“I know that African-American women… [a]re not finding how to hold relationships, how to hold husbands,” says Pastor Jomo K. Johnson. But unlike the social perspective on this matter, in his book, Call Tyrone: Why Black Women Should Remain Single Or…, to be released this June, the Pastor doesn’t condemn African-American women for finding themselves holding the title of the highest rate of unmarried women of any race. If anything, he wants African-American men to share in the burden of creating such circumstances and hopes that the book will knock some sense into those “African-American men who aren’t taking care of their own lives, who aren’t seeking to be faithful or responsible to African-American women in their community.”
The thing is, the media in general has made single-hood; especially amongst African-American women seem like a curse; like something single Black women should be ashamed of. Well, not in this book. The Pastor elevates and commends the status of being single, seeing it as a blessing than a curse… asking Black women to embrace the concept of being content with being single – something he acknowledges most Black women have taken to even without having to read his book.
And because women are “precious and priceless” before God, he believes they shouldn’t “lower” themselves in any way whatsoever. Hence lowering your standards and what you believe in just so people can scrap the
Miss/Ms title in front of your name to a ‘Mrs’ shouldn’t be an option because there are so many other options to explore… and one of them is to remain single and be proud of it and using your power as a single person to impact positively on other people’s lives.
Plus the ‘OR…” at the end of the book’s title doesn’t entirely mean dating interracially… how about dating African men from other countries? In his interview with the Christian Post, he says: “There’s somewhat of a stigma for African-American women if they date or marry a white man, or even a Hispanic man. It’s kind’ve [sic] a brand that you’re abandoning the black race, but I want to encourage women that there are good, godly men who are not necessarily African-American.” And that is why our dating site is well geographically represented so that love can transcend all borders… so that love can be limitless…
To remain Single Or…? What do you think?