Has the modern woman become unlovable?
She may be beautiful, sexy, well-appointed, seemingly well-to-do and available. So why is she chasing away prospective mates?
Is it the grooming? Well to be truthful, women today don’t dress like our mothers used to. The grooming aspects of their lives have become somewhat complicated – multiple piercings, lots of make up that sometimes looks clownish, flimsy dressing… Does this do more scaring than attracting? Some men feel we are overdoing it… our dressing leaves practically nothing to their imagination. They seem to think we send inappropriate messages. And instead of attracting quality men, we end up attracting the kind of men that our dressing ‘deserves’. Is the modern woman selling herself short by dressing provocatively? Do all men feel this way?
Does she demand too much power? Most women have become financially empowered. And a woman who manages say 200 employees is used to getting things done her way. Does this make a man feel like he may be forced to surrender his God-given authority as a man?
Is it because she wants a financially stable man? I believe there is nothing wrong with a woman making this requirement the top on her list of things she wants her man to have. Some people however construe this to be an unbridled obsession with moneyed men. And that all women want is to be carried around in flashy cars, taken to fancy clubs and getaways, and be lavished with expensive gifts. But is this really what a woman that has it all wants or are men just misinterpreting this requirement?
Does she find fault with everything about a man? Dress this way. Have certain friends. Live in a certain neighborhood. There are women who find fault in everything… they have a super-inflated sense of self importance. Truth be told, if I were a man, I’d run away from you too. Too much work, impossible to please!
Does she reek of desperation? They say women reach their peak between the ages of 21 and 25. During this time, a woman can make or break her life where relationships are concerned. All men want her and this attention makes most women at this age walk in and out of relationships at will. And after that age comes romance ‘injury time’. She feels she now has to settle down because the allure of her youth - that was bringing all those men to her - is fading. Then she starts sending signals to men that she is available… the same men she might have turned away when she was at her peak. These men might come calling – but only because she is now too eager to please. So she gets used and dumped! And as years go by, her standards become lower… and lower…
All I can say is, when you get to this age, its never too late. Those desperation moves will only scare good men away. Just keep your head straight and well managed. Respect yourself and a good man will notice these qualities in you. And if you are an emotional wreck, try controlling the emotional bouts. Men want an emotionally stable woman because this quality develops into mutual understanding and trust.
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