Are some black women more compatible with white men?
Warning: The question below may be offensive to some readers. This is not the objective. The question is in no way meant to defame or inflame any parties, groups or persons. It is simply meant to find out why people make the choices they make when it comes to interracial dating.
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Is it possible that some black women share certain qualities and interests with white men that black men simply lack?
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lagbaja61 says:Posted: 08 Jul 10Having dated many black ladies,I hear a common thread coming through. They date white men because almost all I have known were tired of the antics of their 'brothers' - by that I mean two timing, domestic violence, lies and deceit yet perversely, extreme jealousy. In fairness I am only going from what they said I have no first hand experience and these negative experiences I am sure could transcend most races. Certainly I am yet do date a black lady from a family where the parents still live together. Again I am sure there are many exceptions to this, I speak only of my experience. In conclusion the black ladies I have dated say they think white men are more considerate and caring, which to some like BlatinaLina may be considered as 'clingy and needy' (pass the hater spray) but to most sensible people such men would be correctly viewed as caring, loving, honest - basically just nice guys. The ladies can make their choice on whatever they want.
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cheney44 says:Posted: 08 Jul 10I am really diggin' everyone's comments with the exception of Mungu(or whatever his nickname was), He made a comment that basically we are dating white men for money? Does anyone have their hater spray available. Really? Come on, give us some credit. There are gold diggers out there, but all they see is green! Check your intel next time! Mantronix, english please! lol! It is brothas' like you that make other brothas' look bad, by your ridiculous, over the top, commentary. You are just doin' too much! My father was a strong blackman and he told me," whatever makes you happy, then I am happy". He made me a well rounded blackwoman. I was married to a blackman, it did not work out. Before him, I dated exclusively white men because they liked what they saw and went for it. I found that sexy, since brothas' just observed from a distance. Now that I am divorced, I am still attracted to my white brothas'. I still love my black brothas'(you and mangu? included), we can have a coke and a smile! Peace!
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BlatinaLina says:Posted: 18 Jun 10
and sometimes a bit too clingy and needy...?
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Lola says:Posted: 18 Jun 10
Sometimes I believe white men to be more sensitive. And I think we as women of whatever race tend to appreciate that in a man. I'm a black female and I love whoever loves me, no matter the color, but sometimes I feel white men are more sensitive, caring, in tune with their feelings and nurturing.
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Jopzo says:Posted: 17 Jun 10
Why does the racial question have to feature at all? Black/Brown/White/Yellow/pink/red/yellow(jaundiced) lol, all these colours are human beings, who eat, sleep, need to use toilet, need to breathe, and all bleed the same. There is no distinction between races. The distinction amongst humans is character...It is people of certain characters that compliment one another. If you start to bring in the racial dimension, you invite creating barriers which are pointless.
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BrownB09 says:Posted: 12 Jun 10I agree with perfectlyjo-I understand that people might make a conscious decision to only date within certain groups, but I can assure you that in most cases it is NOT innate. Biologically we are programmed to perpetuate the race…that is HUMAN RACE. There are certain physical & personality markers that women in general find endearing. There are also sociological markers that women in general find attractive and none of this is biologically based.
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LovMe4Me says:Posted: 11 Jun 10
Hello everyone. I'm African American Female. When growing up I always attracted White men. Now don't get me wrong I am attracted to all types of races, but it seems to me that African American men only say that I am attractive, pretty, and they only want to be friends, which most of us knows what that means. I have been single for a long time. I guess deep down I want a Black man to love me, because I have been told that is how it is suppose to be, but I have found that being with a White man they treat me more with respect and White men give me more attention and most of all they want to love me and want a serious relationship!! I just want to be happy!
