Non-Black women automatically assume Black men want them?

Posted by Ria, 14 Sep 10

hot black manThe other day, I was listening to this of this African American dude going on and on about how every race of women thinks Black men want them... even when a guy is just going about his day and has no interest whatsoever.

Ok! Truth be told: the dude is hot. I’d understand why any woman would want to be wanted by him. Thing is... he believes that no other race of guys gets prejudged like that … “no matter how aggressive they are”. According to him, women of other nationalities just want a Black man.

Is this true – that non-Black women just assume Black men drool over them even when it aint the case... or is this just this guys imagination?

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  1.   JoMcC says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 11

    Seriously? A simple question by an idiot brings out some craziness doesn't it? I'm white. Bfd. I don't think every black man wants me. Why the hell would they? I also don't assume every white man wants me or every man my age wants me or any other idiotic stereotype. And I won't go on about the number of Italians hung as they came into this country because it has nothing to do with homeboy thinking I assume every black man I encounter in a day HAS to have me.....ha!

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  2.   free33 says:
    Posted: 28 Dec 10

    I must say I DO NOT CARE.. Not being a wiseass or poo pooing the topic. If a woman I'm interested in thinks everyman wants her No matter what Color, she may not appeal to me. Now if she is thinking about whether or not I want her then it matters to me. I am on this site because color does not matter to me. In any way, shape, matter or form. I have actually been fortunate enough in my life to be in close proximity and befriend many women form all spectrums. Well, as many spectrums as I could and any one of them that let Culture, station or anything else (Color) get in the way of true love, well They are not someone For me and Thus, I could care less about their twisted mindset. Whatever woman I end up with will be my sanctuary, my safe place, the one I run to when this twisted world has become too much. Not someone who brings the BS of this world into our solitude (BEDROOM). All of these issues" are not something I want to deal with , when thinking about my heart. So if at the onset she is thinking I want her strictly because I'm Black and she is not, She is probably a bad choice that will end.......... BADLY!!! I want her to be thinking about the fact that I will love her as GOD has instructed me to. As Christ loved the church so much that I would Die for her. That I will treat her as my own flesh and nurish and cherish her. RAther than think I want her because of the outward things such as my rather sexy skin tone. I pity people locked into the Race Matrix and pray for their deliverance . Oh and my HEART???? When I find her , I'll know . I do know this Color of skin, besides how sexy we both think it is, Will NOT be a consideration

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  3. Posted: 26 Dec 10

    I try not to think about the slavery days because it makes me mad. I know there is still racism all around the world. I like all ethnicities, if that man is going to treat me right, then I am there for him, it doesn't matter what color he is. The problem is there is not a lot of men who like the darker skinned woman. I never understood why color mattered, we are all the same, only different colors. This is a diverse world, we should learn from one another, not beat on one another. Society has stereotyped African Americans for so long and that will never change. It is up to us as individuals to find out about other races, not let society keep us away from them.

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    • jahsymeon says:
      Posted: 27 Dec 10

      @DARKLOVELY; WHAT DO YOU MEAN SOCIETY STEREO TYPED AFRIRCAN AMERICANS FOR SO LONG??? KEEP IT REAL AND PUT IT OUT THEIR THE WHITE MAN, WHICH IS THE ONE THAT RUNS THE U.S. ! THE MEDIA, RADIO STATIONS, RESTAURANTS, EVERYTHING SO SAY IT QUIT BEING AROUND THE BUSH.. THE WHITEMAN HAS STEREO TYPED AFRICAN AMERICANS FOR SO LONG THERE I SAID IT FOR YOU LMAO

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  4.   glittergem says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 10

    This guy has a good imagination. Maybe all exceedingly good-looking men and women assume that everyone wants them. Or maybe it is just exceedingly self-involved people who feel this way. And some people have trouble reading the cues. Someone who's modest may not realize when another is very interested, while someone else may see signs of interest when none exist, the other is just being friendly.

