When silence aint golden
Nonverbal behavior far outweighs the impact of words especially when two people are out of sync. Most of the time it’s because most people tend to attach an interpretation to this kind of behavior. When your mate decides to go the non-verbal way, it is important that you respond appropriately to this behavior.
Many women usually complain that their spouses won’t talk to them and cannot be prodded into it. The only communication is primarily on small talk or factual level. So what accounts for male ‘silence’?
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For some its work…and for others, the solutions to all their life’s problems is action and not talk. Others are just too authoritarian…you know the “I refuse any further discussion!᾿ kind of guys. And for most, they just detest discussing what they call ‘trivia’. Ok I have heard of the trivia story. But seriously, if I want to have a heart to heart discussion with my beau, is that trivia?
Most men when charged with not communicating, respond with “What do you mean am not communicating? I’m taking to you right now!᾿ or “Talk. Talk. Talk. That’s all we ever do᾿ and my all time favorite - “You want to talk? Lets talk about football᾿ The last statement is very sarcastic. We all know that the last thing a woman wants to talk about is football.
So why do men and women generally retreat to silence of this sort? Is this seen as some kind of safety device… hiding inner thoughts and feelings so that others don’t attack/discredit them? The choice not to communicate seriously undermines the validity of the commitment to the relationship. By withdrawing, one usually sends the message that he or she has no obligation toward maintenance… well that is how most of us interpret it.
Question is, do you resort to begging, pleading, getting angry? Am sure most of us have tried that and it hasn’t worked. It’s like you can’t do much about your partner’s silence. So how do you crack this one?
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