When he loses his job, which spouse gets hit hardest?
Nothing can be more destabilizing for a marriage like a husband losing his job
Handling a spouse’s job loss is something I myself must admit that I really wouldn’t know how to hack the situation. I have seen women calling their husbands’ names in front of the kids, calling them good for nothing, lazy and useless. The humiliation, the being fired from the marital bed – as if being fired from the job wasn’t enough :roll:
One woman used to force the hubby to get up in the morning, get all dressed up, and give him the car to drive around just so that the neighbors don’t figure out his a** was broke and out of work. And he had to pick her from work so everyone could see how happy they were.
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Well, I believe a husband losing his job is most women’s fear. And much as we women never know how best to handle this situation, men admit that it’s WORSE than HELL for them because being the provider is what defines most men. And losing the job is equated to losing a great measure of self respect.
Some guy I know put up a show for a whole year – waking up in the morning like he would on a normal working day. And during pay day, he would withdraw money from his retirement account. And when the wife decided to surprise him at work on his birthday, she got SURPRISED!!! Money that would have been otherwise invested was spent on trying to cover up the job loss.
Well much as women suffer from this, the men do too. Some become abusive, others start sleeping around just to get their crushed egos back on track. And for some even a supportive wife isn’t a good enough ego boost.
So they say that we must accept the situation and try to bounce back. Is it really that hard? If we almost independent women really feel stripped of the little independence we have when we lose our jobs, think of what the man has to go through when this happens. And lashing out on your spouse wont make the situation go away … we still do it anyway.
Nobody likes change … the negative change that is. And most deal with change differently. Well I believe women are the ones that have to deal with a lot when a man loses his job. That’s just me. What so you think? Is it worse for the woman or man?
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