Is a cocky and funny attitude necessary?

Posted by Ria, 28 Nov 07

Being in the dating field has made people learn techniques that make them more attractive to the opposite sex just so they can play the field… stay in the game! So what do you do when you meet this person who was previously “out of your league᾿?

Sometimes most people feel like they need to portray a certain image to score. It’s a trend in not only men but women alike. But does a guy always have to be cocky and funny to score when he meets a woman he wants to make his girlfriend … a woman who is “out of his league᾿ so to speak?

Most men feel being themselves to mean being the type of guy that women don’t feel any attraction for hence resorting to the cocky and funny act. But once he gets the girl and start getting closer, the guy begins to put aside the things that “worked᾿ to get the girl attracted to him in the first place… which of course leads to the dumping

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So is it ok to just relax a bit? Yes it is. But one thing I read the other day is that “Being yourself is a privilege that you have to earn, not a right.᾿ I don’t know if it makes any sense to you. But as per the article, you earn it by learning what it takes to make women feel the attraction … learning not to drive them away then turn these things into being part of yourself. Coz if you are not ready and willing to learn these things and make the changes more or less permanent (as opposed to being cocky and funny just for show), then maintaining a relationship you have worked so hard to get into will be a problem.

People get attracted to others for a reason. So if the reason was being cocky and funny, dude, you gotta pull that act for the rest of your life coz if you stop that “reason᾿, then you are going to stop the “attraction.᾿

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  1.   Snazzybella says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 10

    Cocky and funny can be super annoying. I met someone once that I was attracted to but his cocky "Im mister funny" persona became a turn off

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  2.   Wonka says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 10

    Not all the time,NO!!.However,WONKA will say this... to each his/her own.

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  3.   Sharon says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 07

    Attitude is good ...BUT I really like sweet men! Sweet is good! Southern Smiles and world peace, Sharon

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  4.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 07

    I think the C&F attitude may be helpful to guys who feel that they would otherwise be boring. It may help them with initial attraction & they can go on from there. FYI: Ladies, the C&F attitude is recommended in a popular dating book for men, our version of "The Rules". The book had other tactics for attracting women, one of them actually worked for me! It's a funny story. Contact me if interested.:)

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  5.   Fkoi says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 07

    I have learned to be myself. I have worked hard on creating the self I am now and I like me. Other folks like me too. And those that don't, at least I have the satisfaction of knowing that it's really me that they don't like instead of a front and also that those who do like me are liking more than a what I pretend to be. Now that doesn't mean I'm not willing to continue to grow and change. If I don't, I run the risk of becoming stagnant. I guess I'm lucky in a way. I've been blessed with a good sense of humour and a way with words. I keep people laughing (I hope that is with me not at me). I also can be very self-assured and sometimes even cross over into cocky (I'm working on that). Finally, I guess if woman is "out of my league" because she is not attracted to who I really am, then maybe I should turn that around and realize that I lead my league, for better or for worse, and for anyone who doesn't like me, I am out of their league.

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  6.   fala says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 07

    I agree Coco a good sense of humor is very attractive. But it's not something you can fake. If you're truly not funny it's not an act you can pull off. Best to be yourself. If you're not naturally funny play up some of your strengths instead, but I for one hate it when a guy tries too hard to impress me.

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  7.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 07

    I don't know about the "cocky" part, but a funny man had always had my attention. Meeting someone with a sense of humor as crazy as mine is always a great ice breaker. Its hard to put on airs when you are laughing your butt off :)

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  8. Posted: 28 Nov 07

    Thanks for that insight, Ria. I've grown much in the last several years due to the introspection you recommend and now enjoy my efforts at understanding the female psyche and the fascinating dynamics of dating - Kind of like being an aware lab rat (So I hear echoes of Pinky and The Brain?). I've considerably changed the presentation, rather than the material my approach in dating. Some things I've found necessary are keeping a romantic and intellectual sense of antici... pation and intrigue in the woman's mind and building a comfortable parity in conversations. You're right in emphasizing how those skills can help build more satisfying relationships.

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