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Sean says:Posted: 07 Jun 10
People who have expended the great moral and intellectual effort needed to understand the true nature of the world in which we live know that the Conspiratorial View of History is correct. That nothing on this good Earth happens by accident, especially in politics and high finance. Moreover, who understand that Hidden Hands are guiding mankind rapidly towards an apocalyptic time that is verily the Climax of the historical process as we know it. Furthermore, these Proper Students of History know that sinister hands are guiding the Ancient Evil Conspiracy for World Government, which is unfolding rapidly in the Arena of History, and which is easily observed by those with eyes to see … In this connection — and against the wishes of the vast majority of Westerners — a secret, high level policy of mass immigration of non-whites, adoption of foreign, non-white children, and increased miscegenation aimed at radically transforming the West has been pursued, and whose outrages and iniquities have been vigorously defended by professional “Race Relations” experts and “Race Industry” organizations whose disproportionate “power” within contemporary Western culture is not their own. The Shadow Government allows this “power,” for these vociferous advocates and defenders of Multiculturalism (as well as its ideological bodyguard, the Thought Tyranny called Political Correctness) comprise the legion of useful fools, infesting all fields of human endeavour, who are used by the Secret Rulers of this Earth on the long-travelled road towards global tyranny. The Multicultural scam becomes clearly visible to those with eyes to see when one ponders the injustice and absurdities inherent in official policy, especially that policy hidden from the purview of the masses, which not only encourages massive illegal immigration but also lavishly rewards those who break national laws and come to the West illegally. This overrunning of the West by NON-WHITE, non-Christian peoples, is primarily designed to create massive social tensions, using the old “divide and rule” principle, which will allow the Secret Masters of the Evil Agenda to bring about the final destruction of Western Christian Civilization and the enslavement of its indigenous peoples. Also permit me to state that it is only with intuitive insight that one can penetrate beyond the external form or substance of things, to reach their internal substance or reality. It is only with the inner light of the discerning heart that one can achieve confirmation that we now live in an Age of Extreme Evil which will culminate in the end of the historical process as we know it. Empirical and discursive knowledge and thought can only suggest, but cannot directly perceive, and hence penetrate, the true nature of the Age in which we now live. And one of the telltale signs of this Age of Evil is RACIAL AND ETHNIC ADULTERATION ON A MASSIVE SCALE, a pernicious plot especially directed at the indigenous Caucasian, and particularly “Nordid”, populations of the Western World. Why is Western Civilization the main, main target? For the reason that not only is it the cradle of the ancient Sinister Plot to Transform the World, but it is also its greatest impediment, or, more specifically, the spirituality that underpins Western Civilization, which is the Christ Impulse released from the Cross at Calvary commonly called Christianity. That is why the Secret Masters of the New Age One World Agenda – the Lords of Power – have worked tirelessly for centuries to subvert Christendom, and are now also working tirelessly to undermine the racial integrity of the Western Caucasian populations — whether the citizens have the clarity of vision to see it, or not. Oh, by the way, I'm of mixed northwest European, African and Indian descent, but am, nevertheless, opposed to racial intermixing, it destroys specific, God-ordained genotypes and phenotypes.
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perfectlyjo says:Posted: 06 Jun 10
Why must race be a factor in deciding who one dates? By the way Race is a social construct because there is no biological absolute. A deciding criteria for me is whether or not we share similar values, interest,and the like. I have raised my son to treat all people with respect and dignity. Also told him that the characteristics you desire in a person you must posses some of them as well. Overall it does not matter what color a person is if you can't get along with them. Please..let us move past our inherited context of thinking.
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homesteader says:Posted: 10 May 10
Generalizations are abundant / people date Individuals . Colors are used in Coloring books by children - Please try to stay within the lines , Hehe Enjoy who you desire / life will remain one for one if seriously looking for a Partner . We while on the streets / see many inter-racial couples daily . They all seem Happy in their choices .
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Bronze says:Posted: 09 May 10
Matronix appears to be a bitter black man who is seeking attention, LOL. Black men are regular men like everyone else. There is nothing special about you. The saying once you go black you never go back does not apply to EVERY woman or man. Please stop worshiping yourself and ONLY speak for yourself.
