Interracial seduction secrets

Posted by Ria, 20 Aug 07

ir.jpgInterracial seduction can be so much fun for someone who is open minded and likes new experiences. People always ask about the degree of seduction. So today I have decided to try and write this article. Hope I can and shed some light on to you.

So where can you go to meet women and men to start you very own interracial seduction adventures?

Interracial seduction has a lot to offer. A heightened sense of respect occurs between a man and a woman of different races – at least that is what I have found among most of my friends who have been in such relationships. Well I have found that each act more sensitive to understanding their partners needs.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

Interracial seduction also gives you the opportunity to learn about other cultures… and this will broaden your horizons. As far as the art of seduction goes, this keeps you on toes. Just a pointer to the men… I hear women who come from the coastal cities of Kenya in Africa are usually taken through some form of training on the art of seduction. So men, you know where to start. ;-)

With that said, what are the drawbacks of interracial seduction? Bias is one thing that is still there… it is far from dead. Brace yourself for opposition from certain friends and family members. Are you up for this challenge of your interracial seduction? You have to be cautious so that your attempt at interracial seduction doesn’t end up a blunder!

Now that you have some idea on the pros and cons of interracial seduction, let's get down to business…where to find men and women of another race. The incredibly effective and simplest way is to through interracial dating sites. Trust me; these will make your interracial seduction adventures a lot easier. Here you will find individuals of other ethnicities who are looking for people of your ethnicity.

Though this article is brief, I hope I have given you an overview of what to expect when are dabbling in the art of interracial seduction. Are you up for the adventure? Those who have done it, shed some more light on this blog on how best you can go about it and how best to avoid and rise above the cons.

Remember, interracial seduction or not, this is an art you need to master. Have fun while at it and consult with more resources if you are serious about interracial seduction. I will do the best I can to give you some more as we go along. Cheers!

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  1. Posted: 26 Apr 10

    Problem 1: We think in worst case scenarios. Worst case scenario, white guy starts spitting on black woman who approached him and calling her all kinds of slurs. Black woman laughs at, humiliates and throws slurs at the white guy who makes a move. Truth of the matter, it doesn't happen that way. Most people are flattered to get the attention regardless! It might even boost their day, that black girl might walk around thinking 'damn even the white boys want me', lol. IF they are AGAINST IR, you can probably tell before you get your flirt out, from the look on their face. They wont let you in. But if the friendly vibe is there, and theyre still not interested, they will probably make up some lame excuse or try to let you down easily. Most adult people arent monsters, they dont want to humiliate you. Problem 2: Nobody wants to be rejected and they certainly dont want to be rejected for something they cant control. And furthermore, based on the worst case scenario examples above, no one wants to admit to themselves they were interested in a racist. Solution: Stop assuming the person doesn't get the lifestyle. IR is growing bigger all the time and it's not taboo. Some people dont get it but people are not getting stoned for it. More people are living it or curious about it than you think. So swallow your pride, smile and approach the person. Pay attention to cues of interest (or disinterest) in general. Think positive, forget the worse case scenario, think of the best case and remind yourself of the reasons why that person WILL be interested in you. Forget about being rejected on race and go for the gold. I know easier said than done but it has to be said! I knew this one black woman who was very open about her love for white men, which was very bold and great! But she came across as desperate because she was coming onto every white man that crossed her path, still she wasn't afraid to put her preference out there. Maybe more people should try expressing who they're attracted to IRL and see what it attracts?

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  2.   hatsheput says:
    Posted: 07 Jan 10

    Mossimo36, I agree with what your question implicitly says. Exactly!!! I have been reading the blogs trying to figure out why everyone seems to believe that there's any difference. Regardless of race it's always challenging to break the ice.

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  3.   newbie945 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan 10

    I'm always very interested in comments made about interracial dating. I come from a place where people are free to date and marry whomever they like regardless of color. Unfortunately when I came to the States I was in for quite a shock when I found out that interracial dating is almost taboo. My take on why it is so difficult to date interracially is because of the racial history between black and white people. As long as racism is allowed to fester in this country, both races will never feel comfortable dating each other. The only thing one can do is to say to hell with everyone and just date and love whomever you want regardless of what people will think. I mean in the end isn't the relationship just between the two people who love each other, so who cares what anyone else thinks?

