Do you have to write back if not interested?

Posted by Ria, 24 Jan 12

responding to online datersHe wrote you an email saying how he likes your profile and would like to know you better. But since you didn’t feel him, you figured, why bother. Then came the second email demanding to know why you didn’t write back; one that you also ignored. Problem is: this one was followed by an annoying and offensive email… sh**ting you for not responding.

See, this happens to a lot of online daters. Some people just can't take silence for an answer. They take offense and find it super rude when their emails and flirts go unanswered. But if I am not interested, do I owe everyone who contacts me an explanation of why I don’t feel them… even when I have none - other than just not feeling them?

Does this mean you have to reply to each and every email and flirt just to appear polite and avoid some hate mails cramming your inbox?

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  1.   redrose420 says:
    Posted: 01 May 12

    i at least send a no thanks reply.......but if u dont take the effort to put at least one picture up just for others to see who they typing with than dont expect me to reply......

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  2.   Ybalys says:
    Posted: 02 Feb 12

    None the less you have the best manners, And have a great sense of humor! But also, really handsome! fiuuuu... why of why on-line-dating-God do you live so far away from NY :(

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  3.   stanley13 says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 12

    I think not responding is rude, but that's MY opinion so don't get your panties in a wad... How would you feel if you went through all you emails and thought you found the one you wanted but they didn't respond? Now you know how the person on the other end of that email you ignored feels. It's so funny how we complain that we get so many emails and can't find time to answer them, but then the ones we do answer doesn't do enough to get us off this site, so why not try living outside the box....You noticed how much power you feel you have when you're on the other end of a computer by saying and doing the things you do? Online dating has made it easy for a person to be rude to others, because they feel so safe at home...can't wait until they come out with a system to locate a person then we will see how bold we really are...lol. It's coming, so you better find a new way of hiding...

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  4.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan 12

    I think it's rude not to reply to an email that someone sends you. I believe being courteous enough to say I'm not interested good luck with your search goes a long way. Not responding is just like walking off from someone who is speaking to you or not answering the person when they are calling your name. How would you feel if someone walked off while you were speaking or ignored you when said goodmorning. If you are that kind of person on the street and in your everyday life, then you shouldn't be dating anyway.

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    • scandiblond says:
      Posted: 26 Jan 12

      bigeyes31. Just my way of thinking. Also if someone has the guts to tell you what they found was wrong ,you might learn something and improve your self. :-)

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      • bigeyes31 says:
        Posted: 30 Jan 12

        @ scandiblond yes , you are right. We all need feed back. How else will we grow.

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    • gurlwunder says:
      Posted: 30 Jan 12

      That would be rude on the street face to face but this is not the case. I really don't want to know why you are not interested in me, just the fact that you are not interested is enough right there. On the other side of the coin. I get alot of messages, if I responded to everyone, even the ones I don't want, I'd be typing all day. Take my silence as a hint and keep it moving. It's nothing to get offended by. I've ignored some messages and been ignored. I don't take it personally. No one owes me anything.

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      • bigeyes31 says:
        Posted: 02 Feb 12

        I get get many messages and flirts as I'm sure EVERYONE does and it takes me a couple of days to send courteous "good luck with your search" responses. Being courteous doesnt mean you have to sit at your computer all day but I guess it just goes back to who you are and what you as person believe is courteous. It's really not a matter feeling that someone owes another person something, just what a person feels is their own personal duty . To each his own.

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  5. Posted: 25 Jan 12

    Well, it all depends on the exact content of the mail. If someone writes to you saying they like you and u should respond if interested, i guess the silence tells the person what they should know while some would just want to get to know you better and leave compliments, then you can just send a mail saying thanks for the mail out of courtesy, But really, everyone should just learn to take the hit and move over if there are no replies, its not compulsory, anyways why would you even want someone sending you a mail explaining wht they dont want you??????????

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    • Rightguy65 says:
      Posted: 27 Jan 12

      Am sorry to ask hav this question -are you in a relationship now ? Bcos I ...

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  6.   zoliuk says:
    Posted: 25 Jan 12

    Most of us do it dont we, not answer messages or flirts. I know I do. And its actually because I dont want to be rude. I dont want to have to tell the person I'm not interested. I think not responding is a gentler way of saying 'No thanks' than actually saying 'No'. On the otherhand if theres been an exchange of correspondences and you suddenly dont feel like its right anymore, I think its decent to tell the other person how you honestly feel rather than just stop corresponding and making the other person wonder what they said or did wrong. Some people are just who they are and might be nasty when you tell them you arent intersted anymore but majority of people woulkd be accepting. I would.

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  7.   scandiblond says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 12

    i think it's all about courtesy. If i start to talk with someone and in the beginning it feels great and then he all of the sudden stops to communicate i sure would like him to be kind and tell me sorry but this does not feel right for me instead of leaving the me behind wondering what i did wrong. If i do have a email i do reply. One example i had was i was communicating with this guy and somehow it didn't feel right. i told him in an email and the reply i got was ok..do not come back because i am not a second hand banana!! Courtesy goes a long way..

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