When people found out Tamera Mowry formerly of the Sister Sister TV show was engaged to a white man (now her husband Fox News correspondent Adam Housley), Housley had to calm her down when the hate against her choice to marry white was becoming too much to swallow.
Tamera and Housley got married in May this year. She opened up about this hate recently in an exclusive interview by The YBF (Young Black and Fabulous), explaining why such criticism no longer bags her. And I think the answers she gives can be very inspirational to all interracial couples who have to deal with such negativity and criticism.
Below is the interracial segment of that interview in which I admired their strength and conviction as a couple :
Tamera, let’s get right to it. You and [your husband] Adam got slammed with hateful comments and criticism about your interracial relationship. Especially as soon as your engagement photos hit the net. Why did you choose to release the photos? How did you all deal with the negativity?
It’s something I wanted to share with Adam, our fam and friends, and years down the line with our kids. There’s something, I think, special about that. I wanted them to see something more than just us in our wedding attire. I didn’t feel like we shouldn’t have put them out–I was just shocked that some people still feel that way. It’s 2011! They did a poll recently and 83% of Americans are OK with interracial relationships. I never expected that kind of negative response to us. That’s why I was OK with our wedding photographer (Jose Villa) putting those pics on his website. He was ok with them, and I was ok with them.
Did all the hate overshadow your happiness about the photos?
It didn’t ruin anything for me. If anything, it just shed light on the fact people feel that way…and that’s their opinion. The fact of the matter is–if you have 99.9% who see it with positivity, and you’re gonna have that .1% who don’t.
My husband had the best response to that on the show. He said ‘That’s not our issue. That’s their issue. So they can deal with that.’ From now on, I’m just focusing on the people who love us and support us. Which are MANY people. And that’s also the case with life–there will always be naysayers
Plus in a much earlier interview with Essence.com Tamera said they have more people supporting them than making stupid comments. So they have made a conscious choice to ignore the negativity and focus on the positive. The point that needs to be drilled in the haters minds is: Tamera didn’t marry a White man, she married an amazing man. Is that so hard to see?
To all interracial couples out there, make that conscious choice to surround yourself with positivity!
“… The point that needs to be drilled in the haters minds is: Tamera didn’t marry a White man, she married an amazing man. Is that so hard to see?…”
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THIS quote is KEY & KING! …She married an amazing man…and He married an amazing woman…beautiful.
COLOR HAS NO BEARING ON THE Quality of Love or Depth of Commitment. Nor does it have a bearing on the ability of people to prioritize intrinsic qualities above the tangibles.
Tamera and Adam are among those individuals united by their ability to recognize this.
The sadistic instances of those who bash & trash interracial relationships are more often those of same races: Blacks trash, ridicule, criticize other Blacks; Whites will bash other whites. It’s pathetic. …but then ignorance IS pathetic.
Woe to those who engage in interracial relationships ” to make a point or to take a stand”! It’s never good to play with hearts and lives. The result will most always be wrenching and catastrophic. …
.But those who accept the precious gift of Love, Acceptance, Understanding and Adoration of a man or woman in any color, have been given a A GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING AND A LIGHT WHICH KEEPS ON SHINING…
God Bless Tamera, Adam and others.
~SugahRush!
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I totally agree. One has to go with one’s heart. Love knows no color. As long as they are happy and in love with each nothing else matters. I applaud Tamarra for showing the world that she found an amazing man and she wasn’t going to let him go! You go girl. As long as the people in her world( family and friends) support her and Adam they are golden. Tamarra and her sister are children of an interacial marriage and from what i’ve seen they have grown into beautiful well grounded woman. Tamarra and Adam keep holding your heads high, embrace your love and to hell with all the haters. p.s. can’t wait until next season!
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Part of Interracial dating continues to be a statement to the part of society that does not accept that mutual understanding, independent of factores as skin color, sexual orientation, and whatever, is essencial for the survival of Homo sapiens. It is sooooo important these media anchors support the fight, to stop racist, segretionist ideas of gaining more space in our conflictive societies. Tamara & Adam, I love you and I wish you a very happy and long life together !!
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Congrats to her and the haters are just unhappy people. It’s funny how she received all this negativity and her twin (who married a black man) received well wishes. Her father is white so why all the fuss because she married someone of the same race as her dad. It’s funny how the reverse is OK, but it’s a crime when a black woman marries someone of another race. Ignore them and be happy with whomever treates you well.
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I II commend Tamara and adam and I wish them well. I hope God will send me a amazing man as a matter of fact when he sends me one (white ) we will be happy and it wouldnt matter what people said or thought as long as the both of us are happy with one another.Humor2u.
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Congrats to both of them. As long as they both resepect and adore each other thats all that counts.
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wow 2011 and some people still have not evolved.
Her dad is white she is MIXED RACE a product of
interracial love.
They have found love i personally am happy for them.
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There are people out there that still has hatred in there minds.And god will deal with them.I am so very happy for you.Ignore the mail and live your life.
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Some people need to just worry about their own love lives and find love for themselves…honestly the people that this is upsetting so bad need to lighten up and look at their own issues. People that don’t date outside of their race are okay but its the people that hate others that choose too that are the real problem. Get a life
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Congratulations to the both of you…but I find it sad that in this “so called modern” day and age that
we are still dealing with this stigma of interracial bias and quite frankly “disrespect” to this couple and people in general!
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BLACK and WHITE make a good combination. Tamera and Adam as long as u love and respect ur self thats all that matter. Those who cant stand u let them sit down.
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Man, people have issues, as they say where I am coming from ” how come someone try a shoes but your foot is the one that get hurted ” meaning , you haters mind your business. She marries green , white , yellow … None of your business ! The girl is happy with the man she chose. Slavery was abolished long time ago, mentalities have changed , people are mixing and looking forward a bright future! If some people still have old mentality , really this is not their era ! You should just kill yourselves and leave us in peace. Ask to yourselves why do we ( black girls) go for white guys ? Maybe because of black guys being controlling , abusive and much more ( maybe not all of you, but the majority). Anyway there is no need for explanations , as a woman I go for what make me happy and I don’t care about the looks on the street or comments,
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i think u guys look awesome and u ve a bright future,,so dont worry about those haters, cuz they don’t know anything about “LOVE”
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Sadly, my mother experienced this very same ignorance…she simply did not allow it to hold her back. She created her own family tribe, and I am very thankful she did. (Other than my existance, she has allowed us to experience so much more than skin) Some think I am “lucky” because my melatonin does not match my ancestry, I beg to differ. I am constantly faced with ignorance because many think I am ‘white’ and are comfortable spewing their ignorance. I have set many in their place in my 49 years on earth. I will continue to until I leave this earth. Many happy returns to Mr. & Mrs. Housley.
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How is this an interracial relationship when she’s white too?
If that’s the case then, her sister is in an interracial relationship also.
Death to the one drop rule!
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I wish you two the best and many wonderful years of love!
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