Do opposites really attract?
Study finds they don’t … at least not in the long run.
According to this new study, when it comes to personality, much as people claim to want someone who is different, they look for partners with same qualities as their own. After 760 members of an online dating site answered questionnaires regarding their personal traits and those of ideal long term partners, the answers showed a preference for someone with similar personality.
A previous study done by the University of Iowa also supports the above stating that a similarity in personality is more important in building a happy marriage than similarities in religion, values and attitude.
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The new study however found that despite the personality correlations, 85.7% of the participants claimed to want someone with opposite personality traits. This may have been influenced by the common theory that opposites attract and that a similar partner would be boring. Pieternel Dijkstra, lead researcher of the study and a professor at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands says: "When asked about their preferences for a mate, people may partially draw upon lay theories of romantic attraction rather than their true desires for a mate."
People do feel attracted to dissimilar partners. The sparks that fly usually feel inextinguishable. Unfortunately these sparks between opposites often do not blossom into serious relationships. And when they do, such relationships often end prematurely.
Do you believe relationships between people with dissimilar personality traits can work in the long run or that similar partners have a much bigger chance of making it? Do you think people subconsciously search for common ground or opposites? In your relationships, how has this worked (or not worked) for you?
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