Is oral sex more intimate?

Posted by Ria, 17 Nov 08

It can be extremely pleasurable for men and women especially … you know, the clit stimulation … need I say more? It is one of the moist most exceedingly erotic, loving and satisfying, sexual activities you can allow yourself the luxury of. So why is this particular act a source of dissatisfaction and anxiety for couples? Could be because it taps into a wide range of fears, insecurities and neuroses ... or maybe the idea of having their faces buried in places swimsuits cover seems eeeeeeeeeewwwwwwww!!!!!!!!

That aside, do you think oral sex is even more intimate than intercourse?

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  1.   Silverelite says:
    Posted: 14 Aug 13

    Pretty much the best ever!!!!!! My absolute favorite pastime activity! Nothing is a bigger turn on than giving or receiving.

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  2.   beautiful53 says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 12

    oral sex is very important in a relationship and it is very intimate. If both parties have the confidence and the desire and trust each other.

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  3.   ms_nikki513 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 12

    Wow !!!! Well for me my oral is great and i love to recive also, but however it do not take that place of some good old "Penis" keep the oral i take some good old love making any day over oral sex !!!!!! :)

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  4.   RODEODRIVE says:
    Posted: 17 Apr 10

    ORAL sex is extremely intimate! When an individual can comfortably and pleasurably place their lips on someone else's private area... wow... that is intimate!!

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  5.   jb says:
    Posted: 24 Mar 10

    i so totally agree wit ninja39 she absolutely correct

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  6.   Wonka says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 10

    VOTE FOR:Oral Sex!!,it's the best candidate!!(LoL!).

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  7.   Wonka says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 10

    Wonka says YEAH!!,too oral sex.I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT. OMG,it feels so good,especially when I'm tired and I come home from a long-hard days work,oh boy it's the BEST!!.Quickies aren't too bad either,depending on who and what she is,as well as the environment. -WONKA LOVES IT!!.

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  8.   SnazzyBella says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 09

    Its the most intimate exchange a couple can have. And one that i believe too many people indulge in lightly.

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  9.   Shotgun007 says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 09

    Yes, oral sex is more intimate. Shotgun007

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  10.   Kifarupembe says:
    Posted: 15 May 09

    There is nothing better than oral sex - especially at my advanced age. I am 85 years old and still enjoy sex but 'it' refuses to stand up for itself any more. I have a younger partner who I am still able to satisfy by giving her oral. She reaches an orgasm every time which is more than can be said sometimes with what might be called 'normal sex'.

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  11.   CUTIEPIE43 says:
    Posted: 12 May 09

    Oral Sex..... my take on the whole things is as follows. get down on it.... do whatcha feel. if my man likes it great, if i like it great. Let's consider a one night stand and oral sex for some it's doable for others not so doable and that's ok but i think each should let each other know their personal take on the subject befor they commit to the act. My personal take on the whole oral sex act is i like it and i want more of it. the giving to my partner is a total turn on for me as i know i'm making him feel ohhhh soooo fine and and visa versa. now a gentlmen will want to take care of me first, but for me i need to look, feel and most of all taste and smell him before i go totally bonkers(meaning b4 i lose selfcontrol and am unable to return the favor). for me it's like teasing myself. in my mind there is nothing more sexy then seeing my guy with a stiffie and yearning for me take him and letting me control him as i please. yes i know what i'm doing and am damn proud of that fact(sizzling hot). having said that my man should know what he's doing as well as he will control me. if one really stops and thinks about it oral sex is really a journey as other aspects of love making are as well. so in short if your gonna take ya time and do it just do it right and for god sakes enjoy it to the fullest.

