Interracial dating among teens
There may be enough dividing factors when it comes to teen cliques. But when it comes to dating among teens, most of them do not see race and ethnicity as a dividing factor. Clothes, hairstyles or favored musicians seem to matter most.
When growing up, I used to have friends from all races. Their color never used to matter. What really mattered was that we all had fun together… we all shared similar interests besides race. However most of us find themselves in situations where parents interfere. Am sure you have heard parents say things like ‘Don’t associate yourself with so and so. They are not like us.’ So who are they? ‘The others’ like in Lost TV show?
One judgmental parent posted a 911 question on some parenting website - My ninth grade daughter has become interested in a boy of a different race. This type of thing could potentially tear my extended family apart. At her young age (she is 14), I'm not sure she is mature enough to understand the implications of such a relationship… So what implications are these? Was it really about the teenager or was she just trying to be satisfy her selfish racial prejudices and fears?
With a lot of celebrities who are racially blended, it's no surprise teenagers would be more open to romantically crossing racial and ethnic boundaries than previous generations. However, several teenagers also agree that pressures from parents and society add difficulties in a relationship between people with differing races. Erika Lopez, a Lakeland High student says her family expects her not to date outside her Mexican heritage. It’s like they are not part of the family. Of course they are not part of the family. None of the people we date are. So why accept those within our race as part of the family and neglect those that aren’t? Beats me.
Thing is, parents strongly influence a youngster's attitude toward cultural blending. Most are just closed-minded and want their kids to believe what they believe, race-wise or class-wise. So unless the parents have a non-judgmental mindset, then only the rebellious teens will date interracially.
Some teenagers approve of interracial dating without any restrictions but say they couldn't imagine themselves dating or marrying outside their racial or ethnic category. Could this be because of some acquired prejudice from their parents or is it just a matter of preference? Are they afraid of being treated as outcasts?
Well there is no law guiding love or who we love. And as Mother Terressa said, ‘If you judge people, you have no time to love them’. So if our children can be as open minded as they are, then I guess its time for parents to just BUTT OUT!!! Don’t you think?
More Opinion Articles
39 responses to "Interracial dating among teens"
Leave a reply
You must be logged in to post a comment.
Like Peas and Carrots
If things had gone a little differently, Melanie and Tom would never have met and fallen hopelessly in love.
Your perfect partner could be online right now
"My online love inspiration angel"
Submitted by: Patricia, USA, 21
To be honest, in the beginning, I thought it would be a waste of time. But since I've never seen a similar service in any other dating site, I decided to give it a try.
I always "thought" my profile was on point and I did not need any help to correct my page. I always had in my profile if someone is not attracted to my profile, then that's "their" loss.
BOY WAS I WRONG!!
I will never forget my first time using the Coaching Service I was introduced to my personal Dating Coach. Let me put it this way, if it was not for her I would have given up long time ago (even though I'm a new member).
She taught me so many things and gave me good advice, I did not want to stop chatting with her at all.
She opened my eyes to many possibilities when finding love. She is definitely an inspiration and I appreciate a whole lot. She is more than a Dating Coach to me; she is more of a close friend/guide to me. She is definitely my "online love-inspiration angel".
- Why white men love the black woman
- White mother, white father, black baby
- Why some Black women only date White Men
- Why are Asian men and Caucasian women couples more common lately?
- Is interracial sex better than sex with someone within your own race?
- What kind of Black woman dates a White man?
- Why do men almost always reappear after a breakup?
- 16 things to never say about a mixed person
- Are Black women and Asian men being sidelined?
- Is the White man the Black woman’s ideal man?