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Bronze says:Posted: 09 May 10
"we could turn this around and ask why do white women find black men attractive" -tracy23 If you wanted to do that, then start your own forum about it. This is about black women and white men, not the other way around, so please stop making this about you. On on to my opinion. I think there are some qualities and interests that some black women share with men who happen to be white. I have PLENTY of those. I grew up in a predominantly white environment, which explains a lot about me. It's all about who you attract.
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Member says:Posted: 06 May 10
At the risk of enlisting communal wrath, I could not resist the opportunity to pontificate myself on the stereotypical classification of the African-American male. As a member of the class and professional, I fully agree there are some who are anything but a credit to us and I might say, equally so for white males. I think each of us tend to few things based on the lens we may have cause to use at the time. Nevertheless, I respectfully submit, our choice of mate may have more to do with our socio-economic and cultural likes and dislikes more than a person’s ethnicity. Disparaging ones race may appear too others as a form of justification for your deviation, when as free consenting adults with the right-of-choice, such is not needed nor should it be offered. As long as we can trust, love, make each other happy, offer intellectually stimulating conversation, share spiritual beliefs and be united in our goals, who cares what color you are. The biggest problem finding such a person today that’s not hung-up on themselves.
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lovelybubbly says:Posted: 06 Apr 10
I'm amazed at how some people are unhappy in seeing interracial couples it is as if it has a personal effect on them. If you find true love and someone who is really into you, your very fortunate why should you not pursue it to please other people?
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Member says:Posted: 06 Apr 10
Being a highly educated blackwoman who grew up in a work environment where few black men worked(they were mostly married),I can related from my own experience that so many blackwomen find white men so appealing. Most black men i dated were either belwo my level educationally,never worked or the thuggish type. I remmeber getting in trouble when a friend of mine introduced me to this guy whom i found out was a former drug dealer! As a black woman who lived among the whites most of her life,I couldnt handle the risky lifestyle of black men. I am of the view that white men treat blackwomen nicely and appreciate them. i have dated so many white men till i found my white husband who treats me like a Queen.i am pregnant with his third child and i am extremely happy with my life.
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rhochi2 says:Posted: 26 Mar 10
I am so dishearted by the comment of most black women to the question. Being compatible with a white man. I wonder who owns this website. Yep your right a white man. I'm not sure but I leaning that way. It's not bad enough that the black has been beaten down and strip of all man rights by the white man now they all of a sudden what to talk to black women. Before they just took it. (read your history books) now they get with you with the nice house and nice car and etc that shows money. The real question is are you compatible with a white guy who is broke, with no education and trying to above the water line. This world is base on privilege, power is class. Of course the white man has most of the privilege, power and class because they have always been on top. So yes brother are behind, hell for a cause not of there own. I have to deal with the white man everyday. His privilege is that he don't have to deal with me. (privilege) So now black women what to continue to feed there (privilege) and be compatible. Wow. I swear where the only race that has every excuse to not date our race. Dumb qoutes like (love sees not color) or you stupid. Of course it does. I know every person has there right, but there is no why deep down in your heart, soul, mind and everything that makes you a fine black women will ever really,,really,,really give yourself totally over to the white man..I just can't believe that. And the same for you black men. It's betrayal. You know it, I know it. But will all dance around that word because it's true. BETRAYAL. Dam shame..dam shame.
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lovelybubbly says:Posted: 22 Mar 10
Color has nothing to do with compatibility and love, I'm a black woman who has always been aproached by men of all ethnicities I thought at first it was because I live in an affluent area and work and socialize in an enviroment where the majority of men are not black but even when I came in contact with some black males they didn't like me I was told "your classy but don't have enough soul" also said was "your beautiful and nice but I'm use to black women who are the tell it like it is type" so I don't have a dislike for black males. If you are progressive you will realize most people regardless of race have more in common than not, I'm in a serious relationship with a indian man who I met at work he's asked me to marry him and we are very happy.