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  12.   ninja39 says:
    Posted: 09 May 09

    No and excuse my french but Hell no. Not in today's world. You have men and women running around performing oral sex on everyone that they meet. You even have young teens thinking that if they are not being penetrated or penetrating anyone they can still be considered a virgin if they are performing oral sex. I say what a crock of Boo Boo! When I lost my virginity my boyfriend wanted to perform oral sex on me and I was 17 at the time and I said no. I didn't ever let him do that or I didn't do it to him until I was 20 and that's because I was afraid of it and I thought that you only did that to the person that you would be married to. So if we weren't going to get married then I was going to save it for my husband. It should be a very intimate thing because just think about the act. You are making love to a penis or a vagine with your mouth and it shoudn't be something that's mechanical. I've had oral sex performed on me and I knew that he was doing it to me just like he probably did it to all the women he had been with. So enough said but to answer the question again, in this world oral sex is not intimate.

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  13.   rebita says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 09

    Depends on the level of intimacy in the relationship. If it's just a rogue penis I will pass.

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  14. Posted: 01 Feb 09

    It can be, it just depends on the people doing it. Young kids these days are doing it in school, with strangers, for presents, etc. That being said, a lot of the time it is just a selfish act. Whether it be for bragging rights (Yes, some girls also brag on that) or for what possessions or benefits a person might get from the other for it. With couples, it can be either/or also. If it's done to please the partner, and not pressured or forced, then of course it's very intimate, and sometimes more so than intercourse. If performed begrudgingly, then it is not intimate, even in a committed relationship. I have to disagree with babygirlTS. It's not always completely selfless or done purely for the other person's satisfaction. A lot of people actually enjoy giving oral sex, and may crave it. Even though in my experience, oral sex has been more intimate than intercourse, in a general sense it is definitely not.

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  15.   babygirlTS says:
    Posted: 01 Feb 09

    It's definitely more intimate because it's a completely selfless act. Usually you're doing it purely for the other person's satisfaction and not your own.

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  16.   KME says:
    Posted: 14 Jan 09

    It is more private that intercourse.

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  17.   tmax1963 says:
    Posted: 12 Jan 09

    I do it because I can concentrate on pleasuring my woman exclusively. It is the one time when it is all about her. the connection I feel orally to her is more intense, to me when she is enjoying it and allowing the sensations to wash over her. it makes everything that happens even better. And ladies, dont be so worried about your aroma... we know you have good personal hygiene or we would not be down there in the first place. If you taste like soap or baby powder i'm not gonna like it as much... it comes down to trust. that's what makes it so special.

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 09

    Many ladies are worried "fishy" smell in pussy. Please forget it. It is your personal, strong aroma, no one else have the same. Let your partner to enjoy it!

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 09

    I'm oral addict. Not only my wife, but the ladies I've been close before marriage never uderstand my addiction totally. I'm very clean, that is ok, but ladies not understand I need my lady not-showered. I relally love strong, musky smell, the smell of Life. The best after long workday, juicy fluid, pee smell, anus earthy odour. Sweaty armpits smell. Not "food" without smell for me!

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  20.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 09

    Ria , I am sorry that I missed thre topic at hand , because I have learned to read too fast eeeeewwwww!!!! in our house we do not wear swimsuits to bed either wwhhheeee ~~~~~***** and phewwww ahaaa

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  21.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 09

    I read a sign at the restroom entrance of a grocery store - it said employees must wash hands before returning to work , it caused me to laugh . You walk through an opening - no door no more / walk up to the urinal - unzip hang it out and pea /Hehe . When you wipe the head with paper to get drops away and stand back - it Flushes without touching any thing , rezip after putting it away . My daddy taught me not to pea on my own hand , so I do not wash hands before leaving / alas I am not an employee - I am a customer and I was taught . The customers always right . LOL

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  22.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 09

    And when I shake anothers hand / I immediately go wash mine , clean hands also carry germs .

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  23.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 09

    With the invention of inside plumbling , hot water heaters and liquid soaps / I cannot even imagine anyone going to bed any less than clean . To answer a question : I do not know much about the taste , I do know that she enjoys it as much as I enjoy the privilege she allows me bye doing such n' so / and you talk about the motion of the ocean . It also tickles me on the bottom . # 69 cum en toward the finish line .

