Poll: Is dating another minority easier than dating white?

Posted by Ria, 20 Dec 11

dating fellow minorityMost interracial couples have had their fair share of problems just for being in interracial unions. But when looking at the problems, we find that most of the stories of these interracial couples are those of couples that involve a minority/ colored individual and a white spouse. Somehow, the picture one ends up getting is that interracial relationships that involve a white person are harder. So does this make dating between interracial couples of color (Black-Asian, Indian-Hispanic, Black-Hispanic) easier?

Going by the recent poll taken on the site, the results are quite mixed. Much as more of you, (53%) feel that dating a minority isn’t any easier – that the societal pressure in any interracial relationship is the same, 47% feel that a relationship with a fellow minority makes one feel freer and one experiences less pressure. The (6%) difference isn’t substantial enough for us to say members of this site feel it’s easier or harder.

But looking at things on the ground, in my opinion and the experience of those around me, I think people feel more pressure when they are dating white. But then again, that is just what I have observed. On the other hand, I also believe dating a fellow minority gives people the illusion that it is easier but some people have told me how hard it is; for instance, for a black person to be in a relationship with an Indian. So I guess it all depends on how strong and how different the cultures between the couple are. Plus, if you are marrying into a family that conforms to every single detail of their culture and you also have strong cultural values you love to uphold, it gets hard to come to a compromise.

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Others people are of the idea that interracial couples of color are immune to racism. Well, I don’t believe this to be true because there are some minority cultures that feel they are somehow above the other minorities. Plus with racial stereotypes surrounding each and every race, unless a particular family is generally open to interracial dating, trust me, these stereotypes and racist remarks will follow you irrespective of whether you are dating white or otherwise.

So what about the stares and ridicule from society? Do people feel freer and more comfortable being seen with fellow minorities as opposed to whites? We call each other sell-outs when we date white – does the same term arise with interracial couples of color?

Let’s hear your experiences people!

13 responses to "Poll: Is dating another minority easier than dating white?"

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  1.   54rocway says:
    Posted: 13 May 12

    I am not saying that it dose not happen. I want to be talked to before you think that i am not good looking for you.YES! I had a asian lover ones. But you know how the cultureand people are, they don't like mixing black and asian together . But have you seen a black and asian babby. They are beautiful. I think our blood mix very well with other races. SO if you are a nice woman out there who wants a good man. HERE I AM !!

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  2.   54rocway says:
    Posted: 13 May 12

    I forone know that it is very very hard to date an indian woman or an asian woman .Being a brother of color. Black color. I

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  3.   nika23 says:
    Posted: 06 Feb 12

    I've had mixed reactions while dating interracially with whites and other minorities. I have dated Hispanic men (some mixed with black and one who looked more Native Amer.) and never heard or saw anything negative, but I remember a group of guys yelling at me and my boyfriend and claiming that Spanish men where stealing all the cute black girls, funny thing is my boyfriend was black. He was dark skinned and although he had looser curls in his hair than the average black person, I would never consider him anything other than black so we were both shocked and laughed it off. I have dated 2 Asian guys and got a lot of stares and looks of disapproval from just a few black guys and Asian women, but surprisingly from a lot of white women. It was strange to me that white women were bothered by this since it didn't involve a white person. With white men I got stares from older black people, black men and white women. I live in NYC so we walk a lot here and when holding hands with any non-black man, I have heard black guys yell out that their "dicks" are bigger than men of other races etc etc, but I just ignore them. I would only worry if they approached us, and luckily that has not been an issue. I have heard stories of interracial couples with black women being attacked and there have been high profiled cases where they have been killed (by both black men and whites), but I view this to be rare, and will date and be with who loves me for me. It's sad that one has to worry about violence when looking for love, but I'm positive and forward thinking and I believe the intermixing of people will bring about an end to racial stereotypes.

