White Mom's Genuine Worry About the Future of Her Black Boy

Posted by Ria, 19 Jul

In wake of Alton Sterling's death in Louisiana last week, most parents who are raising black boys are fearing for the future of their kids once they become grown black men. This is also affecting white parents; especially those with mixed race kids who are partly black. Most understand that much as their kids look 'mostly' white, eventually, as they grow up, their skin will get darker - and that is the worrying bit.

The irony is: These white parents have no issue with the skin color of their kids becoming darker. Most of these parents are not prejudiced seeing as they are/were in interracial relationships. What they are portraying out there is FEAR!!!. What is worrying them is the treatment of Black men by the society at large and the realization that their black boys may have to endure such prejudice when they are grown. Some white spouses in black-white interracial relationships are questioning whether or not to have kids because of this - something that is putting a strain on their relationships.

Monica Johnson, 33, of St. Louis put up a post on Facebook worrying what will happen to her son when he becomes a grown black man. Monica is a white woman married to a black man. Together they have 4 biracial kids. Her youngest son, Kai, is 2 - a cute, adorable kid with curls to die for. Right now, the kid is everyone's favorite. So Johnson wonders - what happens when he is a 25 year old black man? Will the same sentiments apply? Well here are her moving words that captioned the cutest photo of Kai:

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

"I'm so cute now. Everyone comments on my beautiful skin, my adorable curls. But I ask you this--what about when I'm 25, and my skin gets darker, my curls get tighter...I'm wearing baggy pants, maybe a hoodie or a baseball cap...will you lock your car doors when I cross the street? Will you embrace and welcome me when I'm a full grown black man? Will you value my life the same way you value my white Mom's? Or like my Dad's...my black daddy who gets pulled over for "following too closely" (at a stoplight) or for doing 3 miles over the speed limit. Will you smile and take my ID and insurance card like my Mom? Or will you ask if I have warrants before even asking for my license, like my Dad? Will you make me get out of the car to check if it's stolen, in front of my family? Will you shoot me if I get an attitude...or while I'm running away...or while I'm handcuffed? When you see me on the street with my black friends, will you feel the same as when you see a group of white men? Will I still be cute to you then? Will my life be as precious to you then as it is now, while I'm deemed harmless and not intimidating?

Think about the human beings you are judging. Think about them being someone's sweet baby, someone's big brother, someone's nephew or niece. This is not about just Police. This is about all of us and how we shape our opinions and views of the world and its people. Our children are watching.

I have the privilege of knowing some selfless, brave and admirable police officers. I respect them and trust them with my safety and that of my family. I know that one bad egg doesn't ruin the whole dozen. But that doesn't mean that the visibility of cases like ‪#‎altonsterling‬ should be minimized. This is a real, systemic problem that has started at home for each of us. Human beings need to be held accountable, police are no exception as they too, are human. So when you scroll past the inevitable stream of media regarding this case and many, many others, I ask you to look inward and pay attention. I am trying to do the same."

And there you have it folks. Its time for change. Time to realize not every black man in a hoodie is a thug. Its just fashion. Its just... Its just... It could be anything but thug. So let's begin healing this society by trying as much as possible to give the same treatment we give whites, to all other minorities. All it takes is just giving someone the benefit of doubt. That's true healing. WORD!!!

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  1.   Chimera13 says:
    Posted: 13 Aug

    Can we just stop for a second and look at this? I was corrected by a dog's owner for referring to her Chihuahua / Pug as a Pug. Yet it's perfectly acceptable to call a biracial child black, or infer that a biracial child "becomes" a black person at a certain age AND LOSES THEIR BIRACIAL STATUS. When a DOG'S heritage is more celebrated that a HUMAN'S heritage, are we really going the right way?

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    • Chimera13 says:
      Posted: 15 Aug

      Not sure why this was downvoted, as it's a salient point. One-dropper, I bet.

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  2. Posted: 19 Jul

    My heart goes out to "White Mom" worries and fears about her bi-racial son. The sad truth is White Mom, your son will begin to experience prejudice the day he starts going to school. Your son will be a target of racists fears and suspicions before age 12. Remember Tamir Rice, the 12-year-old black boy gunned down by police while playing with a toy gun in a playground?

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