Does intimacy threaten men?
Do men need intimacy? Who doesn’t? Well I guess they do… or they wouldn’t seek it. According to some book I was reading the other day, men find intimacy threatening at the individual level. How true that is… am here to find out from you guys.
One thing that has always troubled me is that once men attain it, they will frequently pull away. And when they feel like it again, they go seeking for it once more. Its some kind of vicious cycle I guess.
Most women find this behavior baffling… and I am most women. For us, once we find intimacy, our hearts desire to maintain it. For men, they desire it, but not too much at once. I guess this kinda explains extramarital affairs - a man will get close to some girl and then withdraw to their safety zones – work and marriage until the need resurfaces again.
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Has any of you ever gotten close to a man and then suddenly, there is bickering and quarreling and you wonder what the f*** you did wrong? Well I guess this is usually some ploy to deliberately promote separateness by creating an aura of antagonism… don’t you think?
Much as trying to understand women is like trying so hard to understand a language you have never spoken, this is some language I would love to understand. Why seek intimacy and then run away from it? Why are men afraid of intimacy? Or do I just go out with the wrong men… those who can’t maintain some level of intimacy? Help a sister understand this Martian language. :razz:
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