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  24.   homestud says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 08

    Oral sex can be a great stress reliever. When my lady comes home from a long day at the office, about once a week, I greet her at the door and she can tell I'm looking to spend a long time pleasuring her with my tongue. Once I start, she wouldn't have it any other way ... I could go on

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  25.   dolly48 says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 08

    ok Stupid question, but while we are on the subject... I've asked guys what does oral sex on a woman "taste" like? they just say it tastes good? Is there a certain taste to compare it to?? ice cream? lolipops? as far as cleanliness, i once read that the vagina has to be the cleanest part of a woman's body because that's where a newborn is delivered. Also, of course all should be clean always. I wont even shake a persons hand if their hands arent clean (so you know i wont do anything else) I dont want to to stir up anything, but the gentleman whose girl did not allow him to perform oral sex on her.......are you sure "she" was a she??

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  26.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 08

    or let 's just talk about it . As talking is also oral sex.

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  27.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 08

    What more special Lover than ones own wife ?

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  28.   Maridoe says:
    Posted: 26 Dec 08

    Good Morning All, this is such a funny topic and the responses! Well some are not to be believed! May I throw a few cents into the mix? There are few way's to distinguish one's lovemaking from the field, and Oral Sex is a very important way to offer pleasure to a special lover. There are so many way's in which this act can touch his/her heart. A very special Kiss, one that may require some hot conversation to establish ground rules for the shy. I think the benefits are many and that it is a special "treat" so exciting that I can't imagine depriving myself of! Conversation, information sharing and gathering is a good thing for all of us to do. It's my humble opinion, Mari

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  29.   jacuzzi says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 08

    wel by reading all these stuffs make me eager to get one right now,i love giving it and receiving it at the same time.to me is the live blood of a sexual relationship, gals if u want it 24/7 go to gainako2009@yahoo.com i will be there waiting for u.

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  30.   SxyWhtTiger says:
    Posted: 09 Dec 08

    I have to agree with ashley720 and a few others too about this. I think it is both pleasurable and very intimate for both persons in the relationship. I also think that both partners must be willing to do it and not just one. I couldn't be in a relationship if she wasn't willing to do it. I really turns me on to orally satisfy my partner and would definitely do it for her. I agree both partners must be clean and that doesn't mean just washing it but to also keep it clean shaven.

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 04 Dec 08

    Of course, it is more intimate - and, the best way to pleasure a gal. Unfortunately, a guys cock when in the vagina, usually does not come into contact with the clit. My guy says that he loves it when he can feel the contractions of my orgasm on his mouth because then he knows for sure that he has given me pleasure.

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  32.   EbonyLicker says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 08

    For all you brown sugar princesses that have starring roles in my fantasies ... ===================================== Thoughts of her were playing like endless movies in his head. He couldn't stop them. He didn't want to. These fantasies drove his passion for her ... he knew that only the taste of her luscious brown skin between his lips would satisfy it. He imagined holding her close ... kissing her deeply and passionately ... the scent of her hair ... the feel of her warmth. It all came together for him. He knew it was right ... and he wanted to give her the most intense physical pleasures she had ever experienced. He wanted it to be memorable for her. After kissing and playing with her suckable toes he would start at the inside of her knee ... taking in all that beautiful brown ... savoring every inch of her long, sweet inner thighs ... slowly but resolutely kissing, tasting and making his way up to the planned ecstasy. Caressing and adoring her beauty he would approach her inner sanctum ... enjoying its perfect shape, color, scent ... anticipating the taste of sweet brown sugar. She knew what was coming as he put his warm, wet lips gently against her labia ... kissing them ... teasing them ... waiting for her to quiver before entering. He held her hands firmly ... told her how beautiful she was and how much he wanted this. She could feel his warm breath and the vibrations of his voice resonate inside her. His lips went deeper ... holding open the doorway ... as tongue went deeper still ... reaching out searching for her most sensitve places. Licking ... kissing ... pushing in and out ... around ... inside ... outside ... everywhere ... long lapping swipes ... full mouth coverage with deep tongue penetrations ... licking and teasing ... as the waves of pleasure began to build. She would squirm but there was no stopping the inevitable ecstasy that she knew was coming. She could feel his tongue so deep inside ... then he would pull back to give her clitoris a lashing ... it went on and on ... until she felt like she would explode ... when she went over the edge ... her body rigid ... her breathing exaggerated. The most intense orgasm of her life had grabbed her and wouldn't let go. ========================================

