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Is oral sex more intimate?

Posted by Ria, 17 Nov

It can be extremely pleasurable for men and women especially … you know, the clit stimulation … need I say more? It is one of the moist most exceedingly erotic, loving and satisfying, sexual activities you can allow yourself the luxury of. So why is this particular act a source of dissatisfaction and anxiety for couples? Could be because it taps into a wide range of fears, insecurities and neuroses ... or maybe the idea of having their faces buried in places swimsuits cover seems eeeeeeeeeewwwwwwww!!!!!!!!

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That aside, do you think oral sex is even more intimate than intercourse?

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  1.   strongwoman8 says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 08

    come on girlfriend what you reading up on oral sex if you feel adults shouldnot dicuss it ,big people convo we will try to find something a little less dirty

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  2.   02bigbird says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 08

    At first i thought oral sex was gross unless I was getting it but now i'm 25 an I think its its great I love to recieve an gtve

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  3.   curveegirl says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    I definitely think oral sex is more intimate....I've noticed a lot of comments on here about cleanliness which makes me wonder... Why in the world would you be with someone who wasn't clean anyway? I mean...maybe I'm naive...or just very particular...but I wouldn't date a person who I didn't feel was hygenicly clean...and I certainly wouldn't have sex with them. I save oral sex for monogamous relationships. I love it...just don't want to share that with just anyone...and don't really understand why folks do. I feel that there has to be certain level of trust. ;)

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  4.   ltsgt2gether says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    Amen!!!!!!!!!!!I think oral sex is much more pleasureable and sastifying for both the giver and the receiver and I'm staying til both my tongue and she are worn out

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  5.   salsera77 says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    More intimate? I don't know about all that but I'll just put it this way. I won't be with someone who won't! ...and of course it's a given that both parties need to be clean. That's par for the course.

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  6.   Retty says:
    Posted: 23 Nov 08

    Yes!!!!!!!!!! But for myself it is very, very erotic. I love to perform it on my man. To watch him, if he's sitting to watch his behind come up off the chair a good foot or higher, it is such a turn on for me. The consistant eye contact as well. It is the most intimate. It is an art form.

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  7.   ed2653 says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 08

    The intimacy is beyond measure when done right.The four women that have had the pleasure of my ablities in my life time would tell you that they had to push me away or pass out.There is nothing more beautiful then have her toes curl and loose her breath.And don't forget her legs locking on your head.The idea is to give her joy first and foremost.

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  8.   fromrwluv says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 08

    Pleasurable yes, more intimate - hardly. Since it is still somewhat taboo and can have domination/control flavor it may require some degree of beyond skin-deep connection to engage in it. True intimacy zone is beyond the "doing" part - it has an origin somewhere where words no longer have meaning, because they cannot adequately describe what you feel and it permeates everything you do... It is that special connection with another human being that makes life worth living, otherwise, it is just sex that can be better or worse, but never leaves you satisfied beyond sort period of time. Having oral sex in and of itself is not an indication of more "intimate" relationship. In either case, I believe it is great as a part of foreplay, but not as a main course, unless the "chef" has some issues with the "entree"... LOL Oral sex, no matter how good it was never left me satisfied as a stand alone thing. I don't understand some guys obsession with oral sex - they have completely opposite take on it.

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  9.   afar64 says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 08

    Hey ya'all,i've enjoyed your comments and opinions about oral sex..........I mean oral sex is the most intimate thing that people in love can ever do.It's so sensational and quite stimulating...let's the heavenly juices flowing.....lol I applaud Michelle's comments.........yup cleanliness should be paramount to both partiners,coz {hell no}no body wants to eat by a "dump site'' oral sex can be boring if it's one sided,so both partiners need to be fully engaged in it to achieve the fullest pleasure........

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  10.   chaacha402 says:
    Posted: 21 Nov 08

    ooooooooo for sure!

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  11.   beauty28 says:
    Posted: 21 Nov 08

    umm...just thinkin about it makes me giggle.

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  12.   blue1 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    SashaK. Of course you are 100% right. Kissing is more important than any part of sex and it is part of it.

