The lure of the forbidden

Posted by Ria, 02 Jul 07

Ever been in a position where every guy or woman you have really lusted after is an out-of-bonds one? And if they ever come back into play, e.g. leaves the girlfriend or boyfriend they just never seem to be as interesting?

The lure of the forbidden mmmm mmmmm!!! What makes you want the one man or woman you can’t have? Dr. Jack Morin, writer of the book ‘The Erotic Mind’ sums this central premise into what he dubs the Erotic Equation’. Attraction + Obstacle=Erotic Charge.

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This isn’t such a new thing… I’m sure we all remember Romeo and Juliet. Question is, would they have found each other as irresistible were it not for the feud?

So what’s the attraction? As much as initial attraction to someone is based on one’s individual tastes, the discovery of the forbidden element – be it a man attached or the age gap – adds the extra magnet to the two poles. I guess it’s all about rising to the challenge. And any obstacle to satisfying ones unexplored fantasy will lead to an even higher desire. Any denial of such gratification will create a craving for what is denied… don’t you agree?

Most people who decide to satisfy such fatal attractions probably never stop to think that they could destroy them or the other person. So how do you resist falling for such a person?

Before diving with raging desire, weigh the consequences… can you live with them? For those of us who have ever had a taste of the forbidden how was it like? Was it as satisfying as you had anticipated? Did you step on some toes in the process? And if you did, was it worth it?

Well some of these attractions are perfectly normal. Just because you are attached don’t mean the world is full of ugly, unattractive people. You suddenly don’t get blinded to other attractions. So should you act on your attractions? When is it wise to get with the forbidden program?

Tags: forbidden fruit, fatal attraction

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  1.   Sammy says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 07

    I think some of this got off track-but my opinion(of the actual topic)yes people want what they can't have-but only a fool acts on it and i think it is wrong for a man or woman to go after somone who is taken,married or has a b/f or g/f just for the thrill.Thats a dead end there,if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you~! As for some of the other post-everyone is attracted to differant things, colors-body builds,way somone walks,hair,eyes,etc-it dosn't mean just because somone labels something forbidden that thats why we like something or not but i think most will agree that in the end it's who you have things in common with and get along with that makes a relationship last in the end-be it black white asian or whatever. My 2 bits

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  2.   SAUNDRA says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 07

    Here is an articleexcerpt from the KKK website which is basically saying to racists that they should not feel human feelings of love, but just continue believing and practicing their belief that people with different colors only get together if they find someone exotic or because they feel sorry for them. HOW SWEET! Pay attention to the very end of the paragraph it says it all. you can't be in love with someone, you have to either feel sorry for them or want an exotic taste. The Compassion Factor Julie - Klanswoman NY We feel compassion and thats great. Were suppose to. As long as we dont hurt others, sin against God, or misuse our natural compassion, we are free to do as we please. That is what I believe in. But somewhere along the line as white women (and men), we are always faced with the so-called opportunity to compromise. Maybe some women will think that its not too bad if they date or go out with non-white "Christians". After all, the preacher man says that it is the right choice and God wants it that way. By dating a non-white "Christian", I can prove Im not an evil racist and my church friends will be proud of me for bringing the races closer together. This is what many white women (and men) are thinking to themselves and furthermore are being told by church leaders. White men race mix because it seems exciting or exotic. White women usually date non-whites, because of the compassion factor.

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  3.   SAUNDRA says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 07

    THANK YOU. WE NEED A LITTLE HOPE HERE. BEFORE THE STUPIDITY LIQUIFIES OUR INNER ORGANS.

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  4.   Darlicious says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 07

    There is no such thing as forbidden when it comes to love regardless of skin colors. Here in america long ago white parents forbid their children to play with black children and to think of them in a relationship was not only forbidden but taboo. Whenever you forbid or whatever someone to do something,it makes that person or child always have a hidden desire to do it and see what happens. This is okay until it involves a person's feelings and if a person that is persuing an interracial is doing it only because they want to see what happens,someone is going to get hurt because feelings and emotions are involved. It would be nice one day if we could all just see a person for themselves and no the skin color,whether it be black and white or light skin or dark skin. When it all comes out, we are all the same underneath and we all have the same human emotions and feelings. No it's not taboo to love me or any of my black sisters,it's just plain Darkalicious.

