This is a line we hear so often from people who date interracially and date exclusively within a certain race. Take me for example: White dude exclusively dating Asian women then someone asks me why I go: “I have a thing for Asian women”. Does that statement mean I have a fetish for Asian women? Does it mean I objectify Asian women?
In a recent song “Black Girls” by Chester French, an indie pop band, the song starts off with a declaration “This ain’t no fetish, ain’t objectifying no one” and then goes to say in the chorus: “I’ve got a thing for Black Girls”. However, one ReBecca Theodore-Vachon feels that those two statements are contradictory. She feels saying you ‘have a thing for’ “is indeed objectification” because “you strip” that particular race of women of their “individuality and expect [them] to fulfill certain sexual fetishes based on tired stereotypes” of their female sexuality.
Much as the video is about gay interracial dating – a White woman declaring she has a thing for Black girls ReBecca continues to say: “… any white guy who proclaims he has a ‘thing for black girls’ isn’t looking for any real or serious emotional connection, i.e. don’t expect to meet his parents anytime soon.”
What do you make of that statement? Do you think someone who claims to have a thing for women (or men) of a particular is just dating interracially solely to satisfy some ‘fetish’ and doesn’t really care about their individuality or being in a serious relationship?