Is bedroom etiquette necessary?

Posted by Ria, 05 Nov 07

Ever woken up next to someone and all you could let out was an “oops᾿? Well I am sure most of us have heard lots of jaw-dropping bad bedroom behavior tales over the years. Imagine waking up to someone telling you they have herpes after you have slept with them. :roll:

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Much as we are in the 21st century, there are some people who are pretty uncivilized when it comes to sex hence the need to slap some sex etiquette into them. But do we really need this?

Some may argue that the bedroom is one place where you shouldn’t mind your Ps and Qs. However sex requires principles of conduct too… just like having tea with some high and mighty Queen. You may argue that principles may spoil the enjoyment; but no one says that rules in chess spoil the enjoyment – they simply help you play well with others.

In the same way, sex etiquette is there to ensure both parties get screwed without necessarily getting screwed over.

One lady could never get her boyfriend to react to her insults until she sang “It’s a small world in your pants᾿!!!!! Now how does one get herself out of this one? Such comments about the size of you know what or shrinking boobies make the other person feel like they are incapacitated in some way. No one likes being criticized about sex. So if a move he or she is pulling on you doesn’t rock your boat, choose your words carefully.

However, much there is need for etiquette in the bedroom, a little Neanderthal behavior is often welcome. Like they say, rules are made to be broken. If a gentleman was gentle at all times and a lady a lady, then we would never hear of oral sex, now would we? Kinky stuff like light bondage or some dirty talk requires one to loosen up a little to the rude and naughty side.

The idea that monogamy = end of throw-me-against-the-wall sex, or some quickie in the pub restroom is an old and tired myth. Much as we want to employ good manners in the bedroom, let’s not be too uptight and stifle a supposed-to-be vigorous sex life.

What are your views on sex etiquette? Does it make or break one’s sex life?

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  1.   Jambo78 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 10

    Its the responsibility of each en everyone of us to protect ourselves when having sex,Its also good to know your status that way u can always try to protect yourself,some people dont even know that they have stds ,they even dont know that they are spreading it around.......

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  2.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 09

    When you choose only one and wash your hands properly of all others who like a Larger Variety in their lives / You shall never spread anything around . Commitment , Loyalty and Honor / Three words so soon Forgotten , If I said it , I meant it . It sure nuff wood take a Larger Man than me to satisfy more than one Ladie . My wife made the same Commitment , Loyalty and Honor to me and she thinks it Fits Just like it Should . We neither one of Us were born Yesterday . God Blessed Me when I met Her , GIVE A FEW DROPS OF BLOOD - Modern Medicine has came a long way since Puberty .

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  3.   BrownB09 says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 09

    Exactly,its always good to protect yourself so that you won't have to worry about what if's! The whole herpes thing is crazy because I heard that people are getting it at an alarming rate.Id be mad as hell if somebody told me something like that after we've been intimate!

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  4.   VA_SongBird says:
    Posted: 22 Feb 09

    Most of the situations mentioned are avoidable. Get tested and know your status. Let good values and common sense govern your behavior.

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  5. Posted: 27 Mar 08

    what goes on in my bed is my biz, i dont want to know about someone elses behind closed doors mess. on the other hand i do want to know if my partner has a disease of some sort so that i can take proper precautions to make sure that i dont get it and spread it around

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  6. Posted: 13 Nov 07

    etiquette as far as bieng truthful BEFORE 2 people enter a bed room,YES! Communication is always key.If your foolish enough to get yourself in a bad situation well....You know what they say about making your bed.other than that,keep it between you 2 and the sheets.

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  7.   fala says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    I agree Sakary! ;-)

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  8.   Sakary says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    The case is clear: Everything social (including sex) in this world requires communication, preferably civilized! Sort of a thing fala said in the previous comment ...

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  9.   fala says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    Good etiquette and common courtesy are important everywhere.

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  10.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    What goes on in my bedroom is between me and my mate. "Nuff said! :)

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  11.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 07

    Bedroom ettiquette..lol. Chelsey is funny! However funny this is, it is a call for it. I can't speak for most but , I will speak from personal. A small world in his pants, that isn't quite the genere I would say to a guy, yet if he is a "little soldier" and he knows it he shouldn't be advertising he is the GENERAL. Is it wrong to say ,"you can't f**k"? Everyone hates to put in 100% and get nothing. Men and women are afraid to speak their minds. Hey my motto, if you feel it say it. If you are serious about this person, you may want to get the bedroom meetings up to par, speak your mind, get out a book, a magazine, for godsakes a dvd. Everyone is self conscious about their body, and the parts we have, unlike the YouTube blog, I am speaking in serious realtionships. If you dig a person, imperfections dont' really matter, but, both parties shouldn't be afraid to say," I didn't have a good time, I didn't get my jollies". The light bulb should come on, maybe we need to try this or that. That is good bedroom etiquette, speaking your mind, not sliding out the bed, thinking, he or she can't f**k. Bedroom Etiquette, speak your mind, don't slide out of bed and think otherwise, and let your mate think, they are the bomb. Don't fake it, for godsakes, that just ruins the relationship. If it wasn't good, you pop in a dvd, both of you watch it and see what gets it going. Most important of all, if you enjoyed it, leave your ladylove a single rose across her chest(thorn free of course). Ladies if the man showed he is the King of the Pack, pamper him to death, so you can get some more of that sexy, later on that day or better yet that night. That is good "bedroom etiquette". I'm Out!

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