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  5.   jahsymeon says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 10

    @GODFATHER: I DID'NT KNOW THAT!!!!, BUT ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY IN THAT POST WAS, THAT THE OTHER BRUTHA IN HERE THAT SAID THAT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME AS ANY OTHER MAN WAS BS... AND TO SAY JUST KIDDING SHOW ME HOW MUCH HE TAKES SERIOUS DISCUSSIONS AS A JOKE... I'M NOT PLAYING!!!! THAT'S WHY I RESPONDED LIKE THAT... FOR HIM TO SAY, DROP THE HISTORY LESSON!!! WHAT KIND OF REAL BRUTHA WOULD SAY THAT??? OHH BUT OF COURSE AN UNCLE TOM HOUSE"N" A REAL BRUTHA WOULD LOVE TO KNOW AND HEAR ANY HISTORY ON ARE PEOPLE, WHENEVER! MORNING NOON OR AT NIGHT... BUT I WOULD BE A VERY IGNORANT PERSON TO SAY ALL OF ARE PEOPLE DON'T KNOW OUR HISTORY. I WAS BASICALLY TRYING TO SAY IS THE REASON ALOT OF CAUCASIANS CONTINUE GOING BACK TO AFRICA IS TO TAKE OVER ON THE MOST SACRED GROUNDS WHICH THEY ARE TRESPASSING... THE COLD PART ABOUT IT IS, DO YOU THINK IF YOU AND I WERE TO GO TO GERMANY FOR A VACATION THAT WE WOULD HAVE COMPLETE ACCESS TO GO WHERE EVER WE WANTED IN GERMANY???? THAT'S MY POINT... FOR EXAMPLE THEIR SO MUCH AS COWARDS THAT WHEN THEY HAD US AS THEIR HOUSE"N'S" WE WERE WELCOMED IN THE HOUSE AND DO EVERYTHING AROUND THEM AND FOR THEM. BUT WHEN WE BECAME FREE THEY DON'T WANT US TO BE AROUND THEM ESPECIALLY LIVE AROUND THEM... I GUESS THEY KNEW WE WOULD HAD GOOD CAUSE TO DO A.. "NAT TURNER"

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  6.   jahsymeon says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 10

    @CAMOGIRL: I KNOW THAT ARE HOMELAND PEOPLE SOLD US TO THE WHITE MAN... BUT IT IS WAS DUE TO WHEN THE WHITE MAN SHOWN AFRICANS MACHINE GUNS TO CONTROL ARE OWN PEOPLE. WE WERE WILLING TO DO ANYTHING TO GET OUR HANDS ON THOSE GUNS, EVEN IF IT WAS TO SALE ARE PEOPLE.... AND TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT, I NEVER SAID THE WHITEMAN STOLE US! WHERE DID THAT COME FROM? I SAID HE STOLE ARE WEALTH... THAT'S JUST HOW EVIL THE WHITEMAN IS, AND YOU SAY GET OVER IT??? WHAT DO YOU MEAN!!! HOW ABOUT YOU LET ME COME AND TAKE YOU AND ALL YOUR FAMILY AND SALE EACH ONE OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ALL ACROSS THE WORLD, (JUST FOR AN EXAMPLE) WHICH MEANS THROUGH OUT YOUR YEARS OF LIVING YOU WILL NEVER EVER SEE YOUR MOTHER BROTHER SISTERS COUSINS UNCLES AUNTS ETC AGAIN THEY WILL BE SALVES AND RAPED AND TORTURED AND KILLED FOR HUNDREDS OF YEARS.... AND THEN I TELL YOU TO GET OVER IT HOW ABOUT THAT... THAT BEING SAID TO THIS DAY WHEN PEOPLE HARM CAUCASIANS LAW ENFORCEMENT DON'T GET OVER IT AND FAMILY DON'T GET OVER IT EITHER!! PRIME EXAMPLE OJ SIMPSON... THIS BRUTHA WAS FOUND NOT GUILTY AND NICOLES FAMILY DID'NT LET IT GO!!! SO YOU EXPECT ME AND MY PEEPS TO LET GO OF 400+ YRS THAT OUR ANCESTORS WERE TORTURED AND TREATED LIKE WE WERE ANIMALS??? WHAT KIND OF FOOLISHNESS IS THAT!!!! WAS'NT THE WHITE JEWS KEPT IN CONCENTRATION CAMPS BY GERMAN NAZIZ??? ARE YOU SURE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU TALKING ABOUT @CAMOGIRL... AND WHY HIDE YOUR FACE... KEEP IT REAL, YOU WERE BOLD ENOUGH TO COMMENT ON MY POST BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU HIDING WHO YOU ARE... WHAT'S UP WITH THAT???