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  33.   sam1958e says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 08

    being able to give my partner oral sex, to me, is totally gratifying, and is, in some respect the totally most intimate that a man can have with the woman, his partner,,,and then in return, when she does me, her partner, it just sents me over the edge completely,,,,so awesome,,,,,just love it,,,, sam.1958e at yahoo dot com

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  34.   IMOJMA says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 08

    Yes of course it is more inimate. But it does make the rest of the love making much more pleasurable. If he knows what to do LOL. Some men need to be taught as well as women. Open communication is good. I enjoy giving and receiving!!

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  35.   deepdiver says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 08

    well ide love to meet nassy3, wooo add chocalate ,,not to you as your chocalate,, best is to share a and lick softly and when she cums ,,hold her and do it again ,,,it will blow her mind ,,,,,,,,,,,,

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  36.   charmyluv says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 08

    I would love to get some right now am so horny from reading these post,seriously i dont think i would ever marry a man who doesnt do it. i love oral sex

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  37.   sam1958e says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 08

    for both parties to give and receive, there is more intimate satisfaction given to each. personally, i truly thrive on giving my partner oral and being able to watch her total satisfaction,,,and the sweetest taste that could ever be enjoyed...if and whenever i ever get a new partner to give to,,,,totally enjoy giving and giving,,,,,

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    • lachris says:
      Posted: 07 May 12

      I totally agree that oral is more intimate. If both parties have the confidence and the desire and trust each other than that means a lot! I don't take any type of sex lightly per say, but oral means trust and security and very very pleasurable!!

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  38.   SciFiLover says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 08

    Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh.....yeah, OK.

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  39.   PhoenixBird says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 08

    Good Afternoon. This is not normally a subject (I) would comment on, but it is an important one, which deserves to be explored, more than from a sensual perspective which seeks mere, immediate satisfaction. As a person who seeks more in-depth relationships, I see two distinct ways to focus upon this subject. First, the most obvious and superficial aspect of this act can be viewed as part of sexual love-making.and we can just leave it at that. Its stimulating, pleasurable and just plain fun. Most adult couples will agree on this; even though it may be taboo in other cultures of our society and particularly among certain religious groups. Clearly, there is no reason to offend the dissenters with something that seems too objectionable to them, for what ever their reasons may be. Taste, feel, emotional insecurities, certain fears (justifiable and not) and of course old-school training and misunderstanding are all included in the objection column. From the standpoint of religious objection, it is easy to see why many believe it is inherently wrong to practice this kind of sexual behavior; nor would any of us wish to disturb the conscience of anyone who feels that it is a sinful practice. (By the way, I know that includes many of you who are silently reading this right now.) It can be argued very powerfully, however, that the practice of oral sexual activity (is indeed) a very sacred and Scriptural practice.believe it or not. It IS a very viable sexual expression and produces a vast variety of positive effects when performed with care and respect for each others deeper sensitivities. Feel free to contact me if you have any comment you wish to share on this issue. The second perspective or focus, to be considered (beyond the obvious physical pleasure) is one which, sadly is overlooked by the large majority of lovers...yet it is more relevant to their lives than they may ever guess. It deals with the after-affect of such sexual endeavors. Men, we must realize that inside every woman, is a little girl (who needs our nurturing and care as well). Therefore, if we blatantly abuse or misuse our special woman, whether we realize it or not, we may injure the tender sensitivities of the woman we are (presumably) loving. The result will be her inability to fully love us in return; though she may seem to,...on the surface. But in reality, we may kill the goose who has the ability to lay us a truly golden egg of eternal love and devotion. Now,...if a one-nite-stand is all we have in mind,.this may not seem important. But if a valuable relationship is our ultimate objective, lets as men, be mindful...and ...considerate. If, through our crassness (of the way we behave when exploring the powerful potential of a womans lovely physical body) we IGNOR the fact that she is ALSO an eternal, spiritual being (who is capable of unleashing upon us, an enormous positively charged energy from within her inner-person) not just her precious and delicate feminine fluids.we will miss the greatest potential of her blessing upon us. Instead, we will be left with the dust of her wonderful flesh, when our very lives might have been renewed and our spiritual strength immeasurably increased! Additionally, we could have enjoyed some part much deeper and longer lasting and much more satisfying...which she alone can give us as her gift of love. All this and more, if we could only have learned to respect the GIFT of LOVE. And...for what its worth,..this is the perfect season to explore this wonderful potential of love! God bless you.

