From Painfully Honest to Blissfully Happy

Posted by Leticia, 05 Feb

Something drew members “Lily_Rosie” and “jack213” to one another. They lingered on each other’s profiles, saw something that spoke to them, and clicked the button to reach out. These singles bridged the broadband gap and now they are much more directly connected — they’re married! 

Shannon joined our site because she didn’t feel she had much choice. “As a single mom working full time, traditional dating was too hard for me,” Shannon informs us. “I knew I was not going to find love in my immediate area. I tried other sites with high hopes. Then I came to you after a Google search. Your site brought me the love of my life!”

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However, Shannon wants to remind readers that her happy outcome was a long time coming. “Don’t give up! I joined this site, hoping for the best, and it took me three years to meet this man. It took another three before we married. It doesn’t happen overnight! I know we wish it would, but it doesn’t.”

Paul was a divorced father of two. He begins his part of the story… “This was my first time with online dating. I was divorced and my children suggested I give it a try. I was very skeptical, but I hoped for the best. I had heard some horror stories from friends.”

Our site stood out to him as his best bet, so Paul took the plunge and signed up. After two months with us, he saw Shannon’s profile and was impressed. “Her pictures blew me away. She was very down to earth, and just so beautiful. She was everything I wanted and more.” So he sent her an email…

Shannon read it with certain criteria in mind. “My biggest factor was that my match have children and be comfortable with me having children,” she tells us. Looking at Paul’s particulars, she saw that he was in a similar situation. “It worked perfectly. His initial email was so honest and straightforward. I was attracted to his honesty from the beginning. He told me he was a single father who loved his girls and that was all I needed to hear. I thought he was very handsome in his pictures, too!”

So she wrote back and they opened up a dialogue. Paul says that Shannon didn’t come off as someone who knew her profile photos were “stunning,” as he describes them. He observed that initially she was “very quiet and shy, and it really caught me off guard.” Shannon was just nervous and warmed up pretty quickly. “He was very honest and open,” Shannon reports. “He was easy to talk to.”

Paul is grateful that he took a candid, “lay it all out there” approach. “Be honest,” he advises singles. “I told her everything, probably some things she didn’t even want to know, but I didn’t want her to be surprised by anything during our relationship. Some parts of your past may be embarrassing or painful, but it’s best to let people know upfront, rather than find out the hard way. I wanted an honest relationship with a good woman, and I got that by putting myself out there. It may be hard, but honesty is the best way to gain someone’s trust.”

To confirm their perceptions of each other, the pair scheduled their first date. “I wanted to see if the chemistry we had on the phone would be the same in person,” explains Shannon. Paul jokes, “I had to see if this beautiful person was real!”

When Shannon first laid eyes on Paul, she wasn’t disappointed. “He's adorable!” she thought to herself. “What a cutie!” He remembers his first thoughts being along the same lines. “She’s even more beautiful in person. Am I being punked?”

Shannon says she was most surprised by “how we immediately clicked. I just felt so comfortable with him. Our first date was so romantic. We didn’t want to leave each other’s side for a minute.” Paul noticed a turnaround in her demeanor. “She was so warm and friendly, definitely not shy!” He immediately asked her out again and Shannon was eager to accept his invitation. She tells us that Date No. 2 presented another point in Paul’s favor. “He can cook! On our second date he cooked, and that was a wonderful surprise.”

As this romantic liaison evolved from dating into a relationship, the wonderful discoveries kept coming. Paul reflects, “I’m finding out new things every day that make me love her more.”

We’re sure you’re wondering how Paul proposed. Shannon provides the answer… “New Year’s Eve of 2012, we went to Atlanta. As the peach-drop countdown began, he got down on one knee and proposed in front of everyone. Of course I said yes!!! I’m happier than I can ever imagine being.”

Paul is still marveling at his good fortune. “She has shown me what real, true love is,” he says. Shannon adds, “I have told my friends and family that online dating can work. Be open to the possibilities. I always had hope and faith and believed that my love would find me, and he did! I’m so happy I joined this site. We would never have met otherwise. THANK YOU!”

All in a day’s work, Shannon!

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  1.   DFCU says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 16

    congs guys God bless you

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  2.   Funmb says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 16

    Congratulations

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  3.   46openheart says:
    Posted: 31 May 16

    Honesty is always thebest way to go. May God bless the both of you.

