Does one culture end up dominating in interracial relationships?

Posted by Ria, 24 Oct 13

mixing culturesCan 2 cultures really blend? Do interracial relationships represent a genuine collaboration of two?

We call ourselves a melting pot of cultures. Well, given the rise in mixed marriages and relationships, I believe that is what our society really is. Most of us in interracial relationships are lucky to be accepted by the other person’s family. Some of us are lucky to be in relationships where the other person’s family doesn’t shove their way down our throats.

The differences in cultures that we face in interracial relationships are not necessarily a bad thing. If anything, they bring diversity and vibrancy to a relationship. We get to learn new stuff at the same time appreciate our own cultures. Interracial relationships don’t necessarily mean that a person loses their identity. That said though, cultural differences in interracial relationships still presents itself as the root of all problems, simply because we don’t make the effort to appreciate the ‘unfamiliar’. Some of us tend to impose our own beliefs into the relationship.

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I see people incorporating different aspects of both cultures in their weddings and lives. At the same time, some people end up loving the other person’s culture to the extent of (for lack of a better word) abandoning their own culture completely. When one is forced to assume the other person’s culture and religion, mixed marriages become a problem.

So looking at the interracial relationships around you, do you really see a blend of two cultures or just the dominance of one culture? How is your interracial relationships? Does it represent a clear mixing of two cultures?

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  1.   MrRight4u2 says:
    Posted: 30 May 14

    usually whatever culture the male is from dominates

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  2.   dave_74 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 13

    This is great story. I think IR relationships blend more for example if both are at least the same nationality. For those of us that crossed the nationality line, continent line as well as race, then things can get interesting even funny. I recall leaving Europe to get married in Africa and some of the guest taking a knee to kiss my hand, and thinking "look people, I'm her husband not the pope" but after a while and with an open mind, I learned a lot about her culture, languages, foods and I appreciate it. She also picked up a lot of my culture, languages, foods. I think it boils down to how interested and how much a person respects their partners culture. Between us their isn't a dominating culture, we take the good from both and leave out the bad. I know of many Africans in Europe(men and women) with European spouses who have learned German or Swedish and have done their part to accept their partners culture. So not a dominate culture there. However what I have seen in Germany was mostly Black American males ( US Military) with German wives/girlfriends and I have to say that in this combination, there is usually a huge dominance on the Black American males side in regards to culture. Not to sound stereotypical judgmental or anything but you won't find that many Americans speaking the host language, although many of these German woman not only pick up American English they even pick up Ebonics! and even dress more black. (or at least stereotypical American black) I have seen this although to a much lower scale for white men dating American black women...(those that date Africans act differently) I have seen the white 2Pac even..lol. It might be an American domination thing? Haven't noticed the white/ Asian relationship trends or others. I wonder if they are similar? I live in Africa and wear my Dashikis (and other African clothing) with pride, not every day, but occasionally when appropriate. I know who I am and I know where I come from but I also love my wife very much and therefore appreciate her culture and love learning new things about her and her culture. I feel it is very important to blend the cultures a bit, and definitely take an interest in it. It shows your significant other that you care about them regardless how much he/she may be into your culture.

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    • NikkiRox says:
      Posted: 20 May 14

      "However what I have seen in Germany was mostly Black American males ( US Military) with German wives/girlfriends and I have to say that in this combination, there is usually a huge dominance on the Black American males side in regards to culture. Not to sound stereotypical judgmental or anything but you won't find that many Americans speaking the host language, although many of these German woman not only pick up American English they even pick up Ebonics! and even dress more black. (or at least stereotypical American black) " I am quoting this portion specifically, you obviously see this as a negative cultural difference or you wouldn't have said it so. I don't have a problem with Ebonics, there is a place and time for everything. I just ask this question. Had wearing a Dashiki and other African things been seen as negatively as you see American Dress and Ebonics would you have embraced it?

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