What is wrong with this dating profile?

Posted by Ria, 05 Aug 14

We get lots of advice on what to do and what not to do when dating online. But does the advice sink? Do we really understand how our dating profiles need to be, look or sound?

Well I came across an example of a dating profile the other day and thought to share it with you guys. But this time around, instead of pointing out what is wrong with the profile, I figured, why not let you guys point out what is wrong… make it a little interesting. This way, we probably will have figured out, based on other member’s opinions, what put’s them off in profiles … or my profile.

Well, here it is:

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

I’m more of a “journey” than a “destination” sort of guy so let me kick this off with a little narrative snapshot of what went down during the past couple of months in my world so you can get a sense of what made me the man I am today. In October, I moved [here] to start my first real job ever: baby corporate lawyer at a giant, multi-national law firm. The expectation was that I’d order dinner into the office and take dial cars home with alarming frequency because I’d be working so hard. I wasn’t exactly happy about this, but I was also excited to take on the challenge of actual responsibility after so many years studying things that were supposed to prepare me for it. I saw no reason to give up on finding some sort of work/life balance before I’d even tried. After all, lots of lawyers (not to mention other professionals) have worked that hard before and continue to do so routinely. Total immersion in whatever it is you happen to be doing teaches you things about the structure and implications of that would never register during a mere dalliance. I was genuinely looking forward to learning all these secrets about how the world works and contributing to something larger than myself, and maybe figuring what I might like to do with the rest of my life (or just the next couple of years) in the process. I always try to accentuate the positive.

Anyway, it really didn’t work out. Because of forces beyond my control or comprehension, I spent most of those first few months sitting on my ass and reading on the internet about the outside world where people actually did things for a living. I also played a lot of facebook scrabble… Things are starting to pick up a little now, but it also turns out that corporate law is nowhere near as cool as I hoped it might be and it doesn’t look like there’s much I can do about it if I work harder. Oh well. Sometimes things don’t go as planned, but that’s part of the fun!

I also had a girlfriend for most of the period described above and my relationship with her was much more important than any frustrations I felt about the futility of my job. We have since parted ways amicably. Hence, Match.com.

It just took me, like, 1000 characters to draw the profound confusion that I joined an on-line dating site to try and meet girls. Amazing. In my defense, I studied literature in college and wanted to be a writer when I was younger (who can remember?) so I sometimes make things a little more complicated and overwrought than they need to be. I’m no drama king, though. It’s only for the aesthetics… did I make you smile?

PS: A WHOLE PARAGRAPH has been removed... YAP!!!

So what do you think? What is putting off? Feel free to point out as many things as you can. Remember, we are the one’s dating online so lets help each other out.

You could also go to Phily.com and find out.

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  1.   Elenzia says:
    Posted: 19 Aug 14

    The entire thing is off putting. It's okay to talk about work, but who you work for doesn't necessarily define who you are. I don't care if you worked for a top firm. Do you like your job, have you done some meaningful work to yourself and others? I definitely don't want to hear about an ex-girlfriend. He's all over the place. I don't think he's quite sure of where he wants to be. As an established woman, I don't have time to waste on someone who's trying to figure themselves out... They probably won't ever be quite sure about a relationship with anyone!

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  2.   Knarly1 says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 14

    Greetings, thanks for visiting my page. I prefer to be on a journey rather than a destination. Let me kick this off a bit of what went down during the last couple of months in my world so you can get a sense of what made me the man I am today. In October, I moved [here] to start my first real job ever:A corporate lawyer at a giant, multi-national firm. The expectation was that I'd order dinner into the office and take dial cars home with alarming frequency because Id be working so hard. I wasn't exactly happy about this, but I was excited to take on the challenge after so many years of study. I saw no reason to give up on finding some sort of work/life balance before I'd even tried. I was genuinely looking forward to learning and still contributing, while always trying to accentuate the positive. Anyway, that didn't work out with forces beyond my control, I've decided these firms don't deserve my work ethic. Things are starting to pick up some, but it turns out that corporate law is nowhere near as cool as I had hoped. I did have a lady friend for most of that time described above and my relationship with her was much more important than the frustrations I had with the job. We have since parted ways as friends. (?yes?) (Meh...amicably. Hence, Match.com.) We all are involved w/our jobs, pointing out yours is good, it shows you're motivated. I chopped the above and still can be chopped some. Now after the " I did have a lady friend" line, describe fun stuff, a joke or 2 how dating sites suck. Then get semi serious of what you look forward to when meeting someone new. All this should be the larger body of text. ( My pref is not to go out on dates. Lite venues that that don't weigh down both involved with a heavy dinner etc. coffee out, street events. Then 2 people can decide if there's other chances later for any real dating

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