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Member says:Posted: 20 Mar 10
Do you guys think that she would do well in this year ?
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JAKE says:Posted: 16 Mar 10
SOUNDS LIKE MANTRONIX IS OR HAS BEEN JILTED REAL BAD SOMEWHERE ALONG THE LINE, BUT AT THE SAME TIME HAS A HATRED TOWARDS WHITE FOLKS IN ORDER TO DEFEND .......THE COLOR........,I DON'T REALLY CARE, DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THAT BIGOTRY CRAP, I LOVE BEAUTIFUL, BLACK, INTELLIGENT, GOD FEARING WOMEN RATHER THATN AN ARROGANT,STUFFY,SELF DESERVING AND SERVING, FILTHY MOUTH WHITE WOMAN THAT FEELS THE WORLD SHOULD BE AT HER FEET, I DONT CARE HOW PRETTY SHE LOOKS, THE MOMENT THAT QUALLITY(IES) PUT'S IT'S HEAD(S) UP, I KICK'EM TO THE CURB.........OUTTA KNOW ....WAS MARRIED TO ONE FOR A LOT OF YEARS.....AND AFTER LOOKING AT NETSILIK'S PICTURE, THAT FACE HAS MORE HONESTY AND BEAUTY, THAN ANY PRETTY WHITE FEMALE I HAVE EVER KNOWN........NOT A PICK-UP NETSILIK!!!, JUST TELLING THE TRUTH THE REASON I AM ATTRACTED TO DARK/BLACK WOMEN.........
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Wonka says:Posted: 02 Mar 10
It's possible,I think when people share a certain commonality,it plays a huge part in whether someone is compatible for another person.I would definitely think that there are black woman who do share a cert ain commonality with a white man and vice versa.How ever(as the old question goes),why does it have to be black and white?!!,why can't it be blue and gray red and green,orange and purple?!!Huh?,LoL!!!!.You get the point!.
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Edward, says:Posted: 02 Mar 10
I always got along better with black woman than white ones, seems like thier really interested in what your talkingn about and not just faking it or the yea, yea, yea thing and then see ya later when they really dont care never had a white wife or never in love with a white girl, they all make dumb comments and act totally insecure, or really dont give a darn about anything, I got fed up with it and not im 49 and STILL NOTHING AS FAR AS ROMANCE AND REAL COMMTMENT FROMA,white woman, shooti dont know it seems like black ladys were always soo much more contented to just talk and get to know the person and made me feel so much more at ease as I knew they really cared, whereas with a white girl you never know whats going on and theres no peace in anything, they just rattle from one thing to another, Not judging no one but what I see is what i see and i see alot more compassion from talkinmg to a black lady than I ever got with my own culture white, really sad, It s whats in your heart like God says and not skin color or race, its whats in your heart that counts not what people think or say or do, ifyour happy with each other and you can talk to each other and theres agreement then there it is, no big thing, maybe its just me but all i see is these woman trying to be like men and in small towns its totally pathetic, i mean they act like they dont know anything and or even care about you or anything, like hayseed mentality, small tows are totally prejudiced and selfish, Im just tired of giving out and then not getting anything in return, I mean maybe its the thing about dating a going out with a white woman and then I cant trust them to act right with me or trust them much in what they say, all i want is to go over toa black lady ask her to talk and then get to be frinds with her and then maybe hit it off, is that too much to ask?????? I sewe things in white teenagers that i dont like like no respect to their elders, or acting off , or the thing that they just dont care, and arew snotty to you,Id really like to talk to and get to know some black woman as i liok e them alot and i was gonna go to this black church and they were on fire for God and its totally cool, really neat, please ,,, if youd like to talk and be friends then get back to me ok, feel alone and hard to trust caucasian people in small towns on thier wrong thinking,i think im crazy over black sexy woman and i just go gaga over them, God willing a lady would get back to me on thi stuff ok, hope too hear from you my black princess, K,C,
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BrownB09 says:Posted: 25 Feb 10
Ive dated black, white, asian, arabic....after things didnt work out it all came down to them being MEN and our being human of course. I get so sick of people catergorizing someone's morale , their behavior, qualities etc.... because of their skin color. Whatever your experiences may have been with MEN who happened to be black, there is no way someone can account such a firm belief of them all. Seems pretty small minded and predjudiced to me.
