Internet dating man sought for criminal harassment

Posted by Ria, 22 Oct 07

onlinedater.gifSome people cringe at the mere mention of online dating. One major thing that makes them cringe is online dating safety. These days even thoughsome people are scared, many people more are turning to their computers to find love and a lasting relationship come from online dating.

Online dating is a fun and effective way to meet people and build relationships. It is no less safe that meeting people in the traditional ways. Just like any form of dating, we get to come across a few wackos while undertaking this search for relationships and love.

Police around the Lower Mainland are looking for the guy pictured here, for the suspected harassment of women online. According to New Westminster Police, Bradley Paul Joy is accused of criminally harassing a woman he met online.

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Other police are also looking for him for multiple charges…forcible confinement by Surrey RCMP, failing to comply with a probation order by Ridge Meadows RCMP, and breach-of-probation plus criminal harassment and forcible confinement by Mounties in Alberta. Police say the charges involve separate complaints from different women.

A woman, who met Joy online, says he started showing up at her door, phoning non-stop, and harassing her shortly thereafter. As most of the information he provided in his profile was false the police don't have an address for him, which makes tracking him down a bit difficult.

For the best possible experience, you just have to use common sense to protect yourself when dating online. While you are getting started and just getting to know people, refrain from putting very personal info like your real name, e-mail address, personal website or address or phone number coz this can bring about the wrong people. Our site even let's you use an anonymous phone service so you never have to give out your own number. You could even consider purchasing a disposable cell phone so you can "lose" the number if you have any problems.

Once you have made a connection with someone online, it's always a good idea to speak on the phone first. For online dating safety, our site even let's you use an anonymous phone service so you never have to give out your own number. You should consider purchasing a disposable cell phone so you can "lose" the number if you have any problems. It also means your address can’t be traced from the phone number.

The best thing about online dating is that you have the upper hand and you can move at a pace you are comfortable with. To get the most out of it and have a positive experience, you need to stay safe. Take your time so you don’t fall into such traps.

Have fun dating and take care.

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  1.   Happy_Girl says:
    Posted: 25 Dec 10

    It is really hard to feel sorry for women or men who are so trusting. It has taken us eons to develop the non verbal communication skills we humans currently have. NOW with the invention of computers people except to be able to tell if someone is lying based on the profile they put on a internet. GIVE me a break. Then they expect others to feel all weepy about their stupidity. I am sorry I am having a hard time feeling sorry for people who believe every word a pretty pictures types.

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  2.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 10

    Guys don't have to worry about online stalkers in person usually but we still have to worry about scammers. There are so many women that are pretending to be someone else and/or somewhere else and they are just trying to get into the States or get money. So guys you have to be wary of these kinds of women especially if they ask for your email address online right away. And it is usually accompanied by a very pretty picture so be wary. They can be a real pain and nuisance not to mention a waste of time. But unlike women, unless we are really stupid, we are in no physical danger like women are. Just letting people know there is deception on both sides. And years ago, I met a lot of women from AOL they all survived the encounters untouched.;-) It's these younger women that scare me for themselves. People on here are wise but teenagers on other sites aren't that wise and even lie about their age to meet people. Years ago I met a teenage girl who I found out later was interested in older men and me since we got along well. I only met her once before she graduated High School and met her family but I probably ruined the entire time for her by lecturing her not to meet older guys online because they could be dangerous. She just kept laughing at me the entire afternoon and evening. We went out to eat and movies and I kept lecturing her and never touched her. She told me at the end of the evening that her parents trust her because she was a third degree black belt. I countered that a gun could still take her out and she just gave me a big hug and I took her home. She went up to Boston to college and was working on modeling. I don't know if the fact that she was Korean was a factor or not in her thinking about guys. But guys have to beware because younger women especially can say you did things to them when you didn't. Fortunately this one was cool that way since she was interested but I am not seduced by looks and I could see we were incompatible despite her interest. But not all women are as cool and will be quick to cry rape if you just piss them off so look out if you do meet women in person. Keep it real public all the time so there are always witnesses. So everyone should be careful about online dating whether you are a woman or a man.