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  7.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 10

    I think it goes even further than what the article says and it is really the reverse. Guys can accept women being friendly to them without thinking much of it but almost any woman, white or otherwise thinks that a guy always wants them even if they just say hello to them. It is especially bad on here because I can't just say hello to a woman that I think is interesting psychologically without them thinking I am romantically interested in them. What ever happened to being friends first? Are women so bombarded by horny guys that they can't accept an innocent hello from a guy anymore without reading into it? If so, that is truly sad.

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  8. Posted: 10 Oct 10

    Sometimes I have to think the only reason the subject matter can be stated is based on the percentages of black males in any given area where there just is not a great many blacks, which includes male and female blacks. If all you see are females of another race, what are you supposed to do when a female walks by, turn your head and look the other way? Being the minority in this respect, you can only look at whats in front of you, which in most cases, its not black females. Not saying that black females are all a black male should look at, most will look at ANY female. How does a non-black female responds to the situation? A black male looking at females all day, may get tagged as "wanting us", which may not be necessarily true. You are all that is before his eyes to see! Why do "black" males EVEN get "tagged" like this? Its ridiculous! I have seen caucasian males fawn over the backside on the ONLY female in a given area, and totally ignore their caucasian females, but they are never "tagged" like this. Sure a lot of us have our preferances, but in most cases, heterosexual males will LOOK at any heterosexual female. The analysis for this perception cannot be based on facts, but strictly personal opinions, as is this answer and all the answers I have read. I do get to say that being a black male has given me a personal opinion that might be more reliable than anyone who has not experienced this. I have to come to the conclusion it just is not true! But like I said, that is still a personal opinion....

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  9. Posted: 10 Oct 10

    i'm not surprised. non black women see black men as a big penis. they think of them as sexual conquerers and nothing more. I would be insulted if I was looked at this way. but its is safe for black men to assume that non blacks want them all the time. i see it with my own eyes so im not surprised. its sad but true. it doesnt help tha tblack men play into it. but its their affair and no one but the parties involved should be very conserned

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    • camogirl says:
      Posted: 12 Oct 10

      cinnamon1111, C'mn now? Really? I am a white woman well at least from what I can tell. I do not want every black man I see nor does it even cross my mind that he wants me. As for looking at them as a ''big penis'' well I dont know what goes through your mind but I dont think of a guys genitalia first thing. soooo.... With that said I have been on both sides of the fence My ex-husband of 4 years and lover of 8 is black I no more thought of him as anything but a man. My beau at the present time is white I love him more than anything and not once has the size (although not really different) been an issue at all. I also had a daughter with my husband and would be mortified to think that she would ever think I chose her father cuz I seen him as a "sexual conquerer" of some sort.

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    • CHOCluvaONLY says:
      Posted: 18 Feb 11

      CAMOGIRL,,I AGREE WITH U....ABOUT LOOKIN AT A BLKMAN AS JUST A BRUTHA WITH AN ANANCONDA!..NOT ALL BRUTHAS ARE WELL ENDOWED...AND THATS NOT THE FIRST THING I THINK ABOUT WHEN I LOOK AT A MAN...I DO LUV A BLKMAN ONLY CAUSE THATS JUST MY PREFERENCE..NOT CAUSE HES PACKIN...THATS SO LAME,,THAT ALL(MOST ) BLK WOMEN THINK THAT ABOUT US WHT GRLS! EVERYWHERE I GO WIT MY BF..(OF COURSE BLKMAN)..I GET DIRTY LOOKS FROM THE BLK WOMEN..LIKE WAT U DOING?..THEY GIV HIM A DIRTY LOOK...HE THINKS ITS FUNNY...HE SAYS TO ME THEY ARE JUST JEALOUS...CAUSE A WHT GRL WILL ALWAYS BE GUD TO HER MAN.,.AND WELL I WONT FINISH THAT STATEMENT . DONT WANNA START A WART ON HERE. BUT I JUST HAD TO RESPOND TO THAT COMMENT THAT CINNAMON MADE..THXXXXX