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  40.   ashley720 says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 08

    I think it's a great thing...and yes...both people need to be clean. I prefer for both of us to be shaven...it's just better. Besides, that's when my guy likes to just rub his face in it -giggles- and I like it when he's shaven also..it's just kinda gross to have a hair get in your mouth, right? lol But giving and recieving is nice...but you MUST know what you're doing. If you're down there for hours and I'm feeling nothing, I'm going to get annoyed...which happens in my present relationship. :/ But when I'm giving I love to feel him throbbing and feeling his veins and such...hmmm!

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  41. Posted: 25 Nov 08

    It is also one of the best way to please your partner. Really multiple orgasm can be assured.

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  42. Posted: 24 Nov 08

    that response is to the lady who says it is inapproiate to talk about it

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  43. Posted: 24 Nov 08

    come on girlfriend what you reading up on oral sex if you feel adults shouldnot dicuss it ,big people convo we will try to find something a little less dirty

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  44.   02bigbird says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 08

    At first i thought oral sex was gross unless I was getting it but now i'm 25 an I think its its great I love to recieve an gtve

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  45.   curveegirl says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    I definitely think oral sex is more intimate....I've noticed a lot of comments on here about cleanliness which makes me wonder... Why in the world would you be with someone who wasn't clean anyway? I mean...maybe I'm naive...or just very particular...but I wouldn't date a person who I didn't feel was hygenicly clean...and I certainly wouldn't have sex with them. I save oral sex for monogamous relationships. I love it...just don't want to share that with just anyone...and don't really understand why folks do. I feel that there has to be certain level of trust. ;)

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  46. Posted: 23 Nov 08

    Amen!!!!!!!!!!!I think oral sex is much more pleasureable and sastifying for both the giver and the receiver and I'm staying til both my tongue and she are worn out

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  47.   salsera77 says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    More intimate? I don't know about all that but I'll just put it this way. I won't be with someone who won't! ...and of course it's a given that both parties need to be clean. That's par for the course.

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  48.   Retty says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    Yes!!!!!!!!!! But for myself it is very, very erotic. I love to perform it on my man. To watch him, if he's sitting to watch his behind come up off the chair a good foot or higher, it is such a turn on for me. The consistant eye contact as well. It is the most intimate. It is an art form.

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  49.   ed2653 says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 08

    The intimacy is beyond measure when done right.The four women that have had the pleasure of my ablities in my life time would tell you that they had to push me away or pass out.There is nothing more beautiful then have her toes curl and loose her breath.And don't forget her legs locking on your head.The idea is to give her joy first and foremost.

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  50.   fromrwluv says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 08

    Pleasurable yes, more intimate - hardly. Since it is still somewhat taboo and can have domination/control flavor it may require some degree of beyond skin-deep connection to engage in it. True intimacy zone is beyond the "doing" part - it has an origin somewhere where words no longer have meaning, because they cannot adequately describe what you feel and it permeates everything you do... It is that special connection with another human being that makes life worth living, otherwise, it is just sex that can be better or worse, but never leaves you satisfied beyond sort period of time. Having oral sex in and of itself is not an indication of more "intimate" relationship. In either case, I believe it is great as a part of foreplay, but not as a main course, unless the "chef" has some issues with the "entree"... LOL Oral sex, no matter how good it was never left me satisfied as a stand alone thing. I don't understand some guys obsession with oral sex - they have completely opposite take on it.

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