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  3.   Member says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 10

    sordidguy@aol.com do not meet him. He's been stalking people under different names and locations on youtube, topix, and aol. He has been reported. He is delusional and tends too attack people on websites .

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  4. Posted: 04 May 10

    i have read all of the postings....in regards to Mr. Joy. I was his latest victim. We did not meet online, and became friends first. This person was soon living with me, driving my car, using my cell phone. All of this happened long before I realized it. I am a professional woman, having a dating past. just so you understand I am not a naive fool. Soon I was in a situation where i was unable to leave my own home, beaten, confined. It ended with me being run down by my own car, broken arm in two places, and a concussion. I watched this man pick up women online, and was so surprised to see after a conversation of an hour, maybe. Money, and other things were being brought to him. He is a preditor, and he isnt the only one. I saw him get 300$ from one girl after only one meeting. Please be aware of wolves in sheeps clothing. This picture is very old, he is a very nice looking well built, charming male. For now he is in prison for 3 more years. But there are others....

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  5.   unknown says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 10

    I never do meet people offline now . If I run across some person who wants to stalk me then he or she may have police waiting with handcuffs in hand at there house. They don't wanna play that stuff with me. Mentally unstable or not. I perfer to meet up with people somewhere or people my friends or family knows. It's much better. You'll find the right one sooner or later. Don't meet a bunch of people online !!!!!!!!!! People think stuff can't happen. Reality it can or when it does it's late . Nothing they can do.

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  6.   dolly48 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    This story is good info to know. First of all, I never give out my home address to someone I havent known very well. I may give them my phone # and talk to them for a while to get to know them. I figure it is easier to change your phone # than your address. The last guy I met, I was SSSSSSOOOOOOOOOO glad I did not give him my address. He called me constantly, and spoke non-stop. He would call several times a day, even in the early morning (2am, 3am, etc). One time he called in the early morning and I did not answer. He called non stop and continued to let the phone ring. I finally had to break it off with him. He cursed at me, called me names, and said I had a hard time relating to people and that I needed "help". I was so glad to be rid of that fool!!!!!

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  7.   unknown says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    It's sad ! But these people play victim. It gets old because nobody believes them. Only way to respond is by posting this Troll Alert Or Leave me alone ! If they don't take that advice report them. Stalkers do not go away and will do anything in there power to push your buttons because they know in a way you caught them and they want revenge in some ways. In there mind things just don't click sometimes. So it's best not to fight. Let them know if they keep acting like a fool they'll make themself look worse. And they do.

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  8.   unknown says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    grizbonton speaking of her. She's a known online troll who stalks and harsses people on different websites dating etc. follows people around and she makes false claims. Ever since people caught her up in stuff and trolling she has done nothing but stalked people online. She needs to take her meds. I had to contact the police on this nut. She just wouldn't leave people alone on websites . She just whines and goes and tells when people tell her like it is. Well sweetie you belong in a troll group you are nuts by looking up on you on sites. You should be locked up. She goes under different accounts. That's enough for me. I went to contact a thing on a site. Of course there she was stalking people and harassment. She claimed all 10 or more people on one site was the same person. I found out she was the one trolling . No one else was. It didn't take long for me to find out info on her. And find stuff. So if you see her on a site just don't contact her please. So not only is she crazy. This woman also caught herself up in stuff. No one believes her. She can cut the crap. Most sites blocked her because of stuff she was doing.

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  9.   babydoll says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 10

    I read online about him. Please beware.

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  10.   babydoll says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 10

    Some guy's been going online making up lies & spewing alot of filth /rude comments about people. on youtube & aol. (troll-crazy) I heard enough about this loser. He don't even know anybody he's talking about. He needs too grow up & stop harassing women on the net. Sounds like he needs some serious help. Uh how old are these people again who do this crap? Serious people what world do you live in? You can be traced !!!!!!!!!!! Idiots out there man. Anyway this guy made alot of bad postings these youtube people delete every comment he posts. Like he bashed these 2 girls who couldn't have been 18-20 age range I read what he wrote along with 100 + other people. He thinks it's funny & a big joke. These 2 sluts should die ! For what reason? Dude is sick. They should have removed his comment. They also should have reported it. He posts sick-twisted things like that. He's older bullying women & girls on the net. Nice going nutjob. Everyone watch out for him. He's a known pathological liar also.

