Leave if he dont lick?

Posted by Ria, 09 Dec 15

"Love Me? Then Lick Me: If He Doesn’t Go Down, Don’t Keep Him Around".

Loud and clear. Well that was Gigi Engle in her article on Elite Daily saying vehemently how she wouldn't be with a man who wont give her, "a one-way ticket to Pleasure Downtown". And on top of that, she wants the man to be the one initiate this trip downtown.

"I would venture to argue that oral sex is actually more personal than actual intercourse. It’s an act that is devoted solely to one partner’s pleasure. It’s an activity that is giving of oneself for the orgasmic fulfillment of another. Isn’t that just pure, unadulterated romance right there?" she says.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

Well, put that way, I guess oral sex takes the trophy... it is the most selfless act, don't you agree - unless of course its a 69. Plus her argument is that when a man goes down on a woman, it benefits both parties since it will get her off quicker and she sure will give him some good pounding afterwards lol. That's what she calls sufficient foreplay.

Well according her, lick her if you love her. And she is urging women to dump their men if they don't want to put their faces in the core of their sexuality. "I won’t even be with a man who just PUTS UP with oral sex. I only want to be with a guy who thoroughly ENJOYS it and VOLUNTEERS it regularly."

Do yo share Engle's views on this? How important is it for you. Can it be a deal breaker if your man doesn't do it? Is licking worth sacrificing love for? Would you give up oral sex for a man? Let us know what you think.

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  1.   rogue_male says:
    Posted: 21 Mar

    I agree! :-)

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  2.   punky04 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar

    I am in full agreement. I won't even continue to get to know a "man" if orally pleasing your woman is something they won't consider. Women will orally please a man because we know he'll like it, we know he will get serious enjoyment out of it, so we would like the same in return. Is that too much to ask?! As per the article, oral is deeper than the physicality, it's about what you'll do to make each other happy in the bedroom.

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  3.   MzMecka1969 says:
    Posted: 18 Feb

    Deal breaker! I wasn't born in the year of 69 for nothing! I love giving and receiving and if a man isn't down with that...Bye!!

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    • NYGriego says:
      Posted: 31 Mar

      That's fine and all but the reality is that both should go down. Not just one. Unfortunately, there are men and women who do want to be pleased but don't want to reciprocate.

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  4.   aujus says:
    Posted: 05 Feb

    As I said somewhere below, unless a man has honestly revealed to her his reasons for avoiding giving oral sex, she will take the rejection(rightly)personally. If he knows she wants it, and he's not working on overcoming his psychological obstacles, well...should be dealbreaker. What's next in their relationship that she loves, and he will just flatout refuse? Besides if two people have amazing sexual chemistry, that's a red flag if one refuses a pretty basic, common sexual expression of desire.

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  5.   aafun says:
    Posted: 25 Jan

    To me there's no bigger turn on than when I go down on my woman...Especially if I know she's wanting it now !! To bring her to orgasm this way is pleasurable to her and a treat for me..yum.. communication is key !!!

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  6.   MzSunnyJeep says:
    Posted: 07 Jan

    Well to each his or her own preferences, but to me that is just crazy to dump a guy if he doesn't go downtown. And if a woman based a relationship on that them she wasn't right for him anyway. A man can be a good provider, takes care of home and treat you well, but then you'd dump him if he didn't.... too many women basing a good man on the bedroom. Let's just say even if he didn't measure up, there's too many things in the bedroom that can make up for that. I love with my heart not what's between his legs or mine.

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  7.   dlbdad says:
    Posted: 03 Jan

    The women must clean and fresh if she wants my face in the place! It would be a deal breaker if she doesn't want me to go down on her!

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  8. Posted: 30 Dec 15

    Sex to me is a very important part of a relationship, and yes going down on your partner is a very important part of that. I thoroughly enjoy pleasing my woman by making love to her pleasure zone with my whole mouth (of course she must have good hygiene). I also believe that it should be reciprocal with her wanting to go down on me. I don't need this all the time, but it is nice to know that she enjoys it as well and would surprise you every once in a while when you don't expect it.

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  9.   Rower4488 says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 15

    I would have no interest in someone whose major concern in a relationship with someone whose chief concern is receiving oral sex. Ask yourself if a man wrote an article about how he must get BJs often and freely or he has no interest in you, would you be interested?

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    • Mosiah7 says:
      Posted: 26 Dec 15

      I'm a man who prefers giving a woman oral sex over receiving it myself, but I agree with Rower4488. If a man wrote an article here saying he'd a leave a woman if she didn't suck his thang, he would be called a chauvinist and there would be people trying to get his post deleted.

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      • MollySmile says:
        Posted: 08 Jan

        I used to feel irritated with men who made a big deal about oral sex. But I understand why after dealing with a man who barely gave me good oral sex. Maybe it was just me, but I felt like he was treating me like a germ. That makes it hard to be faithful (I dont condone cheating but I understand why people are tempted to get it elsewhere). Even after showering, some people don't want to go down. That REALLY messes up the sexual experience. I like the whole 9 yards (kissing, licking, & sucking all over the entire body). I expect the same in return. Otherwise, the sex life will get boring & miserable

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    • aujus says:
      Posted: 05 Feb

      @Rower: You've created a strawman. Where did the author say "chief concern?" This is only a summary of an article posted elsewhere. Plus you can't interchange women and men in your example: there's an historical and cultural power difference that even reaches into sexual politics. Ask any healthy, sexually active woman this: unless her man has a psychological problem with giving oral sex(intimidated by past lover, believes he's inadequately skillful, etc.) -- all of which are causes easily remedied clinically -- a woman will take his refusal as personal rejection, period.

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  10.   Night.Owl says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 15

    If he doesn't provide for you but is more than happy to receive your services in this area, then that tells you a significant trait about him - he's selfish and self-centered, the whole relationship will be that way. Let it go. If he's trainable and teachable that's different but if he's just a receiver and not a giver, he's done.

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  11.   Nonetoolate says:
    Posted: 15 Dec 15

    As long as my partner is hygienic, it is one of the most intimate and pleasurable times in making love and satisfying her. Time stops, nothing else matters, only the sounds and motion of my lady enjoying my attentions.

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  12.   Vmarz says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 15

    When you really are connected to that person there are really very few limits. You find yourself the next day saying or thinking "dam I did that" mostly with a smile on your face. So if he won't go down its for you to create that mesmerizing environment to make him crave a taste.

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  13.   dumelezi says:
    Posted: 09 Dec 15

    No I don't think so is a good idea.

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