Online dating - First offline date

Posted by Ria, 25 May 07

Meeting your online date offline for the first time? After being chat buddies all that time, you may think you know someone. And since both of you clicked online, you don’t want anything to go wrong. You prepare and obsess about making everything perfect. You plan the entire conversation. You even take the afternoon off just to make sure you look stunning.

After all the planning and the pleasing and the entertaining responsibility you have loaded on yourself, you realize one thing... you are not having a good time. The spark that the two of you had online isn’t there offline… Nothing… Zilch… Nada…!

Are you the scared of confrontation type, the kind to hatch an elaborate escape plan like climbing out of the loo window? Or are you the kind that lays it on the table… “Hey this aint working᾿? Do you try date number 2… see how things go then? However you choose to do it, be gentle so as not to wreck someone’s ego. Coz some of our offline buddies cross enough oceans and borders for this offline date. [tags]online dating[/tags]

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  1. Posted: 26 Sep 09

    Phew. These guys! Problem would be that guys want a fantasy in women and they aren't that themselves. They think they're letting the women down, but forget the women aren't really into them either. Think it's just a defense mechanism of their denial of rejection. If you are into the content of someone's character, then you're in good shape, offline or online.

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  2.   Takeila says:
    Posted: 10 Aug 08

    Well I haven't met anyone offline yet. I am kind of afraid to I guess. I don't want it to end up being someone else. So I always ask for more pictures. I am also afraid that some guy will think he is in love at first site. I haven't even met some of these guys on here and after one message. They are planning their whole lives with me!@# Lol. I just don't want anything to go wrong so I am waiting patiently for that right one. Hope I find him soon because I don't want to be on here too long. I have to get over my fear though!

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  3.   Dayo says:
    Posted: 20 Oct 07

    Looking for love

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  4.   sharismiles says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 07

    Well, I am finally going to meet someone from this site in person. He will be the first man I've met from AR. He's coming to San Antonio to meet me for the 4th of July holiday. We met in January on this site and feel we are ready for this meeting. Chemistry online and over phone is great, but we each say to the other, "In person is the best test!" I'll keep you posted on our first date...

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  5.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 07

    Good point Fala!

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  6.   fala says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 07

    You can't know anyone for sure, until you meet in person. People can pretend to be anything online but once you see them face to face - you gotta go with your gut instincts.

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  7.   seekhonesty says:
    Posted: 30 May 07

    I think you should be just who you are both offline and online. Meet in a public place, and if there isnt anything there, end the date and move on, we are under the impression we have to explain why we dont want to be with someone. This is our only life, and if you are on here to truly find your mate, then be honest with yourself about what it is you do not want and what you do want. Then never settle for less. I think the person will have alot more respect for you if you treat them in this manner.

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  8.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 30 May 07

    Mossimo, I was kind to someone recently from this site, and he had a fit. He was rude to me, not to mention the fact that he didn't take rejection well. I was still nice to him, but as adults, it could have been handled better on his end. Even when you are kind, it sometimes backfires if the person can't deal with the fact that you just aren't into them.

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  9.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 28 May 07

    Gotta have the sparks!! Its hard to tell someone in person that it just is not there. Just be kind, I suppose.

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  10.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 26 May 07

    Well stated Laugh Sailor!

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  11. Posted: 25 May 07

    I have fround several nice friends, this way and have had a great time with them, while being considerate and honest. Often, there's a lot to appreciate about someone and communicating that is a complimentary, gentle way to let them know I'm not attracted to them.

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  12.   Well says:
    Posted: 25 May 07

    No matter what people say, it almost always boils down to chemistry. No matter what happens on line the off line meeting is chemistry based. Believe me, I know that.

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  13.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 25 May 07

    I will be the first to say that I don't like combative people. I have chatted with a couple of those from this site and went running straight to the hills. If I see even a hint that someone has anger issues, red flags start flying all over the place. Because I am so laid back, I find it easier to deal with men who are like me, and go with the flow. It makes sense for me, because I don't want to waste his time, or mine.

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