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  4.   angel104 says:
    Posted: 14 Nov 09

    I once went to Italy and was shocked by the direct approach men take there. One guy who had been staring at me, just came right up to me and said, "I don't want anything from you but I just want to ask you if you know how beautiful you are?". That just blew my mind! Ofcourse I stammered and was slightly taken aback but I managed to stammer out a "thank you". I realized later thinking about it that these people come from a country where there is no prior mental block about race and are therefore free to express themselves freely. So if you are a guy and you want to approach a black woman, don't tell yourself that she's black and won't want a white guy or something. Just be respectful (that is, no winking, or 'come hither' eyebrow raising as if you are trying to pick up a whore). You can use the Italian approach or use the props around you. E.g. Video store guy could have said "hi there, I can't choose which movie to watch, do you recommend anything you enjoyed? Wow, that looks interesting... My name is Mark by the way..... Can I call you to report back on whether I enjoyed it or not?!" and so it goes on. Use the weather, ask for directions, ask for help at the grocery store. All these things are good icebreakers. After you engage her in conversation, it can also be quite sexy to admit "actually, I knew which sauce to pick, I just honestly wanted an opportunity to talk to you.." And for black girl wanting white guy, you know we mostly move around with that "dont even talk to me" no nonsense look. Soften it up girls!! Smile, ask for help... In the gym ask for help on an exercise etc. Enjoy y'all!

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  5.   WiseChoice says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 09

    I tend to agree fkoy. I'm not being critical in an unkind way; but if we look at the meaning "seduction",...I wonder if there is a secret beyond suggesting honest interest. Hopefully most of your readers are sincerely looking for someone who will unconditionally love them in a genuine way. Surly there are many who are sincere. Is winning love or intimate favor through honest appreciation...recognizing the value of another person and truthfully expressing it,..."seduction"? I don't know;... I like a person to come right out with what it is they are interested in and say it in a way I can understand. I don't need to be seduced. Just be realistic. Romantic enticement is wonderful; and ...there is so much to be said on that subject. But "seduction" suggests subliminal manipulation. Secrets of Enticement-..I like that a little better. .

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  6.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 09

    Happy Fathers' Day for all .

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  7.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 09

    When I first read this I thought Ria had just found a sensational headline for a so-so, empty article. However these things take on a life of their own don't they? I appreciate all the serious comments from all of y'all, especially the women. Any help, tips and information I get from a woman's point of view is helpful to me in understanding "the female mind" and moving forward in my quest for love.

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  8.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 18 Jan 09

    Well late again as always , better late than never . Seduction in the sexual act : Just get in the truck LOL

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  9.   Hope says:
    Posted: 08 Aug 08

    Whatever happened to Laugh_sailor? He posted his comments in 2007....just wondering where he is today and what he is up to. Did he find that special lady? He is a awesome writer and very insightful.

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  10.   Shelli001 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 08

    ~I truly believe, as a shy person, everyone has their own style of flirting, whether it be more overt or that of "more subdued flirtation". I probably fit into the latter category. As a reasonably progressive sista, we all have to be aware of where we live, and how comfortable we are,coming outside of our comfort zones in dating outside our race. We all have heard various stereotypes, and, in order to love honestly, compassionately, and unconditionally, we MUST reckon with our own internal stereotypes, and put them to rest, wouldn't you say? I'm an incurable romantic, and forevermore, will be attracted to a kind and gentle man, no matter what race or culture he is from! I will, even in my shyness, take that chance on love...but, will he?

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  11.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 19 May 08

    Ok I get it now ,interracial seduction, but is that different somehow from intraracial seduction?

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  12.   MissJamaica says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    I agree with Starthai's first post, and Kevin's...it has happened to me where guys i say hi to everyday (and these happen to be black) ASSUMED i had a man because i sometimes rode a motorcycle...they thought it was this invisible guy's...never crossed their minds for a second that it was mine. And now i drive a car that guy usually drives,and aside from guys who try to buy it off me...i now wonder are guys thinking it's my man's car even with no man in sight? Lot's of ways to screw up and stay single, boy. Jeez.