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  10.   Soltis says:
    Posted: 05 Oct 10

    Where do the subjects for these articles originate and can I get paid to initiate chaos & confusion? Come on BM, you know every ethnic group would like a piece of you, however automatic assumptions imply a touch of conceit with a pharmaceutical overdose of narcissism, a recipe for believers of this nonsense. Non-BW are the same as BW, Asian Women, Italian Women, etcthey see what they like and assume you want them or can have you. A strong healthy sense of self combined with self-confidence gives strength of character to move forward with their desires. These are the basic fundamental laws of self-confidence, appeal & attraction. So where do you think those strong, independent, loving Non-BW & BW find men to share their lives, goals & desiresoh, thats right it was written in a profile. You best start to recognize Moving past these misconceptions and concentrating on what is important: Boris Kodjoe, Shemar Moore or Denzel have the same universal appeal as Beyonce or Angelina JolieHoller.

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  11.   Anthony2012 says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 10

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    • chocolate09 says:
      Posted: 24 Oct 10

      I don't......

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      • jahsymeon says:
        Posted: 10 Dec 10

        @CHOCOLATE: WE'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT A ANGRY BLACKWOMAN THAT HATE BLACKMEN AND NOT WILLING TO GIVE A GOOD BLACKMAN THE TIME OF DAY JUST BECAUSE HE'S NOT WHITE... WHAT MY BRUTHA WAS SAYING IS THAT DIFFERENT ETHNICITY OF WOMEN WANTS BLACKMEN, NOT NO SISTA!!!! PAY ATTENTION!!!! LMAO

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  12.   Anthony2012 says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 10

    I think its there parents telling them false dangers of black people, so when another race walks by a black man its the thought of society thinks this is less than adequate for non black women, but at the same time the "curiousity thought sets in as to , the rebelious idea mixed with the lustful sinful kinky twisted nature that everything thats suppose to be bad for us we as humans crave and want ...., so in turn its really just an unfamiliarality with the race combined with steroetypes that give other races that Idea...because I will tell you as a fact that black men have mingled and sexually intdrcepted more races sexually than any other race known, so in turn for any women to act like we want them ,,facts show the black man that he is worldly sought after more than anyone else.....now thats one to grow on for you

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  13.   Anthony2012 says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 10

    I say all women think , that if they see a guy that is less attractive than them or if they need the worlds attention and are wearing booty shorts then , yea they think you want them , but if you ignore them, thats when they start checking you out..lol..its millions of women out here and if they were smart they wouldnt all be beggin for attention the same ways in the form of booty booty cleavage, booty booty, its now common to even see A minor in tight fittinh clothea al

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  14.   brownclown says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 10

    I think there is some truth to what the original poster said. Considering the fact that the media portrays black women as being less desirable than other ethnicities, and because the media portrays white women and other ethnicities as being the ultimate prize, it could follow that non-black women assume that black men want them. In fact, I have picked up that vibe up from some white women when they are passing in front of a black man. Some do seem to act as if he must be looking at her. Sometimes it is true but often times he just looks the other way. Yet she may have that look on her face as if she is being drooled over...throwing her hair or posturing in some other way.

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    • Ichibod says:
      Posted: 02 Oct 10

      Great post. That's what I was saying. I like talk ing to people or just saying 'hello' if I happen to make eye contact with a stranger. It's only human to me. But people, epescially women, who ignore me as if I was about to spark up a conversation. Or they carry on in small talk but mention their boyfriend or husband repeatedly so I get idea not to try them. Um, get the idea that the weather IS good, and that all the construction going on makes getting around town pretty frustrating. No ones cares about yo man. It's good you notice the way some women act sometimes. It's sad how the media portays us, and how some of us allow ourselves to be potrayed.