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  11.   unknown says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 10

    Somehow they seem not to go away !!!!!!!!!! I never had to deal with racism till now from this crazy. Not the only person who has either. They seem not to understand how much ignorance they have & how much trouble they can get into.

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  12.   unknown says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 10

    Ladies & men these people could be wanted or still being watched by police & fbi ! Do not talk to them. They are unstable. Please for everyone's saftey. stacy a.k.a. ca woman a.k.a. from ca. grizbonton , billusa2000 /sordidguy/sordidguys. I found them on more & more lists-sites under different accounts accuseing false things & stalking people. So they are on also a watch list & police websites etc. . Be careful. They can only hide for so long before they are caught. How sad & sick minded some people are. No one believes these people either. God help them !!!!!!!!!! I had 1 stalker then somehow got another woman or man he /she has so many accounts pretending like there different people attacking me. he/she attacked me when I told the truth of myself not being a racist & they need to stop being one about 2 yrs. ago on a site . Opps ! So they stalk & & harassed me and other people for over a year.

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  13.   unknowen says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 09

    People who pull that stuff is just crazy ! Anybody who has a great mind & knows better would not pull these stunts. Something is serious & wrong with a person's mind too be doing that. (mental illness) It's like people who lash out out people online they don't know that's harassment but these people about 95 % of them are mentally ill.I been lashed out at and gossip /false stuff about me & others online. Not many believed these people they even told them what can happen & they did not believe . They did not care & kept going because they are crazy & belong in a mental hospitial. No computer around. They can't be in the real world.... They know they can't be. So these people live in a fantasy world & are cowards as this person is. These people can really suffer from serious issues that only can be fixed by being locked up. I have not had much happen but little & it's scary. even if you play safe you won't always be safe online. There are crazies out there tracking people on websites .

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  14.   Laur says:
    Posted: 12 Oct 09

    Also watch: They will put fake stuff on the net about certain people & troll and act like real-life people there not. Just a warning.

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  15.   Laur says:
    Posted: 12 Oct 09

    dncarm6 well this woman has aol watch for her: She will stalk & attack you in chat's & posts. billusa2000 is knowen to stalk a few women on the net . These kind of people must have mental illnesses & I wonder everyday if they do to be doing the sick stuff they do sometimes or all the time depending how bad it is...

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  16.   D says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 09

    hogan fan stfu and stop telling ppl how to spell........ Are you the spell check police? Get a life.

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  17.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 15 Jan 09

    I wonder if this guy ever got caught. I have been stalked before and if it was exasperating for me, I just can't imagine how scary it would be for a woman, where the man has the advantage of size and what not on the average. As for the email claim, I would check it against any of the hoax sites first.

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  18.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 31 Dec 08

    As in any part of a bag of apples at the bottom , there may be a rotten one . Be Safe and enjoy every day as it comes . Within 60 miles of our house there are half a dozen prisons now . These are not race problems / these are people who do not care what they do or who they vandelize , harrass and stalk , because they know that the State will feed them and shelter from the weather outside . If and when they get caught .

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  19.   SWEETSUGER says:
    Posted: 22 Sep 08

    Hello ladies,i received an e-mail from a friend ,it was fowarded from the state police, WARNING!! (ROC HARD ABBS)is wanted for murder; he has killed 2 from yahoo personals, 1 from an aol site. I have stopped dateing from any of the sites at the moment. PLEASE BE CAREFUL!!

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  20.   Dondon says:
    Posted: 21 May 08

    There is still fun in online dating but you need to be doing some research first about the person online...and always be careful..Don't give a lot of information about yourself..

