They say beauty (or should I say hotness) is in the eye of the beholder. I have never figured out what it really means. But clearly, different people will rate you differently on the hotness scale. Isn’t a man’s meat another man’s poison?
Such ratings based on ones looks never escape relationships. I remember looking at one couple when I was in my 20s and telling my friends, “That chick did the dude a favor. Or maybe she just wanted a not-so-good-looking dude who no other women would drool over. ” When I look back now, I realize that was just the shallow me talking. What I thought was not-so-good-looking for me, must have been a god-send for the other chick.
Not to deviate too much from the topic, some people usually feel that their spouses are much hotter than them. It’s like they can’t even understand why their spouses are with them and how in the world they would fall for or be attracted to them. So they tend to look for other reasons to explain why their spouses are with them besides love and attraction.
Tyra Banks once had a show where she had some couples over and the women believed their men were much more attractive than them. On a scale of 1-10, the women rated themselves way below 5 and thought their spouses were either 9′s or 10′s. Some claimed their men were the center of attraction when they were at social events. Another woman whose dude is Romanian believes the husband only married her for the green card. Funny thing is that the men really love their women and find them very attractive. But one of the women said she feels he says that just because they are together.
Such things really affect a relationship and most of the time, self esteem gets the best of us. What we think of ourselves isn’t what others see … our spouses especially. It’s really sad especially when a woman feels she isn’t hot enough for her dude. And it puts a strain on the relationship because these are the kind of things that make women question their spouse’s faithfulness. One woman even went to the extent of watching the surveillance tapes of his husband’s workplace just to make sure he does not fool around with his ‘hot’ co-worker.
Women, own your own hotness. It all comes from within. When you feel hot about yourself, you ooze the hotness to the world and suddenly everyone sees that.
I don’t know if this happens to men. Are there men out there who feel their spouses are much hotter and don’t understand why they chose them in the first place? Do you feel you are being ‘done for a favor’. Does how you rate yourself and your spouse on the hotness scale affect your relationship? How?