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  13.   nesha86 says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 08

    Interracial seduction huh? I think I've already mastered that skill...

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  14.   nyctechie says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 08

    Good article!

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  15.   Salsera77 says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 08

    Secretfantasy, I hope you did more than I did. I've kept my eyes open for him ever since at the gym, vowing to smile and say "Hi". Lol. Yeah, White guys, talk to us.

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  16. Posted: 24 Jan 08

    Hi Salsera, something you said about a "longing look" reminded of when I was at a game the other day. I was sitting in the seats and he was going up the steps during half-time. I felt someone staring at me and I looked and it was if he willed me to turn my head to him. He had the most longing look on his face and I was so shocked I turned my head without even so much as a smile or change in facial expression at him. He stood there for a few long seconds looking at me and it felt as if everyone around us was waiting for my response or something. it was a strange experience.

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  17. Posted: 24 Jan 08

    i meant two-story yellow and white house... lol

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  18. Posted: 24 Jan 08

    I just found this site and read everyone's blogs and wanted to say that lately I have been increasingly interested in dating a white man. As a little girl my mother would tell me how i said i would one day marry one and have a two yellow and white house. I don't remember that but I'm sure it's not far from the truth since I always fantasized about white men. The last 10 to 15 years or so I've been mainly interested in black men (not even light skinned ones) but in the last few months the urge to date a white man has been getting stronger. I want to feel what that is like. I don't put all white men in the same category but still I want one... lol.. I used to be shy growing up and couldn't approach guys, and I still can't but I've gotten to the point where I can make eye contact and smile and say hi. However I feel like I'm starting all over again with my shyness when it comes to white men. What irks me though is how they look but don't say anything!!! Please talk to us white men!

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  19.   luckeyone says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 08

    Why is so hard to just say ,hi, hello, beautiful day or what ever . People !Just talk it wont hurt .Being nice ,sometimes get rewarded. I am race blind when it comes to beautiful women.

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  20.   Salsera77 says:
    Posted: 10 Jan 08

    I admit this is the very reason why I'm on an interracial site. I don't have to do anything to get my own race's attention (thank you). With white men, (who I'm attracted to) my experiment with wearing my hair out and showing more skin gets attention ....but even then there's no follow through and I'm not looking for booty calls because I'm not some girl from a rap video. Then I think, I don't live in the right town. I need to move. Then I've gotten, so used to being ignored by white men that the last time at the gym when one guy looked at me from across the room. I was in shock! Was that a longing forlorn look on his face when he was staring straight at me or was he feeling sorry for me..or did he just want me to get off the adductor machine so he could use it! I'll never know now. I couldn't get my hand up to wave hi as I was flabergasted...couldn't shout hi as he was 8 yds across the room. ...but then why didn't he do/say something himself. Maybe he wasn't interested after all. Oy Vey! Ok. Resolution. I'll be ready next time. A Smile, a wave. Can't hurt. Don't critique me too harshly, people.

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  21. Posted: 22 Sep 07

    To some white men and black woman dating or even making the first move and/or contact is somewhat virginal territory.This happens less with same race dating and when the iterracial factor is trown in things goin throught a guys head is different from the ladies. It's scientifically proven that men tend towards the bigger picture where as woman are more in the now. Innitial approach may seem difficult to some men for insecurity reasons.Noot that he's an insecure man but the newness of exploring something he was always hesitant about in the/his past. I've always been more attracted to the black female for many reasons.Contrast is a beginning factor.It took me a long time to fess up to and go forth with what I secretly desired. Thoughts of acceptance was the biggest issues.Later it proved to be easier because of the safeness of the web. Sometime you just have to go with the feeling in your heart or gut.That includes shy people.Men and woman.If you feel someting soo strongly then go for it.What have you got to loose by saying hello.If the other party resciprocate then let it flow.If it does flow then it just might be a meant to be situation.Win win.Even though issues might arrise,if the love,bond and willingness between two is strong enough,those issues will be easier to deal with. Communication is the route to all happyness.If it flows,dreams come true.(My wife and I are living proof of that) If it doesn't flow,it wasn't meant to be.

