Why are we turning first dates into a team sport?
When a pal of mine first fell in love with her future husband, she was terrified that he'd fancy me more than her because she has always thought that I was prettier. The other day, she admitted to me that she stopped meeting me when she was with him until she was sure that it was she he wanted.
Most women have a psychological blind spot. So when a guy at a bar is eyeing them off, they think he must be looking at the woman next to them. Well I understand my friend’s need to be territorial… she had to make sure she had bewitched him good and proper before letting him near her hottest pal Ria. ;-)
The latest thing on the singles dating scene is group dating… inviting all your mates to join you on a first date. Group dating isn’t that new but its gaining popularity and people are now “turning dating into a team sport".
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Doesn’t the thought just make you shiver? I just can't understand why anybody would intentionally turn their first date into a free-for-all kind of affair. Well, those who advocate for it don’t share the same sentiments with me. They insist that group dating “takes the pressure off couples and removes any awkwardness, or boredom, that might result from having to speak to the same person for more than a couple of minutes.᾿
This reminded me of a story of a lady who brought a bunch of her friends on her date without letting the guy know in advance. The results… the guy scattered and they had to organize some little fund-raising event to sort the bill.
Anyway, here's how group dating works… you gather a group of single acquaintances. You give yourselves a name and pay to post your profile on any of the growing number of group dating websites. Then you cross your fingers and hope a group of gentlemen will spot your profile and contact you to meet up for a big date, en masse.
Alternatively, check out some online calendar and see when and where the men of your choice will be, follow them there and crash their evening in the hopes that you will all pair up and walk hand-in-hand into the sunset.
Forgive me peeps but I think I would rather go the old fashioned way… and be territorial on my first date. Do you think that this kind of thing will only appeal to the under-18s and the deeply desperate?
If I have to do any group dating, then it has to be unplanned. Like when you're out with the girls and hook up with a bunch of men having their boys’ night and BAM! If you're lucky, you'll meet someone and plan a proper one-on-one first date.
Much as team dating removes the awkwardness as devotees put it, don’t you think one-on-one dating gives you a chance to impress with something other than your cleavage? And if it doesn’t work out, you won’t have to blame it on the guy checking out your hot friend on your team.
Would you turn your first date into some team sport?
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