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  13.   SashaK says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    WalrusOfLove: LOL...maybe "her thing" was C-O-N-T-R-O-L (?) Party1: You ARE joking, right? LMAO

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  14.   SashaK says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    Actually, I think kissing is far more intimate, but oral IS more intimate than intercourse. Intercourse is pretty easy to do for the most part, but you actually have to LIKE oral to give or receive it. Wouldn't hurt to know what you're doing also LOL! It's great for those of you who are private. We're we're all adults here and as such, we're bound to have adult convos. Too personal? Don't respond. I think the question would have been far more inappropriate if posted on...let's say...a children's message board!

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  15.   911medic says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    to be blunt -- I like oral sex -- giving AND receiving. It IS very intimate. And yes, odors and taste issues DO occur -- I want to be clean as well as my partner -- and hell YES I wanna be a glazed doughnut! I love when a woman digs her nails in my hair and tells me 'eat me oh LAWD I am gonna cum!' Yet, many women thing the idea of oral pleasing is GROSS -- case in point: Meet a wonderful lady on here from St Maarten -- as things naturally progressed, she liked me to please HER orally -- hours and hours of it -- but to her -- she was repulsed of the idea of sucking some **** And on another note -- any man that expects his knob to get waxed better be prepared to reciprocate and ladies, vice versa

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  16.   blcknurse43 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    First and foremost, I am a very private person. I find this question inappropriate and private. Let me just say, YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT!

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  17.   cleta18 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    I think that sex in itself is great!!! Oral is fun but nothing is more initmate then being face 2 face with the one you love. I enjoy it and enjoy the fact that I'm making someone I care for happy but, oral sex isn't as passion filled as real love making. sorry boys Cleta :)

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  18.   blue1 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 08

    Is there sex without getting and giving oral sex???? for me there is no other way. If she isn't clean and doesn't return the favor I will move on. Love to watch the loss of control

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  19.   goddess47 says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 08

    It is definetly more intimate. You are trusting someone to be up close and personal with a very private part of you. If its done right both partners will enjoy it immensely . Dont forget to protect yourselves and keep those areas clean.NOONE likes to eat garbage so please do not smell like one! Oral sex is not considered to be a "normal" part of sex and it's 'bad' or 'unclean' to closed minded people.(Is that what you were thinknig Party1? cuz I just know you were kidding...right?)

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  20.   cami1210 says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 08

    You can't put everything in your mouth but You are not going to hold my intrest w/o it. And yes both partners need to be clean. It makes me wet when I please my partner orally and even wetter when he returns the favor. Oral is one of the most intimate things shared

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  21.   knew2this says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 08

    I enjoy giving and receiving oral. It turns me on to give it. I agree with everyone that men and women both need to be clean before receiving. You also have to be comfortable enough to guide your partner to do it the way you like it. I could not stay with a man long-term who didn't do it. It's a turn on if he holds on to my hair while I do it, and you know I'm gonna be grabbing his head! Oral is great!

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  22.   whadaspicgurl says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 08

    It is very intimate and extremely important to me...seeing as how I how an oral fixation....I couldn't date a man for any length of time that didn't not just like but love oral sex.

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  23.   chum222 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    It's the only way two people can fully say that they had a great session. Pleasing your partner to the fullest and I mean fullest, if you have to stay down there for half an hour. I promise you the end result will be to the ten. One person was looking for an oral expert, and I thought ok. That's why so many men men cheat. And fewer women that admit it do too.

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  24.   sarasmile329 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    If you've experienced it, it's a part of you having sex anyway, the answers is obvious (hell yeah). If you haven't experienced it you are automatically negative because you don't know what you are missing. If you've had it done and you're still negative, then the person didn't know what the hell he/she was doing and you have my condolence, and sincere sympathy...but please don't give up because there is someone out there (I'm sure), that will can and will turn your ass out!!!

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  25.   sarasmile329 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    If you've experienced it, and it's a part of your sexual encounters anyway, the answers is obvious (hell yeah). If you haven't experienced it you are automatically negative because you don't know what you are missing. If you've experienced it and you're still negative, then the person didn't know what the hell he/she was doing and you have my condolence, and sincere sympathy...but please don't give up because there is someone out there (I'm sure), that will can and will turn your ass out!!!