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  22.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    Way to go Jessica, thanks for the tip. You bring a lot of hope

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  23.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 12 Sep 07

    umm Happykitty, I don't think your size has anything to do with seduction. Listen a man who is attracted to a woman will show it. Believe me, they will show it, a longing stare, a goofy smile, a half assed hello, means hey I am attracted. Listen some men, aren't really comfortable with dating women of different colors. Those men are the ones who are afraid to admit to the world that they like dark meat or white meat. They will pick women who are physically fit, and have a high standard of beauty. In their minds they are picking "the right ones". Besides Kitty you are not a bbw you are a fbw(full beautiful woman) and don't you forget it, there ain't nothing big about you but your heart. I had this hottie white guy flirt with me continually, and I could not understand for the life of me why. I thought he was just experiementing, nope he did the deed a million times, he is into black women. Not just any kind the ones that catch his eye. He is physically fit, and I am not, he is the total opposite of me. I am six feet tall, he is like 5 ft 8inches. I think I presented a challange for him, plus of course, he would have whipped me into shape, plus when I stopped being stuiped and started talking to him he really liked me for me. Plus I found out, he wasn't always a hottie, he was a reformed ugly duckling, with a hugh heart and a thing for large women..lol. Bottomline don't sell yourself short, MEN all MEN are attracted to different types of women, short, tall, fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, skank, not a skank, it runs the gautlet. I think we all forget that what seduction is, that part of our mojo that says...ding..ding..that lady or that man is the one for you. Ding..Ding..Ding, go for it. I use to sell myself short, not thinking I was attractive enough for anyone, but I learned. I am seductive enough for someone, they have to take the blind fold off to see me. It's not just a visual thing, it is that little somthing about a person that you just can't explain that gets you interested and starts the game of cat and mouse for love. We are all worthy and capable of seduction. Hell we need somthing to think about when we are old and not getting any! Till the next epidsode. I'm out!

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  24.   Jessica says:
    Posted: 12 Sep 07

    oh,,,, guys, you can not image what I have found. I am a black cuttie and I just met my love half year ago and we will get married next month, and interracial love of course. Am I lucky? So lucky I think, and I wanna share my happiness with all of you here. By the way, I found my half part baby on a great site. He is really gorgeous, even sometimes he is a liittle shy. -:) If you try, you also can be the next lucky one. LOL. Here it is http://www.interracialchats.com . Bye!! and good luck to you all.

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  25. Posted: 09 Sep 07

    I agree with vt33; women worry about rejection too. We're cautious because we're not sure how men will react. It's a little harder for me personally because I consider myself a BBW and most white men don't seem to be attracted to my body type. I usually wait for the man to approach me. BTW: Laugh_Sailor, thanks for the description of the lunar eclipse. I hate that I missed it.

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  26.   soleil24 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    im totally with Starthai and softspoken on this one..shyness can come off as a lack of interest to the other person, when in actual fact u'r toatlly interested but just dont know how to show it..its like ur body communicates the oposite of what u'r truly feeling and this can be so darn frustrating because then u blame urself for missing a possibly good chance at love or something like it!

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  27.   soleil24 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    im totally with Starthai and softspoken on this one..shyness can come off as a lack of interest to the other person, when in actual fact u'r toatlly interested but just dont know how to show it..its like ur body communicates the oposite of what u'r truly feeling and this can be so darn frustrating because then u balme urself for missing a possibly good chance at love or something like it!

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  28.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    Soft now that is a good analogy. I ran across that just the other day. This beautiful woman needed help so I helped her (yes I work in the wonderful world of retail at Lowe's). I just kept staring at her, but deathly afraid to ask her her name. She didn't have the stop sign up(ring) so I knew I should at least ask, but alas I let her keep walking without saying a word; then I proceeded to beat my own a$$.