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  21.   orchid133 says:
    Posted: 20 May 08

    Very true Sxywhttiger however, ive learned there are ways a person can find out where you live.. ie) sending emails there are hidden things behind the to / from and you can get an ip address from that.. people who know how to get through that stuff can find anything. the person i met.. i talked to for a long time... prior to meeting.. didnt give him my address or anything... met in public... etc etc. i took precautions... advice i got from the police was to have a seperate phone or something to contact a person via so that they dont have your real number - have a cell that you can cancell at anytime..

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  22.   SxyWhtTiger says:
    Posted: 11 May 08

    Sounds kind of bias to me...Men are not the only ones who do this...Women are guilty as well of doing this. I think there needs to website like donotdatehimgirl.com but only for men to expose women that are like this too. Here are some helpful hints what you should do: 1. Be SMART. 2. Take your time getting to know each other. 3. If somebody sounds too good to be true they probably are. 4. The first sign of trouble know when to back out. 5. Always meet in public and it doesn't matter what time of the day either because if people try something wrong it could even happen in broad daylight too. 6. Always give them a cell number because they can't trace where you live and problems occur you can always have cell phone company to block their number. I could go on and on what you should and shouldn't do but I won't...The Main Solution is to use your Brain and don't let your emotions cloud your judgement.

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  23.   orchid133 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 08

    oh and yes hes in jail.. pending trial.

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  24.   orchid133 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 08

    the girl in this case happens to be me. just to let everybody know - even if you dont put personal info in your profile... and no matter how long you talk to someone it can happen. i talked to this guy for a month prior to meeting him. he seemed normal.. i met him in public... and after that he dropped me off at home... be careful who you meet. lesson learned.. dont let anybody know where you live until after a few dates..

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  25.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    That's good info from Fala. I want to add that texting someone you know when you change locations on a date is a good idea too. Also: It's a good idea to make the first date during the daytime at a Starbucks or something.

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  26.   Floridagem says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    I've had a relationship with a man I met on A/R who has been diagnosed with ADD, bipolar and passive-aggressive tendencies. He won me over with his intelligence, charm, wit and good looks. He fits all the characteristics of a sociopath. I think ladies everywhere should know what to look out for... for their own hearts' sake. Read this girls before you become trapped in the web of abuse, lies and deceit! (http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-and-Help-Sociopaths) And if you do have a story to tell, expose him on www.dontdatehimgirl.com. Make a difference in the lives of innocent, gullible women, by revealing the activities of these scoundrels. Ladies: we need to protect ourselves b/c after all, we are God's unique masterpiece!

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  27.   ladyaly says:
    Posted: 04 Nov 07

    i do agree with interesting can be bad, and sometimes, when something sounds too good to be tru to us, we don't think of the bad, we just jump right in.

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  28.   Ladyaly says:
    Posted: 03 Nov 07

    this happened to me, but thank god he didn't know where i live, but the phone calls and text messages, at one point i had to get rid on my number, i guess we cannot never know really how a person will turn out, but we have to be careful of who we talk to.

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  29.   Fkoi says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 07

    I went to an all boys high school. Freshman year we had a computer-date dance with the three all-girl schools in the area. I filled out my card and went to the dance with my buddies. None of us qualified as players for sure. We were are a bit nervous. Each of us had received a card with computer codes matching our matches. My friends were not sure how to start. I told them to just find a young lady they were attracted to, ask what her code is. Then look at your list as if trying to find her number, pretend to find it and take it from there. I tried this strategy out and walked up to the prettiest gal I saw. She wore a red and white polka dot dress. I asked for her code, and I'll be d**ned. It was, for real, right at the top of my list. We dated for a while and remained friends all throughout high school. Ahh! Simpler times. As a man, I am not so fearful of meeting stalkers online. Even so, it can be disruptive at best to be the object of someone's obsession. I don't it is all that different dating someone from a website than dating anyone whom you've just met. Caution is the key. I wouldn't give out my address. I would meet in a public place. I might have back up just in case (and certainly would if I was a woman). I am more willing to give out a little more information about myself to make a woman feel a little safer, so she can arrange her back up. I think that's what a gentleman does.

