So, I’m doing the do…and all of a sudden out of nowhere thoughts of my ex pop into my mind. Now, let me help you out here. I’m talking about the high school/college ex. The “we don’t really know what we’re doing, but we’re going to do it anyway ex”. The “I haven’t seen you in over 10 years, don’t you have four kids now, ex”. I’m happy to say that I do know that fantasies are very “normal” for both men and women…my question is, do you talk about yours to your mate…should you?
From the time I was pre-teen I knew that I was going to like sex. Don’t ask me how I knew, I just knew. I also knew that I could never do it until I was ready to do it all the time. So, I waited and I waited. What I didn’t wait for was the thinking about it. I’ve always had a very graphic imagination and wondered if I was normal, because no one ever talked about girls thinking about or wanting sex.
That was just the boys. It was said that was all that boys thought about…sex! Imagine my confusion. Was I born a boy and by some freak accident ended up with breast? What’s wrong with me? It would be after college before I found out that I was normal. That not only did girls, women even “ladies” think about sex, they even enjoyed a little sex, with people that they were not married to or in some cases…not even in a serious relationship with.
Well, since I waited so long to do the do, I’d convinced myself that I had to be in love before doing it…so, I waited until I was. Now, I did mention that I was a little slow right? Now, imagine, I’ve waited all this time and everything is great. Then one day, out of the blue, it happened. I don’t know how or why, it just did. His hand was going one place and my mind went somewhere else, with someone else. I felt guiltier than the time I broke my mom’s favorite crystal angel and blamed it on my poodle Sassy.
To relieve my guilt afterwards, I asked a question that at any other given time; I’d never want to hear the answer yes to… “Do you every think of anyone else while we’re doing it?” His answer, “No, do you”? Again, here I go thinking I was born a boy, with breast. I lied. Nope. Only you. That was then. Now, well, let’s just say that I have a list and some things I’m checking off twice. Personally, I love to share my fantasies with my mate. He finds them humorous most of the time.
Here are a few sexual fantasies that both Men and Women have:
- Fantasies about their current partner
- Sexual domination (non violent)
- Sex with another Man or Woman or both @ same time
- Giving or Receiving Oral Sex
- Anal Sex
- Sex with a Stranger
- Having Your Partner Masturbate for You
- Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
- Sex with an ex
- Fantasies involving romantic sex
Feel free to add your own fantasies. Go ahead dare to dream, to have your cake and fantasy too. Sharing may be a bigger payoff than you think. Remember though, sometimes it’s better to dream it than live it. This is Leticia, asking “what’s your fantasy”?
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Fantasies are nice because you can explore your freaky side or your romantic side with out actually doing it 4 real ,Now living them out is a whole different story,personally my fantasy is to own a beautuful home with my flawlessy beautiful wife and our incredibly awsome kids and just be a loving happy family ,oh and having a massive bank account wouldn’t hurt either lol. Wait is that more like a dream?? lol
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Sex in the open e.g beach, parks etc.
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HMMM SEX.. GREAT TOPIC FOR THOSE GETTING IT LOL.. MYSELF I THINK I HAVE ALOT OF FANTASIES .. AND.. I AINT TELLING CAUSE THEN IT WOULDNT BE A FANTASY FOR JUST ME LOL.. WHYT I LIKE YOUR IDEAL OF FANTASY.. HMMM SEEMS KIND OF BORING THOUGH .. COULDNT YOU THINK OF SOMETHING A LIL WILDER HEY CMERE LETS TALK ABOUT YOUR DREAMS BOY LOL… NO REALLY SEX IS SUPPOSE TO BE A FULLFILLING EXPERIENCE SHARED AND OF COURSE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO LET GO AND RELAX AND FEELLLL THE PLEASURE ..OOPS LET ME STOP SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU AINT GETTING ANY LOL..
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Fantasies are perfectly normal. We all have them. They make things fun. No reason to be threatened by them.
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wow its funny this article came up because I’ve been thinking a lot about my high school boyfriend lately and even had a couple of dreams about him!!
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Fantasies are great, aren’t they?! I believe in sharing them with my partner, but some fantasies are better than the actual event could ever be. Personally, I think its good to keep a couple all to myself. If I did them all, what would be left to fantasize about??
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I think fantasies are great! As long as they stay that. As far as sharing with your partner I think it depends on your relationship with that partner. Some fantasies may make them feel jealous ,or left out , or undesirable. So just be sure what you share. I shared one fantasy once and after telling it , it backfired on me with the way my partner responded to me. There are some things that I think are just better kept to yourself for your own enjoyment.
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wow, could i relate to alot of things in this article. very interesting.
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What are mine..? The Puerto Rican girl from my grade school who had a 20 year old’s body who was the source of my early fantasies. The others..? Some I’ve had and some are destined to remain fantasies. But the thing I got from your article was communication…and I don’t mean telling someone, “I’d like to get with your sister”. I mean being comfortable enough about your sexuality to share them. Ya never know…it might lead to pleasant surprises. No, I wouldn’t hire the Dallas Cowboys to celebrate someone’s birthday…and I’m not going on Classmates.com to get in touch with your ex. I might consider the gladiator costume but I ain’t meeting at no hotel dressed as “The Hamburglar” OR Ronald…damn, now I’ve lost my train of thought. Where was I…? Oh yes, the girl from grade school…
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fantasies are good when they are good.. but when they get weird.. then you can only call yourself a WEIRDO.. a sex MANIAC.
