Will your interracial relationship stand the test of time?

Posted by Ria, 17 May 07

Although most of us may have grown in multiracial communities, providing us with different perspectives and fewer prejudice, most parents and grandparents always disapprove of us mingling with ‘the others.’ Well am not here to bore you with what you already know.

The big question is will your interracial relationship survive such a society? Convincing you that things are much better now is good yes! But walking hand in hand with your love thinking you wont make heads turn or wont get those bad stares is being over-ambitious, don’t you think?

When seeking or starting an interracial relationship, you need to understand and embrace and understand the potential challenges that await you and your spouse. There may be those who will be with you every step of the way BUT there will always be those ‘fockers’ who disapprove of interracial mixing.

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The wise thing to do is to prepare yourself for the shocked :roll: and negative reactions especially in public places or perhaps from your date’s family and relatives. Depending on the family situation, what may seem easy for you to handle could be a little difficult for your spouse.

Ever heard of people being totally alienated for this alleged ‘crime’? What would you do your spouse can’t stand such alienation by the family? It may present a very big problem in the relationship. So what do you do when faced with such a situation? This is when one really gets tested. Your spouse will definitely have to choose between you or the family. Some tug-of-war this one.

One thing I always tell those faced with family rejection is that you need not limit your love to one race. You need not concern yourself about criticisms or disapprovals. And don’t ever let anyone but yourself decide who you should date or love. Coz once you let them win, then all decisions from there on will be made for you by your family and you do not want that.

The only opinion that matters more than yours should be that of you spouses. No matter what, remember, only the two of you can decide if your relationship will stand the test of time.

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  1.   Wonka says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 10

    OVERRATED!!.

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  2.   Bratty1975 says:
    Posted: 13 May 09

    I have been with a blk man for 6 years now, still yet my parents refuse to even meet him, they want no part of him which is fine with me, but its pathetic that people are still so full of hatred. I guess someday someone will teach them what lifes really about. Its not about judging, its about learning, and experiencing. I love my MAN AND MY LIFE

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  3.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 09

    2 years on Good Friday

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  4.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 24 Mar 09

    Time is just a matter of seconds minutes hours days weeks months and soon enough Two Years for us . Lost alot of people / Thought were friends . No big thing as can remember helping others that I thought were friends and them turning into Petty Thieves . People shall always be independant in their own thoughts and ways . We are Happy with each other as One in Our Family unit . Need not to impress the World as 2 cents will no longer even purchase a piece of Candy . We cannot change the World ,We can be Happy Together

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  5.   sky says:
    Posted: 22 Aug 08

    well i agree with fala you should just do what makes you happy but unfortunatily the world has its 2 cents to put in on how happy u really are but on the other hand its like i always believed we shape the world how wes see it

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  6.   frisbe says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 08

    Ilook at how the interracail children will be affected. Adults can handle hars words and handle situations better,but children can,t. It,s sad adults can,t get along as good as children can. And I like women of all culture.

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  7.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 13 Jun 07

    Good point parigosex!

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  8.   parigosex says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 07

    I believed if anyone wants to be happy for life,he or she has to follow her desire and not others desire.

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  9.   tallguy4u says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 07

    I agree with you fala. Date who every you want. If you agree with what your family says you will never be happy with yourself. And even if you did bring the same race home to meet the family what's to say your family doesnt like your mate. I just went through four years of being the secret of my mates life. As long as I went along with what she was doing, I was giving into racism. It was a tough choice to end things but it had to be done. As long as people think one way and people adjust their lives to make the races people happy, racism will always win.

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  10.   DTreece says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 07

    Well, for my two cents worth, (about all it's worth); I spent 45 years of my life trying to please my parents and family with my relationship choices, and was miserable with it. Yes, my Father was one of the 'birds of a feather' crowd and tried to use that argument on me. My parent's are gone now, in a better place, and I no longer have to please anyone but myself and my potential partner. Isn't it time I looked for who *I* wanted to spend my years with?

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  11.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 29 May 07

    What country was that helen38? If you don't mind me asking

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  12.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 28 May 07

    Don't worry about what someone else thinks. We all have the same chances of being successful as anyone else. You will get out of it what you put into it. You have to work at any relationship, and bi-racial relationships are no different.

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  13.   Jungle says:
    Posted: 24 May 07

    As much as Interracial relations have come there are still areas more conservative in traditional relationships.Helen very true what you said.People who haven't experienced interracail relationships see the couple as different and at times exotic rebelious Yes I had every harsh comments said to me.Being called all kinds of names by people who don't understand. I'm on this site because of how I feel and believe.I also believe that if a couple has strong feelings for one another I don't think there is to much that can stop them from being together.

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  14.   helen38 says:
    Posted: 23 May 07

    Sadly people are still shocked by interracial dating. I have been harassed, threatened, had hurtful things said at me, not seen , gotten dirty looks, experienced jealousy....what does he see in her, he must be lost, your very lucky.... I didn't care but it was hard to be in public with my husband. We lived in bubble where we saw each other as people people on the other hand could only see race. Sometimes people congratulated us like we were doing something brave, or the other extreme where people were very interesed in us as a couple. It baffled my German husband but I got the brunt of the negativity. But in the end I love who I want to love. HM

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  15.   misteeq says:
    Posted: 22 May 07

    My ex and I were from the same culture same education same race same job .Yet we spoke different language,could not undestand one an other.So excuse me but i could not care less the color of my next spouse.Green yellow pink ,fushia i dont care.

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  16.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 21 May 07

    Is anyone really shocked anymore by an interracial relationship?? Thought this was the 21st century..

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  17.   fala says:
    Posted: 20 May 07

    Viva los rebels!

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  18.   CleverChaos says:
    Posted: 18 May 07

    I agree, Fala. Do what your heart tells you, not what others' opinions tell you. You can't please everybody...why would you even care to? It's your life.

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  19.   RayneDelay says:
    Posted: 18 May 07

    Well, given the fact that interracial relationships are submitted to more stressful experiences, it would be understandable if it did not work out. Divorce is very high among the same race relationships.

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  20.   fala says:
    Posted: 18 May 07

    Do what makes you happy - forget about what others think. Your family doesn't have to live with this person, you do.

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