Why do they just look and not write?
The other day, a friend of mine asked me: “Why is it that men look at my profile so much but don’t write or send me a wink or something? Is it my face? Do I look like a freak?”
Most of us run to online dating when finding a date offline fails. We get into online dating with very high and often unreasonable expectations. Why do other members look at your profile and not contact you? I think we need to be a little realistic here. Online dating is kinda like window shopping. We all do it. How many profiles of other members have you looked at? 100? 1000? And out of those, how many did you contact? Should all those you didn’t contact feel rejected and deregister?
Some online dating problems are just in our heads. If people look at your profile and don’t write, that means there was something that interested them about you that made them go through the trouble of viewing it in the first place. So maybe you should stop looking at the number of people who looked at your profile vs. those that contacted you and think about what is in your profile that could be making them not write. Could it be your photos, or ‘about me’ essay? Do everything 25% better … It could make a big difference.
Your perfect partner could be online right now...
What are you looking for?
Whether you rebrand yourself in your online profile or not, people’s preferences will not be altered. You can’t control the preferences of the other members. Everyone is ‘window shopping’ just as you are and some tools we use to gauge our success online can be very misleading. If you are skinny, the man who contacts you will be someone who is going to WANT a skinny woman. If you aren’t earning a fat six-figured salary, the woman who is going to contact you is ONLY one who isn’t materialistic. My advice: No point in getting bent out of shape about the ones who prefer what you are not.
In your opinion, what would make a person go through someone’s profile and not contact them?