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  30.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 07

    Interesting can be bad too....just like this loser above

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  31.   krisshan says:
    Posted: 29 Oct 07

    dude doesn't really look stalkerish-which proves my point. shoo, shoo, git boy! LEMME GIT MY BROOM!!

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  32. Posted: 29 Oct 07

    Yes there can be some interesting people online, if given a chance.

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  33.   TriChique says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 07

    Scary, I hope they catch the guy. But you all are right, be careful, not stupid.

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  34.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 07

    No stalkers here, although I met a few who were very interesting to put it mildly.

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  35. Posted: 27 Oct 07

    Wow - showing up at people's houses? Why do people give their home address? I've been lucky not to have met any psychos, or people asking me for my address/number after day 1.

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  36.   blkbeauty31 says:
    Posted: 27 Oct 07

    morning ria!!! i agree with "no stalkers please". i've been into on-line dating for nearly 3 years and some of the behavior i'm encountering is disturbing such as; dishonesty, stalking, and sexual harrassment. this makes me go thru periods where i dont think i'll meet anyone in person because it can be much to dangerous.

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  37.   cqueen4u2 says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 07

    I had recently ad a similar where a man I men online tried to corn me of some cash and I think with the other info we have exchanged he will try & use it for identity theft. He has given me some of his information which proves to be false info. Anyone can assist in where can I report this person maybe he maybe linked to some crimes he has commited already or about to commit. Just that we have to try and stop to be overtrsting cause they are so many sharks out there and I think some of the sites are protecting the criminals as well. So ladies we have to be extra careful.

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  38.   krisshan says:
    Posted: 26 Oct 07

    Thank God I haven't had an online stalker. I've had a couple offline and it is one of the worst feelings. Everyday i'd walk to my car hoping that when I pressed keyless entry remote to my car or started my car up, that it didn't explode. Believe me, ladies--there are dogs, and then there are crazy dogs....and they don't always foam at the mouth!!

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  39.   fala says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 07

    No Stalkers Please: don't be afraid, be smart. There are some really good people out there, you just have to play it safe.

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  40.   Looking4me says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 07

    I have been dating online for the last 6 years and although I haven't met anyone in person, I have had plenty of stalkers from one site to the other. Now I am afraid to meet anyone in person; so I may never find anyone online. I am praying Mr. Right is out there somewhere. Be safe everyone! God bless

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  41.   hoganfan says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 07

    And to top it off, no one can spell!

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  42.   hoganfanb says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 07

    There is "No Fun," in on line dating, the fun and desire comes from within!

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  43. Posted: 24 Oct 07

    A gal I dated from here called her friend while we were on our date - She had that friend ready to come by to check up on her at the coffee shop, if there was no call by a specified time - I thought that was a great idea.

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  44.   fala says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 07

    You have to be extra careful when you deal with meeting people online. Meet during the day, at a place you're familiar with. Make sure someone knows where you're going, who you're going to meet and when you will be back. Include that person's online name, real name (if you have it), email, and phone number. Email it to a friend so they won't lose it. Have a safe message or emergency message to send that person if things turn out ok or bad. I know it sounds extreme but a girl's gotta be careful out there. Always have somebody watching your back.

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  45.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 07

    I agree Mish...and always drive your own car. If it doesn't work out, you can certainly leave.

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  46. Posted: 23 Oct 07

    I must have a guardian angel because I've never had problems like that from anyone I've met online. I feel for the women he harassed. I hope they don't lose their faith in people.

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  47.   Mish says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 07

    Wow that is so crazy , knowing the person for a short amount of time you should not be foolish enough to tell them where you live .Always meet in a public place etc.

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  48.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 07

    Hearing crazy stuff like this makes you very leery about meeting someone in a hurry. It's always best to take your time, and follow your gut instincts. I know no one on this site wants to be a statistic, so please be careful out there everyone!

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