Men lie about wanting sex…Women lie about not wanting sex who’s really telling the truth? Are you playing the dating game or just watching from the side lines? Perhaps no one knows what they really want. Do you?

You know the thing that I love most about generalizations? Nothing…they don’t really apply to you or me…just the infamous “them”. You know, those folks over there, everybody else…well, almost everyone, except the people that it doesn’t apply to.

I’m always intrigued but hardly surprised by the things I read and the experiences others have while dating on-line. There is nothing new going on it’s the same “old” party with a different guest list. Depending on who you talk to the general consensus is that men date on-line looking for sex while women are on-line looking for love and a commitment.

Not to put down my women folk…but, some of us, just ain’t that deep. I’ve known plenty of females that were only looking for a good time. It could be one, two or several nights of “fun”. If you asked them if they wanted a ring, their answer would be “yes”, assuming that you were referring to a testicle ring… (All my freaks…I mean sexually advanced people, know what I’m talking about).

Believe it or not, there are also quite a few guys out there that are tired of playing the same old dating game. You know the one where they go to clubs, bars, church events, friend’s parties, and blind-dates. These guys pay for the opportunity to find out if there is any interest and then pay again to see if there is any chemistry between them and the “seeker of the golden band”.

Please forgive me for repeating myself. However, some people here don’t listen. There is also those that have stumbled upon our secret little internet world for the first time and haven’t heard this before, so here goes…IT’S THE INTERNET…YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT WANT THE SAME THINGS THAT YOU DO…TELL THE TRUTH.

Trust me when I tell you that there are websites out there for just about everything and anything that you can imagine. Want to date a midget? Like big boys or girls? Prefer to date yourself while looking at other people naked? You can find anything out there…here’s an unsolicited advertisement. www.google.com. Try it!

Now back to why we are all here, on this site. It’s because we’ve all expressed an interest and perhaps a preference to date someone of a different race. Let’s say that other sites are like a buffet, there are plenty of choices and you can keep going back for more. I’d like to think that we are similar to ordering right off a personalized menu…made just for your taste and your particular palate. But don’t get it twisted. Even here in our interracial bistro of love, there are those that don’t want a relationship, they only want to see if that “blacker berry” really does have sweeter juice.

I don’t have a problem with that either, as long as we are all being honest. Oh, I guess that’s the point, huh. We’re not. I’d really like to do a social experiment right here. I’d like for a few brave men and women to step forward and say that they would love to just have a sexual experience with someone of a different race or that their ethnicity doesn’t even matter, they just want to “put it in and take it out”. This doesn’t mean that these people aren’t emotionally available or that they are not open to eventually having a loving monogamous relationship somewhere down the line. It only means that they are open to having a “sex only” experience right now. I think that it’s important for guys to see that there are women out there that don’t feel like they have to have a ring…to do the damn thing. The general perception (with great reason), is that most guys really come to dating sites to get laid. If this is true, wouldn’t it be nice to be able to know who these people are? Seriously, man or woman… If that’s what you want, it makes it a hell of a lot easier to find other like minded people. However, if you want something more you can avoid these folks and spend time searching for the people that really want a serious relationship.

See I think that men lie about wanting sex because they think that women just want to get married and that for some reason we don’t like sex as much. Women lie about not wanting sex as much because they don’t want to come across as being a whore…just in case “he’s really the one”. To quote my friend, just last night (talking to his teenage son), “you can’t turn a “ho” into a housewife”.

This is Leticia, and I don’t know, you tell me. What do you really want and are you brave enough to tell the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

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