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  29.   softspoken says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 07

    STARTHAI: I hear you about the shy issue!! I think that it is hard for people who are not truly shy to understand how really, really hard it is for those of us who are. I have been in exactly the situation that you descirbed, seeing someone that you found appealing but at the same time being very nearly paralized to approach them. I can intellectually tell myself "Hey, she's not gonna bite you, what's the big deal?" I've been in the Army and had live rounds flying around, piece of cake compared to the idea of facing a beautiful BW and just trying to say hello-LOL. I have to admit that sites like AR.COM are making things a little easier, but I would much prefer a real world contact-just can't seem to make the jump to light speed though. Suggestions anyone?

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  30.   Glock says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 07

    Starthai, If I may make a suggestion which you've probably heard before, if you're interested in someone you have to take a chance. How many times have we all passed up opportunites (what ever they are) because we were afraid of something? I remember the first time I asked a black girl out. I was nervous as hell! But she was so HOT, I thought I've got to take the chance and kept telling myself that the worse that can happen is she say NO. After that first time, I've never had a problem since asking a black woman out. Sometimes it's yes, sometimes No. One thing, I'll bet he'll be back at the video store again and that will be your opportunity! Good luck!

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  31.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    I like everyone's comment, with that being said I note ANYTHING WORTH HAVING IS WORTH WORKING FOR :)

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  32.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Kevin I diagree with the car sign, some women like myself like masculine cars as well as female cars. I do see your point though, because if I see a man driving a pink convertable I may think he is truly gay, but that's not fair either. In today's times you can't help but to prejudge.

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  33.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Kevin, real women do like flowers your just meeting the wrong ones. I wanted to also mention that your initial approach to a women is good, as long as it is repectful it is a plus. My concern is with someone as shy as me your intuition may give off false signals. I will definitely give you eye contact and other variables, such as a smile, but initially I won't say to much because I'm shy. It doesn't mean that I'm not interested :)

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  34. Posted: 30 Aug 07

    I couldn't agree more, Coco. I take game-playing as a sign that person has a weak ego, isn't genuine and has poor communication habits.

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  35.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 07

    Maybe the whole seduction thing is really being over analyzed. Love should be simple...a simple glance, a look in the eyes, a slight touch. Love shouldn't be complicated. It's how we over analyze love and seduction, and that's what makes it difficult. Most men and women have had difficulties in relationships. It's how we recovered that makes us something more than angry individuals.

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  36. Posted: 29 Aug 07

    Thanks, vt33 - You have given me an eye-opening look into the pressures women are under to find a mate. Your suggestions and insights are right on.

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  37.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 07