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  4.   lame3 says:
    Posted: 29 May 16

    Wow....I like

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  5.   Mastesy says:
    Posted: 27 May 16

    Congrats God protect your love

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  6.   aichababy12 says:
    Posted: 23 May 16

    Congratulations

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  7.   Medirine says:
    Posted: 19 Apr 16

    Congration next it's me

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  8.   sunnysid says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 16

    I forgot to say congratulations. Congratulations!

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  9.   sunnysid says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 16

    Awwww...how sweet. Nice looking couple, too.

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  10.   jenny1999 says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 16

    hi ihow are you guys

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  11.   Longret says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 16

    Beautiful story.

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  12.   benita20 says:
    Posted: 21 Mar 16

    I wish you the best in everything .. May God make your family happier everyday

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  13.   Archer4Love says:
    Posted: 07 Mar 16

    This is a great and inspiring story! Bless you both!

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  14.   youthdew1 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 16

    I really wish you two the best.

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  15.   nadirah- says:
    Posted: 26 Feb 16

    Congratulations and best wishes that you always stay successfully in love. The best is yet to come.

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  16.   JS_Toronto says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 16

    Gotta Love it!

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  17.   dumelezi says:
    Posted: 26 Dec 15

    By His grace i wish you both the best and be a good family ( s)

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  18.   MedyB says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 15

    Ow, I love that honesty bit. Am so happy they were honest to each other from the first. God bless their marriage.

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  19. Posted: 04 Dec 15

    Good for them.

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  20.   cess06 says:
    Posted: 03 Dec 15

    I hope I get my Mr.right soon

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  21.   Solisa says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 15

    Intresting

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  22.   Chelle31217 says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 15

    I hope to find that special person

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  23.   Kit-tart says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 15

    I hope someday I can the right man for me.

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  24.   lis50 says:
    Posted: 14 Nov 15

    This site is very interesting hoping to fine through love soon.

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  25.   moninge says:
    Posted: 13 Nov 15

    Wow

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  26.   brio1111 says:
    Posted: 13 Nov 15

    That so sweet

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  27.   Biliki says:
    Posted: 09 Nov 15

    I pray to almighty God to bless the marriage an bless them Whith wonderful children

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  28.   3532023 says:
    Posted: 07 Nov 15

    Wow very amazing ...I really need to find true love

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  29.   gulshan3 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 15

    Wow

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  30.   jl1945 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 15

    I'm looking for a loving

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  31. Posted: 02 Nov 15

    Awww this is a beautiful story I love this story it should be a movie seriously

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  32.   sadhu123 says:
    Posted: 31 Oct 15

    truly couple

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  33.   gor5esous27 says:
    Posted: 31 Oct 15

    Wow I wish u the best

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  34.   lof73 says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 15

    Woe I am so happy for you all I too hope he connecting online then tkong n meeting to ser if its a sparrk. Excellent for you all

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  35.   Stercy says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 15

    Happy marriage

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  36.   Stercy says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 15

    So cute♥

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  37. Posted: 25 Oct 15

    Happy marriage life

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  38.   blackrose83 says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 15

    So touch...

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  39.   Reallyreal1 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 15

    Wow.....its wonderful to know that online fdating does work... Sort of encouraging to me .. I'm still looking ...

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  40.   Jami52 says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 15

    Happy marriage I wish u luck

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  41.   Wantsho says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 15

    Inspiring..

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  42.   mine3 says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 15

    Beautiful indeed

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  43.   madamk says:
    Posted: 14 Oct 15

    So touching,nd nice

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  44.   lotto357 says:
    Posted: 13 Oct 15

    honesty is the best policy we all have fell short in the eyes of our father it is what it is

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  45.   Queenica says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 15

    Aww I real in the hearts a story.. Congrats a couple so beautiful

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  46.   915queen says:
    Posted: 05 Oct 15

    That's what I would call a beautiful love story

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  47.   Narine64 says:
    Posted: 05 Oct 15

    Congrat i am so happy for u all

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  48.   Soso. says:
    Posted: 03 Oct 15

    Nice couple

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  49. Posted: 01 Oct 15

    Wish them all the best in life

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  50.   hesistash says:
    Posted: 28 Sep 15

    Wow so inspiring

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