So, I’m doing the do…and all of a sudden out of nowhere thoughts of my ex pop into my mind. Now, let me help you out here. I’m talking about the high school/college ex. The “we don’t really know what we’re doing, but we’re going to do it anyway ex”. The “I haven’t seen you in over 10 years, don’t you have four kids now, ex”. I’m happy to say that I do know that fantasies are very “normal” for both men and women…my question is, do you talk about yours to your mate…should you?
From the time I was pre-teen I knew that I was going to like sex. Don’t ask me how I knew, I just knew. I also knew that I could never do it until I was ready to do it all the time. So, I waited and I waited. What I didn’t wait for was the thinking about it. I’ve always had a very graphic imagination and wondered if I was normal, because no one ever talked about girls thinking about or wanting sex.
That was just the boys. It was said that was all that boys thought about…sex! Imagine my confusion. Was I born a boy and by some freak accident ended up with breast? What’s wrong with me? It would be after college before I found out that I was normal. That not only did girls, women even “ladies” think about sex, they even enjoyed a little sex, with people that they were not married to or in some cases…not even in a serious relationship with.
Well, since I waited so long to do the do, I’d convinced myself that I had to be in love before doing it…so, I waited until I was. Now, I did mention that I was a little slow right? Now, imagine, I’ve waited all this time and everything is great. Then one day, out of the blue, it happened. I don’t know how or why, it just did. His hand was going one place and my mind went somewhere else, with someone else. I felt guiltier than the time I broke my mom’s favorite crystal angel and blamed it on my poodle Sassy.
To relieve my guilt afterwards, I asked a question that at any other given time; I’d never want to hear the answer yes to… “Do you every think of anyone else while we’re doing it?” His answer, “No, do you”? Again, here I go thinking I was born a boy, with breast. I lied. Nope. Only you. That was then. Now, well, let’s just say that I have a list and some things I’m checking off twice. Personally, I love to share my fantasies with my mate. He finds them humorous most of the time.
Here are a few sexual fantasies that both Men and Women have:
- Fantasies about their current partner
- Sexual domination (non violent)
- Sex with another Man or Woman or both @ same time
- Giving or Receiving Oral Sex
- Anal Sex
- Sex with a Stranger
- Having Your Partner Masturbate for You
- Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
- Sex with an ex
- Fantasies involving romantic sex
Feel free to add your own fantasies. Go ahead dare to dream, to have your cake and fantasy too. Sharing may be a bigger payoff than you think. Remember though, sometimes it’s better to dream it than live it. This is Leticia, asking “what’s your fantasy”?
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…Great article…!–Thanks…!!
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Good old fantasies, got to love them… But, i prefer the real deal
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Fantasies give us all hope of finding true love..
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UPDATE SINCE LAST WROTE..FANTASIES ARE NEEDED HERE..LOL.. WILL CONSIDER TAKING A MAN WITH A HOME AND LOTS OF LOVE TO GIVE INSTEAD OF FANTASIES.. LET ME HANDLE THE FANTASIES AND YOU HANDLE ME… LOL.. I THINK THIS SITE HAS PROVEN WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT IT IS ALL ABOUT FANTASIES.. ALL THE MEN ON HERE AND ALLL THE WOMEN FANTASY ABOUT EVERYONE LOL… ESPECIALLY ME IF YOU MEN KNEW LOL..
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I think everyone has fantasies. however, if I am being intimate with someone I would hope that I don’t need to think about anyone else to enjoy myself.
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I guess at times its ok to have the fantasies, but keep them deep withing you, for one may mention them to the partner, and break that they have created. People are very different.
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great article..everyone should read it!!
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FANTASIES R GOOD BUT THEY ARE JUST FANTASIES
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Fantasies is something that can be just a dream or you can eventually make into reality. Me personally, i have a few fantasies i would like to do someday, with that write one. HOwever, you must know how to balance fantasies and dreams
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C’mon ladies…nothing wrong with a little fantasy. Long term relationships have been spicing it up for years…we should learn from those in them.
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Healthy, sane fantasies are fine, just dont cross the line
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I believe that fantasies (I mean the good ones’ not those perverted mind) are what keep us alive and make our relationship works…..
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fantasies are fun if they are good and perverted minds fantasies are crap.
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Fantasy keeps the spice in relationships. If the couple isn’t hurting anyone outside of their own union, then more power to them!
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I rarely fantasize, but when I do they are pretty darn good!!
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Ever played lost hiker?? lol
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my bags are packed and ready to go.
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What a great article…hav been discussng trying new sexual experiences lately
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Lost hiker Mossimo? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Are you lost Fala? Want to be found?
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Just working so much these days..the grind..just thinking about a vacation seems like a fantasy…!!
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