    Seduction Secrets, I am lost for sure now! Those of you blogging on this particular topic need a good dose of somthing. Rubie made a very good point, men if you are interested in a woman weather you are black or white or she is black or white you got to have confidence in yourself and in her. Keep in mind 85% of women have already been thru rejection, so its almost a good chance if she isn't interested in you she will not be rude or make you feel obscure. Chivliary is not dead some women do prefer men to send them flowers. It goes a far long way with some women, keep in mind people, some girls were giving the granny talk, which pertains a word "courtin". Which can also mean the girl is old fashioned and likes, flowers, candy, afternoon lemonade and cookies in the parlour, or garden. Well, these days that would be, sugar free chocolate, flowers or a afternoon at Starbucks. Truth be told I have sent men flowers in the past, because I was interested in them. I got rejected, in a nice way, but it was still humiliating. Men dont' seem to understand that a woman is not the hardest thing to approach, it is more difficult, for women to approach, but some are bold and they go for the gusto. As far as signal indication, rings, cellphones, cars etc. I will say 95% of the time, she is fronting. The aura of being a certain way has women in a mind set that men will come on to her because of the possession that she may have, which in her mind gives her sex appeal. I read about the wedding ring thing. Keep in mind, a lot of women, and I mean a lot of women wear a wedding ring for two reasons. First being a lot of women are past 30 and somewhere in their lives they are feeling a little awkward. The mind plays tricks on a woman once she gets in her thirties. They aren't married, or their is no potential suitor who is in search of a Mrs. A lot of women wear wedding rings and or bands, just for that reason, to give a illusion of commitment. I read glossys, and in the back they have a page where you can buy stuff the rich and famous have, bootleg if you will. Their was a advertisment for wedding rings, big ones cubics and the like. Schocking, but some women buy them wear, and wear them. Why I don't know but they do. Second, the rings are worn, if they are single and work in a office setting, it can get very catty, so to keep the drama down and their name off everyones, im gossip thread, they put on the ring to ward off trouble, and try to get their 20 years in without incident. Plus a lot of women feel they don't fit in places they go. They may shop at places where there are women who are married, their work out classes everyone there is married or has a intended. If they don't wear the ring all it leads to are horrible blind dates, forced fake lunches at a friends, with a guy who you would never see yourself with. The RING wards off the got to get you married gypsies. Seduction, is simple, a smile goes a million miles to the moon. A Hello, goes pretty far down Route 66. To seduce me, is to show confidence, that you are not afraid of me. To seduce me, flowers go really far. Consideration is a good way for me to cook you dinner. Respect, that might get you a movie, a treat to the carwash. Women aren't hard to impress, real men step up to the plate and move on a woman in a considerate, respectful way, smiles and says Hello. You might meet your future Mrs. Those of you that live in places where couples of different hues are tolerated, you have the advantage, because both sexes are more relaxed to approach someone of a different hues. I think that plays a major part in seduction with people of different color. Enviroment is key and maturity is the lock. Indeed it doesn't help if family isn't comfortable with the daughter or sons decision to date a diffrent hue. Which puts a ton of pressure on the seduction from one to the other. Ladies and Gentlmen, keep in mind of somthing, Gays come out the closet to their families all the time. Sure they get rejected but they can't deny who they are, they live in their world in peace and harmony. I don't think couples who date outside their race are any different, you have to do as you want and feel, what makes you ...you! What kills seduction is a simple word "Different". People are consious of it. People aren't different in any way shape and form. How people live are different to the rest of the world. You paint your walls the color that you like, everyone else can go kiss it right. If you find a color swatch, that moves you, by golly, grab the paint can and make the color the color you wish to have. Seduce that damn color swatch until it fits your tastes like a glove. After all only you have to live with those walls only you. Seduce hard and strong. Till the next episode, I'm out.

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  38.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 07

    Like I said perhaps I do put to much into small things. I have just been disappointed so many times in my search that I begin to analyze everything. I analyze everything. I think I am thinking too much, see there I go again :-) Oh and the chivalry thing. I once heard a comedian say "yeah chivalry is dead and women killed it". I am the type of guy who will give the woman the flowers, cards and candy treatment. Not just because it is Valentines or her birthday, but simply because I want to. What is strange is most of the women I meet seem to not appreciate this. I always thought that women would enjoy a man sending them flowers just because it was Tuesday. Am I wrong?

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  39. Posted: 28 Aug 07

    Is anyone else watching the lunar eclipse? The moon's so amazingly bright and the dark side is positively glowing! It's just so cool! Kevin, I think you're putting too much faith in the tea leaves. I'm self-employed, often quite busy and make plenty of time for my friends, family and of course, my significant other. It's common during the business day to see me on my cell. On the other hand, I'll keep it silenced, in my pocket when talking to someone and put it away when I'm on a date. A "guy's" car? There were a couple of quite attractive women I said hi to a few days ago, who drove a classic Jeep - I complimented them on how fun Jeeps are, received smiles and our days were brightened for the small shared pleasure. Ooh! The eclipse is total, now! The moon is so much more dimensional than usual - It really looks like a planet! Very cool! I'm in my sailboat, looking out the forward hatch and the stars are coming out, with the darkening of the eclipsed night sky. The refracted light seems to make the moon glow, like it's on fire from within and hottest at the edges. Curiously, the earth's shadow started crossing on the upper left and though it almost finished on the lower right, at the lase, traveled to the bottom at the end. Even though it's total, there's a hint of direct light on the bottom, lighting the moon with a wonderfully dramatic orange light (due to diffraction.) overall but whiter on the bottom, a little more shadow than the dark side usually has (just barely enough to see detail), on top and smoky, overall. I can't help thinking of Mars, with this color, though it's significantly more pale. It's a treat seeing dim constellations right next to a completely-lit moon and I wish I was sharing this at sea with a sweet and enthusiastic gal, away from LA's skyglow to see the constellations brighter. Still, though, it's fitting that I'm seeing such a natural wonder from my boat, which calls me to see such wonders, every time I walk down the dock and see her (every day!). So if I have a seduction secret to share, it's sharing the pleasures of our wonderful world and really seeing others as simply people with the same delights, waiting to be woken by that joyful, commradely acknowledgement. Once you're past the fear of rejection (Understanding that only jerks/bad boys/players do not appropriately return small chivalrous kindnesses: A good tool in itself!), friendships are easier and the world brightens as it fills with smiles you've brought. Happiness is a state of mind - Decide to be so, look for the good in things and you'll find it in those around you. I like being easily amused and my life's richer for setting my alarm tonight and seeing this rare total lunar eclipse. I'm glad to have had the chance to share it and my seduction secret with you.