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  26.   nia21 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    Well, I've enjoyed reading the responses above. I am in total agreement with TallSweet, as I am also scorpio (although to be honest, I'm not sure what that has to do with anything). There is nothing better than pleasuring your partner in this way, and allowing him to the same for you. But, you've BOTH got to enjoy it. It's awful if you think that he is doing it out of a sense of obligation, you can't relax and enjoy the moment. You've got to feel that he WANTS to do it. And yes, cleanliness is paramount. Don't even get me started on that one!

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  27.   roseanne1966 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    As with most things in life, it takes time, patience and practice. It is probably one of the most rewarding things a man and woman can experience together. If men and women trully want their relationships to extend past just the first 6 months, it is worth understanding how satisfying oral sex can be.

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  28.   code56 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    What if you both like it very much, but one gets to anxious and can't come? How does one relax and just let go and enjoy?

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  29.   nassy3 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    do u need a torch to find ur way down there honey? ooh here it is. ive found it...... if u need a gud reason to suck or lick try chocolating it first. this culd be sweeter than u imagined. what i mean is no couple shuld find an excuse not to have oral sex. i think tis logic 4 the sake of satisfaction.....surely

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  30.   caterino44 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    i agree with WalrusOfLove.....if your partner does not like oral sex it can be a source of a disconnection....it is the most intimate thing a couple can do with one another....there should be no inhibitions when it comes to the bedroom so ladies remember your man wants his lady in the streets but it is ok to be a freak in the sheets...give him what feels good to him or he might look elsewhere for it...i love to give my man oral (if i had one) and love him to give it to me.(again if i had one)....pleasing my man is the most important thing to me....because i know when i keep him happy he is sure to keep me happy...

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  31.   WalrusOfLove says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    In my experience it is not to every womans taste...granted it may only be a small percentage, but some of you out there don't like to be pleasured in this way. My last partner did not ever let me vist her Lady Garden in the time we were together, althought she would perform this act on me...she would not let me return the gesture. She said "It wasn't her thing"...but it was mine...I love to pleasure my partner in this way, and of course as Michelle said...one has to be fresh & clean..you dont have to taste like passion fruit, but at least make to effort. It didnt make our sex lives boring, but I found that I was missing that real "intimate connection"

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  32.   kenyanito says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    oh Party1...i hope you are joking coz if you ain't then man you are missing out on alot...And yes one needs to be clean

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  33.   WHURR says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    Since I am a 100% VAGitarian, it only becomes intimate when she squeezes your ears so hard with her thighs that the loss of hearing/ear-blockage from the 1981 AC/DC concert gets cleared....then its intimate. If that doesn't happen... it was just sex w/o intimacy! Is it considered intimate if the people in the International Arrivals pick-up zone are watching from the sidewalk, while you are parked in the emergency lane?

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  34.   TallSweet47 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    First let me say being a scorpian, oral sex is very important to me. I love to give it and receive it, and like Michelle said, yes a woman has to be very clean, have a clean fresh scent without the perfumes. If a man is not giving oral pleasure for whatever reason, it's a shame because your missing out as well as your partner, and you both should be able to talk about it, because it is so very important to pleasing the female anatomy, and you'll just end up in a break-up.

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  35.   Javan2 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    Yes, I agree 100% with Michelle. The one receiving must be clean and smell good or have little to no smell at all. If the woman is very clean and attractive, the easier it is to stay down there, but anymore so many people cheat nowadays it gets hard to do something like that. Men who don't do it for their women will almost always lose her to a man who loves to do it. So, guys and ladies have to balance it out. In the past, I've had a lady who loved giving it more than any other sexual act. Very lucky to experience a woman like that and she'd stay down working for hours.

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  36.   EbonyLicker says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    I have to admit that pleasuring a woman (especially a black woman) in this fashion is the best for me. Licking that brown sugar bowl until she busts one hard is at the top of my fantasies. Its only when I know it's good for her that it's good for me.

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  37.   WalrusOfLove says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    excuse the typolas lol.....still laughing

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  38.   WalrusOfLove says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    I had a mature respone all lined up in my head....then I read Party1's post and I could not stop laughing....sorry Party1(if you're being serious...which I doubt you are lol).. P.S. Will post a serious response when I stop laughing..

