you are writing your profile to an audience know nothing about the subject you are writing about – YOU. I don’t know if this has ever crossed your mind but in a lot of profiles I have perused through, its like people seem to almost write in code. It’s kinda like they are writing for themselves without clarifying potentially ambiguous points about themselves.
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When you are writing about yourself, you are creating a subject you know a lot about hence it’s easy to forget to fill in the details you think are pretty obvious. Apparently, these details we skip aren’t as obvious as we assume to the person who is going to read your profile. While sometimes it’s OK to not over-elaborate (for example explaining what type of music pop is) some things may require a bit more detail to be properly understood.
Saying you are into “travel᾿ would not make you stick out from the crowd and will certainly not tell your readers that much about you. So you enjoy travel but one person’s idea of the perfect holiday could be another person’s total nightmare. What is obvious to you (’travel᾿ meaning adventure travel to exotic places or “dancing᾿ meaning ballroom dancing for example) may be completely misunderstood by others unless you elaborate.
Let’s not forget that profiles are not like a two-way conversation where the other person gets to ask questions if they want more details. That is why when filling out your profile, there are options for questions like “Do you smoke?᾿ – daily, occasionally and never. Think about all the things you would like to know about your potential mate and address such issues when writing about yourself.
Do you think online dating profiles should be made more elaborate or should people maintain some certain level of mystery to arouse curiosity?
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