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    • camogirl says:
      Posted: 12 Oct 10

      brownclown I would have to disagree, The media is potraying White women as ignorant and willing to do anything for money and fame and yes there are some making compleate fools of themselves and I just hope it does not reflect poorly on others who do have self respect and half abrain in their head

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  15.   jahsymeon says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 10

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      Posted: 25 Sep 10

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    • suninwinter says:
      Posted: 10 Mar 11

      I liked what you say, however not ALL woman chase the cash!!!

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  16.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 10

    It isn't a racial thing. Women want hot guys period no matter what race they are. And the reverse is true. Our culture is so looks conscious that the only thing that everyone seems to agree on is that everyone wants a hot woman or hot guy and this guy is hot. Race doesn't matter in the end if you are hot enough so this guy using the race card is just being silly. Let's see him gain 100 lbs and still make the same statement!!;-)

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    • serenity33 says:
      Posted: 24 Oct 10

      It isnt a racial thing. Women want hot guys period no matter what race they are. And the reverse is true. Our culture is so looks conscious that the only thing that everyone seems to agree on is that everyone wants a hot woman or hot guy and this guy is hot. Race doesnt matter in the end if you are hot enough so this guy using the race card is just being silly. Lets see him gain 100 lbs and still make the same statement!!;-)

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  17.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 10

    I've heard it too many times that black men think every woman wants them. I think that is really stupid. A black man is just like any other race of man... hoping a woman wants him, period. Just kidding. But seriously, with all of the stuff we see and hear in movies and music these days, redundant jokes and comments about black men and white woman, size and libido, it's not surprising that someone would get that sort of impression.

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  18.   Packergirl says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 10

    It's your imagination. I never assume, I let the guy make the first move to show interest. But if you are on an interracial dating site, you may want to be specific what you are looking for. People don't read minds like so many think they do. Nice try though thinking every non-black women thinks you want them - but NOT!

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      Posted: 23 Sep 10

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      • serenity33 says:
        Posted: 25 Sep 10

        Yo dude. You had better check out the blog about White men for Black women because they are insulting black men on there something fierce and I stood up for you guys multiple times and I just got insulted into oblivion until my comment was hidden. They are saying that Black men are bad parents and aren't taking care of their illegitimate kids the way the white man would and I said that the white man was just as bad if they aren't married. I said that if black women want to not have kids and be upset for black me not taking care of them, that they should either get married, abstain from sex or practice safe sex. But no one agrees. They think white men are better with their illegitimate kids more than black men and they are insulting black men terribly. Black men should be on that blog standing up for themselves and not taking any crap from the white guys and black women that are insulting them.

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      • Ichibod says:
        Posted: 27 Sep 10

        When I said, "A black man is just like any other race of man", I followed it with, "hoping a woman wants him, period." That sentence was one complete thought. I figured the 'Just kidding' would have made that joke obvious, but evidently not enough for some poeple. Drop the history lesson and take up grammar and reading comprehension. I am not angry at this misunderstanding, Bro.

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      • Godfather454 says:
        Posted: 07 Oct 10

        As much as you may disagree with Jahsymeon's comments he is very close to being correct in saying that we do need to know our rich history and yes our history was stolen from us in a sence, but through War and disease (biblically because we fell from God's grace). He's correct in saying other races know more about our history than we do, but its because it was hidden, destroyed or forbidden by law from us...(part of the reason Dr. Carter Woodson founded Black History Month) "How many of you even know that "Negritia" is the true name of Africa?" Or for example, the Hippocratic Oath that doctors take was written by a Nubian Surgeon some 1500+ years before Hippocrates was ever born? Again, he's correct in stating that there is an inherent popularity or fascination with black men, but it doesn't come from some deep mystical sexual prowess; but from being the most talked about species on the face of this earth...Think about it, rarely a day goes by where there's not something said good, bad, or indifferent about a black man (sports, crime, entertainment). Oh and if you listen to conservative talking-head radio, rarely an hour! Anyway, cut the brother some slack! :-)

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