A friend sent me a link to this performance of a guy named Paul Potts, a tenor, who was the winner of “Britain’s Got Talent”. At first I wasn’t sure what was going to come out of that mouth. Then when I heard him sing his first note, I wondered, how many times have I judged someone based on appearance and never gave them a chance to open their mouth before just writing them off?!
If looks are only skin deep and beauty is in the eye of the beholder then why is it that you only get one chance to make a first impression and appearance is everything? When it comes to internet dating if that picture or the wording in your profile is not everything that it can be, you could possibly miss the opportunity to be seen and heard by some great potential suitors.
Where does that leave the non-photogenic or the awful writers when it comes to putting your best foot/face forward? It means that you’ve got to be a little more creative. There’s not a lot that you can do to change the way you look in photographs, but you can take a creative shot to mix in with the others. My favorite thing is to do face part pictures. Not only does this give a little air of mystery, it really does spark a lot of questions. That is the goal, to get them talking to you.
Just like Paul Potts in the video, you never know by just looking at someone, what they are capable of achieving. This is why the written word is so powerful and important. If you don’t have a problem spending hours on-line searching and surfing, you shouldn’t mind investing at least an hour in perfecting that perfect profile. If creative writing isn’t your thing, do what the politicians do, get someone else to write a profile for you or better yet, steal from the best. You’ve read great attention grabbing personal ads and profiles, take ideas from the best ones and make them fit to who you are.
In a world that is so youth and beauty driven sometimes it’s hard to see past the
Imperfections to what is really the heart and soul of a person. It’s your responsibility to shine your own light. It’s nice to think or hope that people will want to get to know the real you. However, you must keep in mind that we are living in a day and age where Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie are celebrities. Not based on skill or talent, but making the loudest noise…by being noticed.
How many times have you overlooked someone’s well though out profile because their picture wasn’t perfect, but you responded to the person with the great picture and a lot of “find out later(s)”? I really do understand that attraction is the first step to having a good relationship. I also know that everything that looks good ain’t good! Sometimes we have to do something different to get something different.
While listening to Paul singing I found myself closing my eyes and really listening to the words and the purity in his voice. Something about him made me think twice about judging people on face value. It also made me mindful of putting myself in order. We all know how great we are (when people get to know us); now our job is to let the rest of the dating world know.
This is Leticia; asking that today, you do something you wouldn’t normally do, go somewhere you’ve never been and talk to someone you wouldn’t usually talk to. You may find something you’ve always wanted yet, never knew existed.
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Very nice story!! Thanks for posting this one. That man can really sing, I found myself very moved by the performance.
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Great article! Makes me re-think judging a book by its cover!
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great article. thanks
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Hearing Paul Potts sing touched my heart and made my eyes fill with tears! Such a sweet, gentle guy with an amazing talent and yet not one of those judges expected him to perform the way he did!
Yes! We all are guilty of judging a book by it’s cover from time to time, but just maybe it’s the best book you will ever read!
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Needless to say Paul won the Competition!! & Quite rightly so!
He recently went back to the Carphone Warehouse where he used to work & while there sold a phone!! lol
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I loved Paul’s performance, too. Couldn’t help thinking that he probably wouldn’t have won the competition in the U.S. All new singing talent here has to be physically gorgeous, too, these days. When I think back on all the great singers of past eras who wouldn’t make it now because of their less-than-stellar looks, I cringe. What have we come to?
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how very true.
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that title seems to suite life well.
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i guess nobody agrees.
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That’s a very good point Kara. There was also less television in those days. You heard someone on the radio before you ever saw what they looked like. Too bad now a days there’s so much emphasis on looks alone.
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This guy just goes to show that beauty is only skin deep. His voice truly is a thing of beauty.
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Awesome post, Im really glad that you posted it..I didnt know what to expect when I saw the video but hearing even Simon speak about how much he enjoyed the show and was appreciative to have had the opportunity, it makes me think also about how we sometimes cant appreciate what we have because we are looking only at what the eyes can see.
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So true Satori. We need to learn to look deeper.
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Life is really like a box of chocolates. You can search the best profiles but people don’t live up to what they write. You can view a picture but it may not be them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I’ve been burned so many times by online dating services, because some people steal other people’s profiles/pictures. I don’t know what to believe. I guess this is why we should not judge a book by its cover!
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lol @ a box of chocolates.
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Wow! You hit the nail on the head, Leticia! I am a singer myself, and this man’s soul, heart, and voice all 3 moved me to sunny, smiling, tears. It also made me wonder what I’m missing. I am a big gal myself, full of love, hope, and caring. A mind, a voice, a heart that won’t quit. I have a fairly pretty face. But then, there are those who can be so unkind and judmental because of my size. Strange, but I don’t do that to others. I want to see pictures, but not because of features. I want to see what shines OUT from the face. And if that’s there, I am interested. Also and intelligently put together profile with real thought behind it. If I could meet his tenor, I would give him such a smile of recognition, and such a big hug.
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I found this story to be very enlighten
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