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Fantasies are real…its all apart of life….everyone has had them….personally I love a good fantasy
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fantasies are a great way to escape the days every day dulldrum.
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Fantasies are fun, especially when they come true.
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Fantasies for me are rare to come true, but have had it happen twice…they usually end up totally weird
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We all have fantasies……the problem is if we act on them or not!
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if u really are into someone a fantasy would rarely be about someone other than the one u were into…at least thats my experience.
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Fantasies are there and wouldn’t stop however some of us would like to deny. You could fantasize about that handsome man that you have only talked to.
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Fantasies are part of being normal!
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would not talk to her about it,……. i learned from past experiences
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fantasies are wierd…when you attempt to make it come to life… it never lives up to your fantasy…. thats why they are called “fantasies”. They are better left in your head…..
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Fantasies is what make life interesting.
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I have never had a relationship without a fantasy… Keeps things exciting!
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Fantasies keep it exciting and give both of you something to look forward to!!
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Fantasies are perfectly normal, as long as they don’t involve underage kids like those Dateline shows are always showing. Most of the men say that their urge to live out the fantasy outweighs the risk. In that case, its crazy but for the most part most of us are living out our fantasies without hurting anyone.
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Please keep up the good arcticles. Fantasies, yes they exist.
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I myself think fantasies are normal. I personally have a good one of my own. But I’m not tellin lol!
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i have one particular fantasy that i would love to share with you guys, but am way to shy!! lol
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Fantasies help you to dream and keeps love alive!
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fantasies are great, relationship without it can be boring. But, some fantasies might just have to remain as is
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Great article… fanatasies are very much worth having and entertaining–’cause sometimes they do come true!!
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I think if we dont have fantasies then something is wrong….they are natural part of life….just my h/o 2 cents
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Fantasies are very entertaining…..and I like for all my fantasies to come true….
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I think we have a lot in common…lol. I never really fantasized about same sex or more than one partner…. but I’ve been caught day-dreaming about it all too often!! hehehe They say women aren’t as obvious as men about it… but I think a look on my face says it all because people always seem to know *blush*
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boy, do i love some of me fantasies………lol
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Life without fantacy isn’t living.
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Fantasy is the stuff dreams are made of, without them, we have nothing to strive to achieve.
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Good article…very thought provoking…but don’t want to reflect on things in the past too much!—
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There’s absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. Although it would be nice to say we should only fantasize about the one we’re with, realistically, your mind can take you places that you know you don’t need to be sometimes. We’re all human, it happens
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There’s absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. Although it would be nice to say we should only fantasize about the one we’re with, realistically, your mind can take you places that you know you don’t need to be sometimes. We’re all human, it happens
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Fantasy is quite normal. It makes one have that deja vu.
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There’s absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. Although it would be nice to say we should only fantasize about the one we’re with, realistically, your mind can take you places that you know you don’t need to be sometimes. We’re all human, it happens
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Fantasies are good…some are best kept to yourself. We all have them.
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There is nothing better than the human imagination. Some fantasies should be shared and others need to be kept to yourself because they would cause more problems than necessary. Sharing healthy fantasies could add some spice to your life.
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Funny thing about fantasies you can’t really control them when they pop into your head they kind of take over. Makes me kinda tingly inside. Fantasies shared with a partner should be pleasant and not scary. If you have doubts take soem time to think about it. Never do something that you are uncomfortable with. Fantasies should be shared with someone that you trust and your partner should understand if ou do not want to share in the fantasy. You can always start out with something mild and work your way up to it. Or create a fantasy together.Add to the story so to speak. Its so fun try it!
Angela
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phantasies are not only good and very natural, theey are also a good process for the mind, so it makes no sense to try to put them down or control them, it is BAD!!!
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I prefer reality
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Fantasies can be a good thing or a bad thing. An ex from way back shared some of his with me and I was totally turned off by him….. especially since he wouldn’t stop bothering me with them!!
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I would NOT tell my current mate… Why mess up a good thing, over an idea that ran cross your mind over someone you might never meet or see again… The mind playes tricks on you..But, if your in bed with your mate, in you seem to keeping about this ex, than somethings up…
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RE NIKKI’S POST TO
-26th of Sep, 2006
Fantasies are nice because you can explore your freaky side or your romantic side with out actually doing it 4 real ,Now living them out is a whole different story,personally my fantasy is to own a beautuful home with my flawlessy beautiful wife and our incredibly awsome kids and just be a loving happy family ,oh and having a massive bank account wouldn’t hurt either lol. Wait is that more like a dream?? lol
Posted by whytb0y
RE-27th of Sep, 2006
WOW…to find a man that dreams or has fantasies about a wife and kids?! Now, that IS truly my fantasy!
Posted by Nikki
get at me and send me a note and lets talk .
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fantasies are fun, when you think of them, knowing that they will never come true.
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