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How About You?

I speak fairly regularly about myself in this blog, whether it be my own dating experiences or those of my friends, family and clients. You know me pretty well if you're a regular reader of this blog, but other than those of you who share your stories through the dating blogor dating forums, I don't know you at all.

So today, I'd like to give you the floor. Who are you? Why do you visit the dating site? Are you in a relationship, dating, or want to be? Do you love to talk about dating and relationships as much as I do? Please share your answers at the bottom of this message. I'd also love it if you voted in my dating polls, specifically the one about what you'd like to see on this site.

How About You?originally appeared on About.com Datingon Wednesday, November 18th, 2009 at 15:06:13.

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Physical Attraction Makes Us Less Able To Make A Good Impression

According to the October 2009 edition of Psychology Today (Buy Direct), when we interact with someone we feel physical attraction to, we lose the capability to perform simple cognitive tasks. Worse still, the stronger the physical attraction, the worse things get.

Researchers at Radboud University in Holland discovered this behavioral hiccup - as many people who have suffered from a dating disasteralready know - by asking people to take a basic cognitive test after interacting with another person. The more physical attraction, the worse the men's performances, irregardless if the gent was in a relationship or not. Women also fared negligibly, although not nearly as badly as the men did.

Why the embarrassing behavior? When trying to attract someone, a lot of our focus ends up in trying to make a good impression. This leads to small but sometimes significant flub ups with motor control and how we hold ourselves physically, such as tripping when you see an attractive woman or being tongue tied when you run into a hot guy.

The take away? Don't beat yourself up too much if you are a klutz around someone you like, because it happens to most of us (but more so men than women). And for those attracted to men, if the man suddenly starts acting oddly or becomes more accident prone around you, its a good bet he's interested, suffering from this unfortunate situation, and trying his best to make a great first impression. Take it as a compliment, and try to cut him a bit of slack if you can.

_{Source: Huston, Matthew. "Tongue Tied."Psychology Today September/October 2009 Vol 42, No 5:17.}

Physical Attraction Makes Us Less Able To Make A Good Impressionoriginally appeared on About.com Datingon Friday, November 13th, 2009 at 13:11:03.

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Dating Question - When Will He Call For A Second Date?
A reader asks, "We had a great first date two weeks ago, but I haven't heard from him since about a second date. When will he call?"I've answered with a bit more breadth in When Will He Call For A Second Date, but basically I'll say that after two weeks if the guy hasn't even touched base with you its time to move on. I'll also recommend picking up a copy of Why Didn't He Call You Back by Rachel Greenwald (Buy Direct). In it, the author shares her findings regarding 1,000 men, and why they didn't call their dates back. I think almost every single woman will find herself in at least one of the categories listed, and it might provide you with some constructive feedback as to what to do in the future.

Dating Question - When Will He Call For A Second Date?originally appeared on About.com Datingon Sunday, November 8th, 2009 at 23:50:41.

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Dating Blog Carnival For November 6, 2009

Welcome to the November 6, 2009 edition of the dating blog carnival. There were more submissions than I knew what to do with - and with room for only a few, that posed a bit of a problem. Still, that means there's demand once again to get this carnival off the ground. So without further fanfare, here are my favorite picks this time around.

Danny Daganover at That Dannyshares an interesting dating advice piece called Dear Danny - What to do with an Internet Stalker?. One of his readers, a 27-year-old woman, asks Danny what to do about her ex who contacted her on Facebook. I was thrilled to see that Danny, like myself, doesn't see attempts at random chat on Facebook as stalking.

Tip Divasuggests in her article Top Ten Tips - Meeting Someone Offlinethat, among other things, singles should either Google their dateor hire a firm to perform a background check on them before meeting face to face. While I think that particular suggestion is terribly extreme (and don't recommend it), her other suggestions are simple but work.Ah,

Madeleine Begun Kaneis back again with her irreverent dating-related poetry. My Confessionis her contribution this week, which was originally posted at Mad Kane's Humor Blog.