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  39.   WalrusOfLove says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 08

    I had a mature respone all lined up in my head....then I red Party1's post and I could not stop laughing....sorry Party1(if you're being serious...which I doubt you are lol).. P.S. Will post a serious response when I stop laughing..

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  40.   Michelle100 says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Yes, but the one receiving it should ensure that he/she is clean and fresh!

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  41.   Coca4Cream says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Yes, I think oral sex is much more intimate than intercourse. It's probably one of the most satisfying feelings a man and woman can experience. I think it's a shared experience between both people and it certaintly enhances the art of love making. So, if your on the fence about engaging in oral sex, I say come outside of your comfort zone and try something new.

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  42.   Coca4Cream says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Oral sex can be the most stimulating and satisfaying pleasure a man and woman can give each other. Love making is a bound between two people and there should be no hang-ups when it comes to sexual intercourse or oral sex. I believe in making sure that my lover is pleased in every way possible and that it shouldn't be a one way street either. However, that's not to say that when considering to perform oral sex some please aren't so gun hoe about it. Also, please make sure that you know your partner's status as well as your own. Because while it may be about pleasure its also about safety. So, if there are those that think the act of oral sex is dirty, keep an open mind and don't limit yourself and or your partner.

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  43.   party1 says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Dear Future Wife and Mother in Law, Be assured I would never marry a woman that publically engaged in this conversation. Sincerely, Party1

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  44.   trail_hiker says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Ladies, If your guy goes down on you everyday because he likes the way you taste and you smell without perfumes, you have got yourself a pussy-slave for life. Enjoy it.

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  45.   Member says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    At the age of 60 , I started oral sex in my teens and I have aways felt that if it is not clean enough to eat , I sure nuff would not stick my dick in it . I feel that it is a way to get the natural lubrication fluids flowing , before penetration , so one never trys to enter a dry hole . As once a long time past , I received scratches on my dick because I was in too much of a hurry . And I have been blessed with a thick tool . We , always start our nightly encounters with a 69 action and being a gentleman , my Ladie takes the top side . Sex without foreplay is just a fuck . Making Love takes all night when done properly . In conclusion we both enjoy this form of foreplay to the Max and would never go any other way .

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  46.   4R3AL says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    I THINK BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP SHOULD MAKE YOU MORE COMFORTABLE GIVING AND RECIEVING. IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT Y0U DO WITH EVERYONE. IT TURNS ME ON TO GIVE BUT I DON'T WANT A SELFISH PARTNER.

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  47.   Carmondo says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Oral sex can be one of the most intimate activities shared by a couple since it is even more up close and personal than conventional intercourse. It can be extremely pleasurable if you take the time to please her as you get to know her body and see how it responds to your tongue and your fingers, etc. Why a couple would shy away from oral sex and consider it a source of anxiety and/or dissatisfaction is unimaginable to me. Men, you need to get down deep into those bikini areas and show her just how much you adore her by facilitating her to moan and scream your name over and over!

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  48.   Norge08 says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Yes, I believe it is more intimate than intercourse. Sex is about pleasing your partner. Showing her(him) love and affection in the most intimate of ways and not being concerned about your own satisfaction, only theirs.

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  49.   PlayfulOne says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    I believe it is very intimate, and yes more so than regular sex. Lets face it, no pun intended, we all touch there, but put your face there or tongue there, is another matter all together. I believe the first school of thought comes under the heading of likes and dislikes. Many men only think about what they like and automatically do not consider GIVING oral sex. I believe a big mistake. That leads me to the second school of thought, and that is having sex, SHOULD BE about pleasing your partner. There is nothing that turns me on as much as having my partner get all worked up and go wild, as I keep performing as she climaxes over and over. To me it like buying your girl friend/wife a gift for mothers day, her birthday, or Christmas. Do it right, make her feel special, and give her the gift she will want over and over again. That is not to say you should not buy gifts at other times. We all want to seize the moment sometimes. To me when my face looks like a glazed doughnut, we are both very, very happy campers! If you want to know about different positions in giving a woman oral sex, just ask. I will also tell ou about my favorite position.

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  50.   kenyanito says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 08

    it is my dear. You can get alot of satisfaction out of it especially the ladies

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