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coffeebean says:Posted: 24 Feb 10
I prefer white educated men with good moral character. I've tried dating black men and it just didn't work out. For some reason white men were always attracted to me. I love Bob Dylan, Aerosmith, etc. The white men that I dated didn't mind my dark skin color or kinky hair. I've been married to a white European man for twenty-five years and he treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king.
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netsilik says:Posted: 10 Dec 09
Why does everything have to be black and white. I happen to like other minority men for example I like arabic and indian men over a white man even more.
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netsilik says:Posted: 10 Dec 09
Yes Yes and Yes. I happen to be one of those women and proud of it. Since I can rememeber I have been attracted to men of other nationalities. I have zero things in common with a black man, besides skin color. Whats important to me is commonality and being able to relate to the person your with. Black men have too many negativites for me to mention, and I'll keep it at that.
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homesteader says:Posted: 08 Dec 09
People are all individuals / each with their own thoughts as far as what makes them Happy . My Wife and I , who came together because of meeting online at this site in 2006 . We remain just a Woman and a Man in Love . Life is to Enjoy . Turn the light out we are under the covers to keep warm and neither can see in the Darkness of Night . Love at the end of the year is totally no different than Love at the Beginning of the year . People are all the same / only those that choose to see difference will .
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faith1965 says:Posted: 06 Dec 09I am black woman, and I once dated a white man who always said black women/white men belonged together and white women/black men belonged together. He would make comments that it didn’t bother him to see black men/white women together because white women are nuts and any black man who wanted them could have them. However, he felt that black men resented black women/white men relationships and wanted both black and white women for themselves. I took that as a learning experience, and whenever I hear a man say he only dates a certain race, is more comfortable with this race, only dates outside of his race or this race of people are more this, that or the other…it raises a red flag for me. I know we all belong to the human race, and some say love is color blind and boils down to preferences. You can find short, tall, thin, fat etc . in all races although some may be genetically predisposed more than others to a certain build. You can find lying, cheating, dishonest, manipulative, mean spirited, bitter people in all races. With the advent of hair dye, colored contact lenses, hair weave, rogaine, botox, plastic surgery, liposuction, breast implants, breast reductions…you can just about duplicate any image the media portrays as beauty except skin color. Yet, tanning beds and bleaching creams have worked wonders there as well. So, the preference comes down to what…race/ethnicity?? And exactly what makes one race/ethnicity more attractive than another? Could it be stereotypes and individuals you come in contact with living up to said stereotypes? Getting back to the original topic, no, I don’t believe some black women are more compatible to white men. In my opinion it will always boil down to individual character, values and perceptions and we have so many influences consciously and subsconciously that it is so very easy to get “caught up.”
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mimi000 says:Posted: 04 Oct 09
i just happen to have much more in common with white men, i grew up in a mixed neighbourhood and school and it's just attraction i guess... can't help who you fall for hey :D lol
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AngelWhisper says:Posted: 01 Oct 09
I am a 26 year-old Black woman and i have dated black, white, etc. It was never the color of a man's skin that I desired but something in his eyes, his smile, or just the way he carried himself. God created us all special and for a purpose so to say that one race lacks what another has is saying that God was bias when he made us all. Yes, in the world we live in we all have desires, but remember every man and woman has something special to contribute to life. When I date someone the first thing i look for is does he know and love God because ladies no matter what color he is if he don't know God your common interests and his skin color will not be enough to support you and help you grow spiritually.