Staying with the humor theme, P.L. Frederickshares You Know The Date's Over When... (Part 1)posted at Small and Big. A short, sweet and tongue in cheek list for those who need a giggle.

bookfundasshares a quick dating book review of Allan Pease's provocative Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps.

Rachel Sarah, aka Single Mom Seekingover at Singlemommyhood.comwants to know Why do single moms date married men? Its another provocative topic, and I've asked myself the same question a few times as well. Rachel has decided to review the reasons, and her readers go into great detail as to why they agree or disagree.

Shauna Heathman, an Image Consultant posting over at Mackenzie's Blogrounds out this week's top picks with You've Let Yourself Go ? A relationship guru offers insight. Focusing on why men (although the conversation works just as well for women) decide they no longer need to take care of themselves once they get comfy in a long term relationship.

That concludes this edition. To submit your blog article to the next edition of datingusing our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

Dating Blog Carnival For November 6, 2009originally appeared on About.com Datingon Friday, November 6th, 2009 at 00:00:34.

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Dating Blog Carnival Returns

Last year I used to host a dating and relationships blog carnival here, but because of lack suitable posts I had to discontinue the carnival. However several readers and a few colleagues have mentioned the carnival and how much they enjoyed reading it, so I've decided to revamp to see how it goes on a monthly schedule.

If you are interested in sharing a blog post that related to singles, dating and relationships with our readers, please read over the dating blog carnival guidelinesfor more information.

Dating Blog Carnival Returnsoriginally appeared on About.com Datingon Friday, October 30th, 2009 at 12:15:44.

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Planning For The Holidays

As a Canadian, I've already celebrated Thanksgiving this year, and am grateful that I avoided another Thanksgiving dating disaster. It is my firm belief that I was able to reduce holiday stresswith some careful planning and forethought.

So don't let the pressure of the holidays get to you! Start planning now, whether its to meet someone new during the holidays, celebrate being single, meeting the parents, planning a romantic dinneror trying to please both of your families.

Planning For The Holidaysoriginally appeared on About.com Datingon Sunday, October 25th, 2009 at 22:43:00.

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Down To Earth Becomes Stir.com

Only a few months after introducing their new, free dating site, Match.com's Down To Earthhas morphed into Stir.com, a portal for what's new and hot in the nightlife scene. According to their tagline: "People. Places. Parties. Stir is here to help you find the best of all of them."

Users who had previously registered with Down To Earth have automatically been moved to the new portal, although members who aren't interested in the lifestyle site can log in to either company and go to the account preferences page to have their account removed. However when I logged into Stir.com to see what the story was for myself, I was unable to locate this page. Users will however receive an email informing them of this change, and how to unsubscribe if need be.

Is it worth migrating to Stir.com, or keeping your profile active? In my opinion, it depends on what you're after in the dating world. If Stir.com becomes anything like long-standing nightlife portal ClubZone, you'll definitely meet new peoplethrough the service that have similar interests and tastes. But when I went to look and see who else in my area had signed up - or even what was going on this weekend - I was met with an error message that repeatedly stated, "Our site may be experiencing technical difficulties, or we may be working to improve this area of the site,"along with an ad to another singles dating site.

UPDATE: A kind gentleman from Match.com contacted me after I posted this blog entry, advising me that Stir.com "doesn't currently have any event data in Canada,"which would explain why I wasn't able to see much on the site (being a Canadian). The company however is looking into the errors to see if something else is amiss. If you've used Stir.com, feel free to post in the comments your experiences with the new service.

Down To Earth Becomes Stir.comoriginally appeared on About.com Datingon Saturday, October 24th, 2009 at 00:37:05.

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How Much Do Looks Matter?

A new, short lived series called Dating in the Dark(6 episodes in its first season, pending the ok for season number two) has gotten me thinking about attraction, chemistry, and how much looks really matter to singles and dating couples.

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