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  5.   Jabali says:
    Posted: 20 Jul 07

    You are right anez. It's really a simple isuue of boy likes girl and vice versa!

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  6.   anez says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 07

    I think people are too wrapped up in how different the colour of our skins are. What happened to i just fancy you! Must we always have to give a reason why we fancy someone other than our own?

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  7.   Jabali says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 07

    Well my take "forbidden" is all in the mind!

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  8.   Thomas says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 07

    Very good SAUNDRA! Down with the racism. We should all fight against this old way of thinking.

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  9.   SAUNDRA says:
    Posted: 11 Jul 07

    I think its sad that we have to share the same air with people like this. They drive me crazy with the stupid bigoted thinking they have! because their bad thoughts cause big problems in the world. Sometimes I think the only way the people in this world will learn we are all equal is when we are all dead. So a white supremacist can't jump up and say "I'm white and better than you!" and start making other people's lives miserable. I'd be like, no you are not better than me, you don't have any blood supply, I don't have any blood supply, we are all equal now. Are the dead racist to each other? Nope. LOL.

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  10.   SAUNDRA says:
    Posted: 11 Jul 07

    I think its weird that someone considers me forbidden because i am brown. what's wrong with me that i am being called forbidden? Am i a poison belladonna plant? what is supposed to happen with me? It is insulting that people think like this because I checked myself before and I have a pulse and functioning vasculat system. I am human. I am not someone's blow up doll or toy gimp. Since when did it become a fact from the scientific method that brown people are sex toys for people's fantasies? That is stupid and perverse, right up there with pedophilia people that think every kid that crosses their path is their personal play toy. they can all go to hell as far as i'm concerned.

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  11.   Thomas says:
    Posted: 11 Jul 07

    Lucy, why should it be forbidden for a man to date a black girl? I can not see the forbidden aspect. The love counts - not the colour of the skin. If both works - differnt colour and the love - everything is fine. We are living in a global world.

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  12.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 07

    Lucy and CocoKisses very good comments.You are right on target with your comments.Thanks.

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  13.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 07

    You hit it with that comment Lucy. That's why so many women are cautious about who they are talking to from this site. No one wants to be an experiment for someone who wants to fulfill a fantasy.

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  14.   sonu786 says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 07

    Peoples always want Positive respons,this is true

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  15.   fala says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 07

    Good points Laugh Sailor and Lucy.

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  16.   Lucy says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 07

    I think this topic of "forbidden" plays into or borders on "fetish." As a black female, I think there are a lot of men who are intrigued by the idea of dating a black girl simply because it's forbidden or bordering taboo. We're considered "wild" and "exotic." And there is also a "sexual charge" from this wild/forbidden idea as well. So I guess, in essence, the phrase "people always want what they can't have," plays out in two ways: - You shouldn't be dating this chick because you're already committed to someone else - the excitement of getting caught (i.e. Fatal Attraction) - Or your parents, friends, and family are very against you dating outside of your race, and so now you're primed to explore and date exactly what your parents have told you not to.

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  17. Posted: 04 Jul 07

    It seems like this is a wake-up call for the committed relationship, in which one ought to look at what's really important and universally desired, consequences included and then deeply talk it over with one's mate, to try to work these things into the relationship, energizing it. Approached in a positive, nurturing manner, things that may otherwise seem out of bounds that are exciting in others, can sometimes be brought into the relationship and I think this is the first order of business. If this fails, more introspection is needed There really does come a point in which being true to one's self means ending a relationship and moving on. I think honesty and excellent communication, probably with some professional help are needed, though, in this case. My basic thought is to delve into the root of the fatal attraction and live a considered life. It's not always easy.

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  18.   Thomas says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 07

    A lot of questions!!! It's diffult to answer. However, I really hope to meet black lady with the help of this site.

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  19.   fala says:
    Posted: 04 Jul 07

    That's why I want to win the Lotto so badly.

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  20.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 07

    Ian't it the truth Fala!

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  21.   fala says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 07

    People always want what they can't have.

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