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lee says:Posted: 12 Sep 09
For me I have found out I am more comfortable with black women and I know this is going to sound like I am generalizing here but I find black women to be more outspoken and more direct and I really appreciate that. I laugh because I have a friend of mine who is married (not but plutonic because I really her and appreciate her friendship) in which she tells me she is rather shy but when we get togethe I've had people tell me that they know who calls the shots but it's not that I'm not a submissive white man it's just we gell. For me personally I love dating black women and look forward to meeting the one. I love to spoil a woman any woman and I have found black women as a whole are more appreciative of that and all in all I feel more comfortable around black women and I hate using the word BLACK!
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georgeW1001 says:Posted: 02 Sep 09
Look at it this way,,,opposites do attract but not always. Where some may find that they have absolutely nothing in common with another human being, they might bond or get to know each other a little better-- all to find out they have more in common that anyone else they ever met. Or never judge a book by its cover or make any assumptions whether you find compatibility in a loved one within your race or in a different race.
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homesteader says:Posted: 02 Sep 09
@ NOPLAYER - Thank you , and You bring some important topics to light in your comments on Blogs / Personal opinions are formed in each persons daily journeys through life . Different , yet similiar as to how they have formed a Happy Existance . I have plenty of time to discuss the otherside , me being classified as White and you with a Black classification . Yet I think our thoughts are similiar in nature . Peaceful , so to say . We shall remain just People . I learn daily from your comments / What I have never seen in my own life . On a joking note ; I wood say the Dark side of life and I realize the injustices one man can place upon another due to Ignorance . Enjoy , as those that hate everyone cannot possibly be Happy within themselves .
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NOPLAYER says:Posted: 01 Sep 09
@ homesteader - No Sir ! We meet face to face here in Nuremberg, Gemany!
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shotgun007 says:Posted: 01 Sep 09
Quoting...from Enigma64****** _____________________________________________********" It’s a funny thing, but I have noticed as I have read through this post and comments, as well as several others, that the common theme I keep hearing is that regardless of what nationality a man comes from, he seems to treat females outside his nationality with more respect than those in his cultural group. I wonder why that is, but it seems to me that a woman from another culture or nationality is more prized by men, than those of his own race"***************** ______________________________ My thoughts...you're 100% on target!!
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homesteader says:Posted: 01 Sep 09
Noplayer ; only one question / Did you meet your wife with the Assistance of this site as I met mine ?
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homesteader says:Posted: 01 Sep 09
And at this site, designed for Love . Many still classify everyone with Constant " Stereotyping " in their comments . Somethings will never Change / Look at yourself before you judge others . A woman will always be a woman and a man shall always be a man . My God people , We are all born different . Being " Others " by years of Heritage by Diversity of Lifes Journeys . It is a Small World after all .
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homesteader says:Posted: 01 Sep 09
Noplayer ; You and I are similiar in that we each are married at this Date Ting site . " People are Strange " was a song years ago that I remember . The color of ones skin has totally Nothing to do with Compatability . Class now we need to open our desks and get out our Crayola crayons and Coloring books / It may be time to Grow with years of schooling into Individuals with a Common goal in Life . The Attitudes each Display use Sing their mental capacities / knowledge of life is how Relationships are formed and will grow . My understanding about Life is that we each shall pass in Gods own time . There are no other Guarantees . " Trust , Honesty and Respect " are that which carry individuals to come together in a Mutual bond of Love . Bottomline being that I can only speak for Myself .
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Enigma64 says:Posted: 01 Sep 09@NOPLAYER - Well, I tossed that idea out there to see what the responses might be, and yours sounds pretty logical and makes good sense. Peace and blessings.