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  40.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 07

    Well Coco you must know something I don't. I do hope that your wish of luch rubs off on me. The ring is a stop sign. As is a cell phone. By the cell phone I mean a woman talking on the cell phone every time you see her is a BIG turn-off. If she is on the phone that much would she ever have time for me? A car can be a stop sign. If it looks like a guys car then she might have someone. There are so many red flags or stop signs that you can see with out even opening your mouth to say hi. With my luck though I am putting too much into these things.

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  41.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 07

    Your approach is NOT lame Kevin. Its quite smart. Most of the time when I was dating, men would know by the eye contact or the smile I was wearing. I love what you said about the ring being a stop sign...too funny! At least its nice to know that there are men out there like you who respect that symbol :) Good luck out there though I doubt that you need it :)

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  42.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 25 Aug 07

    The post by Star and Rubie are good. As a white man who only dates black woman the hardest part of dating is simply meeting them. Building up the nerve to approach is hard. The thought is constantly running thru your head that she will never go out with a white guy. Don't get me wrong, sometimes you can tell. I guess I can call it intuition. Other times, though, you have no clue and you don't want to embarass yourself or her. Normally what I do is this: 1st thing is I look at the ring finger for a stop sign(ring). I know some women wear rings on that finger because they don't want to be bothered, but to me that means they are not right for me. Next I simply say "hello, how are you?" Depending on eye contact and other variables I either continue or I walk away quickly. If the conversation starts I always try and get the woman to laugh. Laughing always eases tension. So that is my lame approach. Any suggestions?

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  43.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 07

    I like your post rubie. I find it so hard to get the white guys I like to talk to me I do sense they are lacking confidence, unsure if I will be into them. WELL I AM! Just stop being scurred white men. You may be surprised with our response. I have so much trouble with this, for instance I was in Blockbuster and there was a white male I was interested in and I could tell he was interested in me. He said Hi lady and gave me a nice smile, while continuously staring as I walked by and after, he kept coming in the direction I was in, but I sensed fear. Each time I looked and smiled he looked and smiled too. He checked out and was still sneaking looks. When I exited the store he was waiting in his car for me to come out and when I did he pulled up, stopped and said Bye and smiled I replied likewise. I thought to myself now why couldn't he just ask for my number, because I wanted his too. I start getting insecure thinking maybe he didn't like the car I was in (I'm a college student you know, so I'm not riding in anything luxury) and all this other crap. So white men what is up with that. I wish I wasn't so shy I would have approached him, I didn't because I know I'm shy and when you approach someone it has to come natural to sound good. :( I'm discouraged! :(

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  44.   rubie_ru says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 07

    secrets i don't know unless white men need more confidence to approach black woman and black women have to appreciate men have a fear of rejection and more so with a woman of a different race.i really don't know how it works for black men except i think white woman are more receptive and looking for them .maybe black men have a head start.so you black women take a white man to lunch for real . if you want to see a man come undone and worship you for the next 45 min .I HOPE SO FOR HIS SAKE HE REALIZES JUST WHAT GODS GIFT IS BEFORE HIM.

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  45.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 23 Aug 07

    Well....is anyone working on trying to perfect their seduction?? I thought not, lol.

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  46.   fala says:
    Posted: 22 Aug 07

    I agree Phil. Pretty well-known stuff.

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  47.   Phil says:
    Posted: 20 Aug 07

    well...there were NO SECRETS...thus a misleading title

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