What did you learn about sex from your first time?
The first time having sex … hmmm … Most of us have best laid plans – plans that involve losing it all in a sweet and memorable manner. But many of us end up losing their virginity in a spontaneous manner where you have no control over when or how it happens. And for some, their first isn’t what they imagined at all … its horrendous.
My first time wasn’t anything I had imagined. I had always visualized Freak’N You by Jodeci playing in the background (Watch video below). Until I was ushered into the imperfections of the whole process. Nothing romantic or sexy about the whole thing. And after that, all the worrying; Will I have to get stitches, what if the condom had a tiny hole in it, what if, what if … Did I wait all these years for this (disappointment)?
From that imperfect incident, I learned one thing: When it comes to sex, striving for perfection and obsessing over small flaws can make you lose sight of the big picture – you as an individual enjoying the whole experience. You have to momentarily relax and savor the experience. I learned that much as I had choreographed the whole thing, being in sync with the other person is what matters most … not the sexy, silky sheets and rose petals I had visualized for years on end.
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