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NOPLAYER says:Posted: 31 Aug 09
@ Enigma64 - IMO, I wouldn't say that men treat women from other ethnic groups with more respect or women are more appreciative of men outside of their ethnic group. I think when a man or woman dates someone from a different ethnic group, they may experience for the first time, what it's like to have someone that puts forth the effort to try and understand them as an individual and not just a member of an ethnic group. Often times people assume they really understand you because they're from the same ethnic group as you. They may think you're a certain way because the men or the women they know are a certain way and sometimes they fail to understand and get to know you as a person. Often times they've formed an opinion of you based on their opinions of the men or women they know with in the ethnic group that you both belong to. I don't think people from the same ethnic group do this to eachother on purpose, I think it's accidental. The man or woman from a different ethnic group seems to try to understand you better because, in truth they may not know many people up close and personal from your ethnic group. You can't help but appreciate when someone's trying to get to know and understand you and not base their understanding on anything other than what they've observe from you. I think it's only natural that you reward their efforts with respect and an outward display of affection. JMO Peace!
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Enigma64 says:Posted: 30 Aug 09
I related the most with the comments from these ladies: salaeyes2, vm, chmpgne, Mahogoney09, YngCaramelQT. I am a military brat myself, and coming from that background (air force), we did not encounter a lot of blacks while living on the air force bases. I said something about this at a previous job, and a lot of black folks got up in arms about it, claiming there were a lot of blacks in the army, but we weren't in the army. I don't know if the ratio has changed now, but at the time my dad was in the military, there weren't all that many blacks around, so I grew up around white people, and never had any issues with dating white men, because I related with them a lot. It really isn't so much an issue of them being white, because I have dated men from a variety of races and cultures, including black men. However, thus far, I have found that the culture I relate to best, and the men who treat me with the most respect happen to be white males. Like a few of the ladies I mentioned above said, I was also labeled as "too white" by blacks, particularly when I moved to Florida. Some black females even went as far as to directly tell me that they didn't like me because my hair was too long and too straight, my nose was too small and straight, and my lips were too small, and I spoke too proper. I was called the "white queen," and the "white princess," and comparisons were made in the way I dressed, in which I was told that even that was too "white." It was ridiculous. I have never denied being black, but I also have never denied the other six nationalities in my bloodline either. It's a funny thing, but I have noticed as I have read through this post and comments, as well as several others, that the common theme I keep hearing is that regardless of what nationality a man comes from, he seems to treat females outside his nationality with more respect than those in his cultural group. I wonder why that is, but it seems to me that a woman from another culture or nationality is more prized by men, than those of his own race. Perhaps it is the fact that they are an exotic to that man may be the reason why, as if they prize having something different or outside the norm. I don't know, I'm just guessing, but I noticed that both black men that prefer women other than black women, and white men who prefer women other than white women, have similar comments and seem more eager to be with, please and/or keep a woman of a different race. And those women seem to appreciate those men more. Just an observation. As for me, it's not a race thing. It's a compatibility thing, and boils down to who I relate to the most. Sometimes it's Hispanic men, and sometimes it's white men. On rare occasions, it's black men. It just depends on the well roundedness of the man, his personality, how he treats me, and most importantly, his spirituality. Peace and blessings.
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WHURR says:Posted: 24 Jul 09Some great posts... dude named 'blacklicker' just made me tell my daughter that she can't go outside until she is 25 dude named 'tiny' has taught me that me and my white friends are due to cut up the family real soon... so when we have our first date... don't eat the stew and then there is my favorite ... the plethora of diatribes... excuse me...that was way too intellectual for the character I portray on here... ....DAYUMMM u people type a lot and I aint readin' all that stuff That was better!
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divastyle_forever says:Posted: 23 Jul 09
Well, I have read some rather intriguing comments. I don't think no one color group is compatible with another. It is all about your similiar interests regardless of race. Let us all agreed to date whomever we want and be happy.