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  4.   Tru2Me1st says:
    Posted: 13 Jan 12

    You know it really varies according to which culture you have intermingled with. For example, I have known white people to be against interracially mixing with black/Hispanic, but ok if it's with Asian. I have known Hispanics to be against blacks but ok with whites or visa-versa. I have known blacks to be ok with Hispanics but not with white or Asian..... and I really do not think its the color itself but the stereotypes that cause the issues. You will find these types of thought in the more uneducated sections of each group. Its really tends to be the trailer whites, or inner-city blacks, or migrant Hispanics who have associated color with success/degradation. I wish people would realize that most people who date outside their ethnicity is just open minded enough to find beauty in everyone. No, the issue is when you see your own race with someone from another it makes you question your own beauty well tough sh*t. Your insecurities are not mine or anyone elses problem, so find value in yourself cause its not my job. Common sense should tell you to be with someone who finds you attractive I mean you really want your partner to say.. yeah Im with him/her because we are both white??? Color is only skin deep people, cant have it both ways.

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  5.   Rosso87 says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 12

    Just depends on where you live. For me, I don't live near the women/girls that I'm interested in, so I have to use an outside source in order to even have a chance.

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  6.   ricland says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 12

    It's not about how others feel about your pairing, but about how you feel. When I am in love with a woman, the worlds attention on us is blinded by our attention on each other. I don't date outside my race...I stick strictly to the HUMAN Race, of which we are all members. Let the bigots, and other racial supremacists, be damned! TRUE love conquers ALL.

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  7.   bolobikko says:
    Posted: 03 Jan 12

    Greetings and happy new year (filled with success, new friends, good health and happiness) to all the members at this site and may God bless you and help you to find the right friend that you are looking for. I have enjoyed reading this fabulous article and feel excited to leave a feedback. I am a guy by nature who loves new things, changes, excitement, new ideas and adventure. Therefore, dating a woman from a different race, ethnicity and culture turns me on! Usually, I am very expressive, talkative and can get a woman nodding her head yes, yes, and oh yes in a conversation. I am comfortable in discussing any issue or topic including all the issues many people shy away from because I am bookish and well informed about diverse topics and subjects. But before you conclude this is something good, let me add that it is the reason why I am here or doing online dating (laugh!) I am the past I have met the most wonderful women and had many good girlfriends, but because I never took time to really get to know them and make sure we were compatible, these relationships wet in the wrong direction! Therefore online dating is the solution to my problem because it helps me to slow down and not rush into any friendship or relationship fast. I can take my time to get to know my new friend! We start by chatting online, then by phone and when we feel we like each other then we can discuss a date. I have seen many beautiful and sweet women here and consider this site the top 3 best interracial online dating site! I highly recommend it to all my friends and the world. Anyone who loves adventure, and willing to be open and to learn from others and experiment with different situations in life will not find interracial dating difficult but will be energized and empowered by it. BOLO BIKKO, NEW YORK CITY

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  8. Posted: 31 Dec 11

    im a black man i date any race makes no differance to me fine is fine 2 me its the woman she is the one that i let call the shots as far as a ploblem like friends and family are concerned if she is strong minded and she tells me there isnt a problem them cool as far as me there is no one on this planet better than me so im dont feel that

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  9.   TasteyKoko says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 11

    Reasonably attractive? That sounds more like a insult than an invitation.

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  10.   TasteyKoko says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 11

    It does bring along pressure to date a white man for me. It's funny though, when I walk around manhattan holding my fair skinned Hispanic friend's arm (who resembles a Caucasian man) people on the street give us disgusted looks because they think that he's white. It makes me think of what they could possibly be thinking when I'm sitting next to them on the train..it makes me so self conscious but I love to rub it in their faces and relish the stares and glances those people give me because I'm involved in a relationship that ticks them off to no end :P lol

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    • JDigriz says:
      Posted: 21 Dec 11

      To hell with society and what other people think. I haven't been on a date in years, is this part of the reason why? If you're a reasonably attrative BW and you don't care about what others may say, contact me.

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  11.   Julep says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 11

    In my neck of the US (Texas) it is more acceptable that dating white, but not easier per se. Each ethnic group has its strongholds of racism and prejudices, and it just comes with the territory until we can reach a generation more evolved thinkers.

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