Many women have been known to forsake love and embrace the art of preying on wealthy men to finance their lavish lifestyles. Well nothing comes free!
For gold diggers, the last thing sex is pegged on is love and for some, even physical attraction aint important. All that matters is what they stand to reap from a man under this spell. They are just out to get as much as they can. They, therefore, operate in their relationships on a ‘grab-and-flee’ basis. And besides the gold digger label, these women have also earned the tag of a tick that feeds on the unsuspecting prey until they have their feel before moving on to the next victim.
I remember the days when the term used to paint a picture of a young, curvaceous bombshell that went after a moneyed, wrinkled octogenarian who had no idea what to do with his money. Think Anna Nicole Smith, a stunning blonde – then 26 - who got married to 89-year-old billionaire J. Howard Marshall in 1994. 18 months later he was dead and Anna, in order to win some lengthy court battle for his estate against his son, insisted that her marriage to Marshall was not motivated by money – we all know better.
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Some people however don’t agree with the tick version arguing that the relationship between a gold digger and that tycoon is symbiotic … both parties stand to benefit and that is why such a relationship actually takes off.
“It is hypocritical to say that it is the woman who takes advantage of the rich man. Every man in such a relationship is aware that it is all about his money and in return he gets himself a woman who is indispensable, attends to his every whim and treats him like a king.᾿
There is an evolution with the gold digging art. Nowadays, people don’t seek the ‘Marshalls’ coz there are thousands of young millionaires. And the 21st century gold digger isn’t school dropout but a well educated woman with a degree or two under her belt and a stable job – and oozing an aura of class. Who wouldn’t want to be seen walking around with such a woman even when she is milking you dry?
Like I said … nothing comes free. And landing a rich one won’t take a wink in some club, or bumping into one at a supermarket. That only happens in the movies. Research goes into this search – where do the rich men hang out? And since a bar will get you noticed will all the wrong men, the tick has to upgrade her socializing haunts and start frequenting the joints for the rich. This entails spending a tidy sum of money, at least before she catches the attention of a moneyed man.
Since most rich men belong to the club of being cultured, the woman is expected to exude sophistication and class (translation – live a lie) so f your idea of standing out means dying your hair green, you don’t cut it. Every choice one makes comes with a price and responsibility and for the gold digger; it is greater than the ordinary woman whose relationship is motivated by anything else but money. There is the part of being at his beck and call at all times … fatigue is inexcusable. And despite all the trapping of wealth, there is always the constant fear of some other woman upstaging her.
Obviously gold digging as become an acceptable hobby with several dating websites exclusively created for gold diggers and the men who love them. The man must verify his fortune and this is listed so the woman will know exactly how much he has to spend on her. I was totally amazed when I heard about one site and had to go look for myself, I was sure there would be lots of pirahnas....oops women...but not many men, boy was I wrong, there are probably MORE men than women and their ages range from their 20's right through to late 70's...It did get me wondering which guy would be more popular :)
I also found that gold digging is no longer exclusively a woman’s domain. With more women scaling the corporate ladder and earning six digit salaries and an impressive number own their own businesses, a few ambitious men are turning the tables going after the wealthy women with one intention only … getting their money.
So, do such men adjust their lifestyles to suit that of their women? Do they also live in constant fear of another one luring the rich mama or is it the other way round? Who is the king – or queen for that matter?
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