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studman says:Posted: 21 Jul 09
I think that many black women who are in the professional and corporate world see a lack of black men in these type of environments, so the availability of more white men is one factor why many black women choose to date white men. Another reason why so many black women choose to date outside of their race is because so many black men are dating outside of their race. So if so many black men are dating non-black women that doesn't leave many available black men at all. As a black man I find that I have more in common with white women than I do black women. I think it is due to my tastes in reading books, computers, and other hobbies that I haven't found very many black women who also share those things. You can also arugue that the same reasons that black women choose white men so are many black men choosing white women as well. White women treat me a lot better than many black women have treated me although it may be just those specific black women and not all black women. I'm am not racist or prejudiced against black women at all I just have my racial preference. Their may be other reasons why I believe white men like to spoil and pamper black women because most black women think many black men are tightwads with their money when it comes to spending it on them but the ironic thing is that many black men will not be tightwads when it comes to spending money on the white women. As far as sex goes and I have had very intimate encounters with both black and white I feel that sexual expressions or wanting to try more new and different things was more with the white women than with the black women I used to date. I'm pretty sure that there are lots of reasons why black women choose to date white men but I don't hate on any black woman who chooses to date non-black men because I am myself choose to date non-black woman so who I am to judge and hate on black women for that? The bottom line is capability with each other and sometimes people find more of that by dating outside of their race.
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LunaSkys says:Posted: 06 Jul 09
Hello everyone. I must say, that after reading the question and the first blog! I am now hooked! I will not tell you my age, but, I am old enough to comment on the question. I have dated (thus far!), Black men, Latin men, Chinese men, Italian men and White men. And.... I'm attracted to all colors! I am a mixed woman, but I have always considered myself as a Black woman. My mother is Black and my father was White(Irish to be exact, R.I.P. Daddy),and I grew up in the hood. So at that time, I was only dating Black men, and sometimes I used to think that my reasons for dating Black men only was because of my neighborhood surroundings. BUT! that was not the case. It was because I had a huge amount of negative people around me. So, I did a little soul searching. Just to make sure that my reasoning for dating Black men only was truly what I wanted for me. And now, I can say that, I have flew over the rainbow. It wasn't what I wanted! What I was looking for was something simple. But, VERY hard to get. Love, honesty, commitment, communication. Four key ingredients. Now! I think It's safe to say that, most agree with me on that. But, we all know that sometimes those ingredients are not always everlasting. It can also leave a bad taste in your mouth in which I like to call that "Life's Experience". Now you can find those ingredients in any...and I mean ANY MAN OF EVERY COLOR. So, to answer that question........ It's not about what Black men is lacking. Black men are fully capable of meeting any woman's requirements. And as far as sharing certain qualities and interests with a White man that Black men Lack! Ummm.. Ria! I think you might want to think about re-directing that question to the public, just a little bit more differently. Black or White, Black women, or for that! Any woman of any color knows what she needs and what she is searching for. And if those key ingredients are in that one man!!! Then she will treat him like a King as he deserves. They will share the same qualities and interests as two hearts as one should.
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tiny says:Posted: 23 Jun 09
they most murders in the united states are due to white men killing their families and kids. white men are so abusive and controlling who the hecks wants that. you black woman are crazy..
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bajan_lady says:Posted: 22 Jun 09
i love black men and would never lower myself, to be a slave for a white man. You black men look stupid with a white woman. i'm sista souljah all the way. it's not that i don't have what it takes, i'm approached all day long by white men. I believe that white men can't do anything for me. I hate the fact that a white woman, would be with a black guy because he's educated. that's so sad . open up your eyes it's not about love, it's about the money and the stability oh yeah and the dick!! point blank. people just need to keep it real. listen you all talk about love, i think it's the money that you love what if the white man goes bankrupt what will you do then? because you'll be so busy falling in love with the gifts.. i personally don't mean to offend anyone, but that's the way how i feel.
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brownliu says:Posted: 21 Jun 09Oh Manronix, whats wrong honey? its ok you just take your time and simply say it.don't panick it's not a test.
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BlackLadsteak says:Posted: 19 Jun 09
Oh,and I'll be 56 July 6,and am said to look between 15 and 20 years younger than my age.
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