So she is dating a white guy...
"Perpetual singleness has taken residence among my circle of closest friends," goes Janelle Harris in reference to Black women in one of her articles 'So Don’t Get Mad If She's With a White Guy' on Clutch Magazine. "It's made a comfortable home in the eaves of our respective condos and apartments, and snuggled at the foot of beds that are very regrettably used for sound nights of shuteye and sound nights of shuteye alone. It’s perched with audacious in-your-face-ness, there with a perky greeting in the morning and a sleepy send-off into the night. Singleness… is clearly a permanent housemate."
According to Janelle, much as most Black women are still single, they are marriage material in every sense of the phrase: Well read, moneyed, love sports, responsible, beautiful and with great personalities.
When one of her friends crossed over to the White man's land, the defection talk from some of the Black men arose. She was heckled when they held hands on the streets and nasty comments thrown their way. And since she had some booty on her, one of things that was questioned was the ability of her white man to "handle all of that". As Janelle puts it, "It was bold-faced disrespect with detailed instructions about what she could do and who she could see if she wasn’t being satisfied, which not only called into question his manhood, but reduced her to a mere piece of flesh whose only requirement was to be smacked up, flipped, and rubbed down."
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The thing is, these comments didn't only come from the posers in the hood.. they also came from learned black men with white-collar jobs, questioning her loyalty to the black culture and people. The "If they weren't having us, nobody should be having us" mentality is what she picked up on from their comments. It's like, black men have the choice to date women of other races but black women shouldn't.
Are black women just expected to sit at the fence and stay single even when a good white man walks by? Is it fair to expect the black woman to just stay single, shrug off all good white men just so she isn't dubbed non-loyal to blackness and her peeps and wait and hope that one day she will stumble across a good black man? So she is dating a white man… SO?!
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