Last month when we talked about the media and their depiction of multicultural couples on television, someone mentioned that there are more shows about gay couples than interracial ones. Do you think that society has really embraced the idea that it’s “okay to be gay” as long as you stay with your own race?
And you thought dating outside your race was tough?
As I write this I already know that there are going to be a lot of comments about this subject. Let’s face it, as a society we are drawn to “hot topics”, controversy, things that are taboo. What fits this category more than sexual preference?
In case you’ve been saying to yourself “there’s been a lot of television shows, movies and press coverage on homosexuals lately”…you’d be right. I don’t really believe that the number of gay people has really increased over the last ten years; it’s just that more are coming out of the closet, (so to speak), and the media is right there with their cameras and ink pens sharing the news with the world.
As with interracial couples and their depiction in mainstream media, the public often takes its cues by what it sees, reads and hears. Think about it, if you never met a gay person, you may be hard pressed to realize that like heterosexual folks, they too have a heart, a brain, the ability to love people of the same and the opposite sex (without wanting to have sex with them), and they are also capable of holding down jobs, buying houses, voting and as we found out on television recently in New Jersey, being elected and holding public office.
So, do you really think the media or society is more accepting of homosexuality than it is of interracial couples? Remember what I said last month? Hollywood writes about what it knows. I’m willing to bet a body part (take a thigh, please), that there are far more gay or bi-sexual power players in Hollywood than there are people involved (past or present) in a multicultural relationship.
What really amazes me though is the number of people that are willing to go on record to tell you that homosexuality is wrong and it goes against nature. If memory serves me right, I’ve heard the same arguments posed about dating outside your race. If I hear the saying…”it’s Adam & Eve not Adam & Steve”, one more time…I will scream.
The reality is it wasn’t, Adam & Leticia, or Alajandero & Eve either. What does that mean? That because something didn’t start off one way, it can’t be changed to fit the needs of the people at that time? The wheel of a cart should never have been conformed to become the wheel of a car? Why are we so quick to point out when we are being treated unfairly, but slow to realize when we do the same to others? Who gave us the right to decide what’s right for us and the next person?
I have to say that in my life, I’ve been very blessed to know a great variety of people. I’d love to tell you that of all the people who’s sexual preference happens to be the same sex, are a group of great intellect, ever faithful without fault, loves animals, blah, blah, blah kind of people. The truth is that they are human, with the ability and capacity to love and be loved. They have relationships that last a day and ones that last a lifetime.
The bigger truth for me is that I’d much rather a man that preferred to be with another man, have the opportunity and chance (without condemnation), to do just that, rather than live a lie with me.
Call me idealistic…perhaps the answer is not in having an open mind, but closed eyes. If we were blind, perhaps then we could truly see that the path to happiness is one that we ALL can walk on.
This is Leticia and I say that love has no color lines or sexual boundaries…if it does, how can it be love?!
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To each his own…
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It is a good article, but it is also funny to me that most straight men react negative towards gay relationships, possibly trying to honor their manhood…however, they seem to forget their beliefs when it comes to two women being together, especially when they possibly can be part of the mix!! Then some how it is ok for that! lol…… I say…..what is, is and if it makes you happy then go for it. Just keep it real!
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According to gays, there are born gay. Who am I to judge. Let the dead burry the dead lol.
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whatever makes people happy
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Happy Holidays to all of us, no matter who you are or how you live your life.
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what is wrong is wrong.gay is wrong.God created MAN nad WOMAN.He said Man should be with woman and vice versa not MAN and MAN or WOMAN and WOMAN.Lets stop this ungodly acts.
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I wish everyone peace and happiness. Love who you are and be with who ever you choose to be with. As long as you happy in your life thats what matters.
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I thank God that I should not judge others for it is to big of a burden.
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Not that there’s anything wrong with that
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All of us do have the freedom to explore many facets of our live. The difference is that in public perception at least in especially afrocentric societies interracial gay couples rase less eyebrows than interracial hetero relationships. Its the same thing like expecting and accepting the fashion designer, ballet director or male flight attendant or nurse to be gay. Why because you can expect weird things/professions, mate choices from somebody with the preference for the same sex.
The interracial hetero couple gets the looks and elbow nodges because why in Gods name would you go out of your race to find a woman or man?
But just like many other social issues this to will pass and in a few more years we will be discussing older black women with young white boys or black couples adopting white kids and the sorts.
Very good article !
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I loved that article.
I’m a white 50 years old male.
and do have a mistery with my relationships with the African American women who I’m very attracted to,especially to those who are in a good athletic shape.Visually!
I was seeing few black girls…and…I’m looking for the answer:Every time it comes to the intimacy,I’m loosing it all the time.At once!
My attraction visually is so strong.But after the first touch,something goes wrong.
I feel so bad about it. I don’t perform the way it works with the white women when it’s just smooth like silk.And I wish I will.Why?
Is it some complex or is it that difference within bi-racial sex and it’s culture?In more cases-it’s seems better when white woman is with the Black man.But the version of Black woman and a white man has even less statistics on its success.
I do have a friend,who was dating beautiful black girl for just 4 months. I was shocked when he told me absolutely same story like mine.Besides, both of us seems to be scared of a room light and not so brave to be fully undressed for the chick.
If it’s any good tip about it-I’ll be cured for a lifetime.
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I’m not sure that the basic premise is true. Are there more shows about gay couples than interracial ones? In any case there really isn’t a whole lot of either portrayed in mainstream media.
This country seems to have always had to be pulled kicking and screaming into the reality of the inexorable forces of change. It is somewhat amusing that after the revolution that formed this country initially, it was a bit of “Meet the new boss. Same as the old boss.” That continues today but change continues, too slowly for some, too damn quickly for others.
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